Have you ever had to cut of a friendship for fear of temptation
By limosonia1
@limosonia1 (1559)
United States
April 1, 2007 10:13pm CST
I was just wondering how many people in a realtionship would cut off a friendship because they saw it developing into something tempting. My girlfriend who is happily married met a guy they got to talking and became close..They were emailing each other back and forth and iming nothing more no meetings or going out nothing like that. But they really clicked. She realized according to her that she started feeling more than just friendship and so did he so she decided to cut it off. I commend her for her actions. Since she doesn't want to lose her husband. I just wondered how many people out there would just continued? She felt like she would have been cheating if she continued. I think she is right since they both knew that there feelings were changing? She is hurt and heart broken right now over it and I am not sure what to say to her other than she did the right thing. Any other words of encouragement out there. Curious to see what everybodys view is.
3 responses
@msbyte (219)
• United States
2 Apr 07
She was smart. I have done it many times, and have stopped developing relationships with men that are not friends of my husbands as well. I also don't go out with men and do things, or hang out. That is why I have a husband. He is my best friend, and if I want to hang out with a guy, he needs to be the one. My job is to hang out with women and develop relationships with them. To help other women do better in their home and to help younger women learn the joy of promoting their own marriage. Just the fact that she is hurting over the loss of this relationship proves that she went to far.
I have SO been there, and it tore me in two. It is a betrayal to the trust of your husband to allow a relationship like this to develop. An older women friend of mine warned me when I was in the midst of developing a relationship like this and I am SO glad that I got out before it progressed any further than it did.
These types of relationships are very dangerous, tell her yes, yes, yes, and emphatically yes that she has done the right thing. Never look back. Tell her to love and develop the relationship she has with her husband and she will never regret it.
I have been with mine for 17 years.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I know she loves her husband. I guess I don't understand how it happens. If you are in love with your husband is it just lust with the other person. I am glad she has broken it off. I tend to stay far away from other men and only speak to them at work or with my husband around. Not for any fears just because I feel it is the right thing to do. I am glad that you put your commitment to your marriage before anything else and you have a truly good friend that helped you out. I wish my friend would have came to me before hand but I am glad she was strong enough to end it before anything bad happened.
@lisansan (6)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
I commend her for doing the right thing. I would do the same if it happens to me. Since they're really close, I'm sure the guy understands her reasons for breaking the friendship. Why is she heartbroken? Does she love the guy more than her husband? If she does, then that's another problem. And if there are children, then it compounds her problem even more. She has to be honest with herself, weigh everything very carefully. I'm sure she has done all of these since she has already decided to stop the friendship. She's a good woman.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
2 Apr 07
The guy was really respectful of her decision. Which I guess is what hurt her the most because she saw all the good things in him. She was starting to fall in love with him and realized it. Loving her husband though she knew she had to end it. Yes they do have children. I guess maybe you can love more than one person but it's how you handle it.
@bettyrose20 (997)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
That was brave of her to accept the feelings she is feeling right now and to cut it off before its too late. well, not all people could do that, turning back on forbidden love and never to look back. She is strong and definitely with will of power to do that.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
2 Apr 07
She is a very strong person and I think the love she has for her family gave her even more strength.
