Do you get dissapointed when you don't receive the responses that you expect?

@catcai (1056)
Philippines
April 1, 2007 10:34pm CST
MOst of the users here on mylot post on mylot because they have specific inquiries about stuffs that concern them, or they are just on the look out for other suggestions to the topics they raised. Have you experienced an instance wherein you were asking something like "how to bake a carrot cake" and your respondents give you responses like - "is it really a carrot cake?" "thats my most favorite cake" or they give you recipes and instructions for cooking CArrot soup instead.? What do you usually do when you encounter responses that are far off from your inquiry? why does this happen? are my questions not clear enough? Sometimes, it does annoy me- but i really can't do anything about it because its the responders answer- but it really does frustrate me specially when you're really in need of a serious answer... *sigh*
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
2 Apr 07
Why are you so serious in the simple issue? You have to consider the every possibility when you are working on to a globle platform. You have to thank the people who atleast care to respond you with whatever possible words and thoughts with them. You can't expect the diamonds in a coal mine for all the time and whenever you find a diamond while digging the coal just mark it as a best responding user. Consider all possibilities for every isssue in life that's a practical approach. All the best from oarnamav. (don't rate me negative, I just said it friendly)
@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
Don't worry I dont rate negative to comments that disagree with me. I guess im serious because there are times that i do start a serious discussion, usually personal discussion just seeking for advices. Yes i know i should be thankful because they even bothered to respond even if they just said "i dont know and I DONT CARE" well, whatever, who am I to judge anyway. I'm just also expressing my opinion with this discussion, and it is in my opinion that i get frustrated with responses that are like that. If your not, then good for you. =)
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I think it is because some of the reponses are from people that don't really read the discussion they are to busy jumping from one to the other in order to make money. I haven't really had it that much..I usually get the one word answers to my discussions which annoys me.
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@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
yeah, i get some of that too... i really dont know whether the mylot admins does something about those one liners... thanks for sharing! =)
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• India
2 Apr 07
This is not the matter of disappointment. Every member here are free to comment or not, it is as per their choice. However, we should send request every day through e-mail to our all friends about our new topic. This attracts the attention of our friends. Sooner or later they visit our topic and we get responses. Need not to worry how much we get comments. Reason may be a subject of less interest ?
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
I guess that just sums up all the rest, that most of those who respond to some of our discussions are either not reading the whole topic or simply just cannot understand plain english!;)LoL We just have to simply ignore them, as this happens to me also every once in a while. You can always put a comment under their response, if you think they did not made a clear response to your queries. By that, you wait and hope that they do make some clarrifications on their posts!;) It's more better if you're the one's that understand them, and not the other way around. Don't you think so?;)
• India
2 Apr 07
I have seen many people responding to some topics is a non responsible manner.They don't think that it is beneficial both he and me.It happened to me yesterday when I asked a question about the favourite ink colour they uses A person answered me like dont bumb my mind asking these foolish questions.Still I don't know why he responded like that.I am little bit frustratd by hisesponse.May be the state of mind of that person might be irritated with something related to colours or ink or pen .I don't know.I responds to discussions thinking that it may give some benefit to the other person and me myself.No discussions hurt me if it tells about anything related to me .But I feel happy if I get a same type of response that I meant in starting a new discussion.That seriousness should be their.Otherwise its okay.Some are aiming only to earn money through Mylot.But if they are more serious they would earn more money that is the fact.People should know about this .
• China
2 Apr 07
of course i will get dissapointed, i think whether my discussion is boring or no interesting. and then on the next discussion i will think about it . i will start an interesting and people like to response .
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@Stiletto (4579)
2 Apr 07
Well first of all I would like to think you're right when you say most users post because they have specific enquiries but more often it seems most users post just because it generates money! That's also the reason for people giving responses which aren't really relevant to the original topic. A lot of people are in such a hurry to make as many posts as possible that they don't really read what the questioner is asking. I read a post the other day which was a myLot user detailing how he makes money and honestly it made me tired just reading it! It was like a military operation - 3 windows open at the same time so he could respond to discussions at the same time as uploading photos etc. Madness! So if people are using myLot in that way the chances are they are not really paying attention to what people are saying. As to what I do when I get responses like that it really depends on what mood I'm in at the time. Mostly I ignore them or, if I think it's just a genuine misreading then I'll acknowledge their response politely but not spend much time on it. If I'm in a bad mood I may respond with a sarcastic comment but that doesn't happen often.
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@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Yes I do agree with you. Youre right we can't really control how others respond to our topics,sometimes, i believe i tend to do that- not read the entire topic and just answer the headliner question, but as i am answering i get to read the entire content of the discussion which is more than what the headline is asking for. I tend to re write my entire response which costs me more time. SO now im careful not to be too excited in responding... Thanks for your response, i appreciate it.
@sweetdesign (5142)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Or how about the responder that seems to be in another world and you can't understand a thing they are writing and it doesn't make since or have anything to do with the topic? I have gotten some of those. I hate that and also hate when I get no response at all to something I am serious about. I also don't know how some of these topics generate so many responses and mine I can't get hardly anyone to respond to.
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@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
YEah, i get those a LOT! i don't really know if they do that on purpose to annoy you or they just dont know how to say/write what they mean. I hope its the latter though... For what its worth, sweet, you are not alone =) thank you for responding!
• Slovak Republic
2 Apr 07
Sometimes, I get disappointed with the responses, but what can i do right? my lot says were free to respond so i think they are just commenting on it, though they can't share much. some are just spammers trying to make money. Well, their always around, so you might as well ignore them or do something about it.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
2 Apr 07
yaa, offcourse i ghet disappointed when I don't get answer. Most of the time i have seen that any discussion on IT jovb and technology have very less responses. Don't know why it is so. sometimes i get responses for others but not very upto the point.
@ellijah (244)
• Nigeria
3 Apr 07
i dont get dissapointed when i dont receive the responses that i expected.you know we all in mylot is just like a family .everybody have their own view about everything. i thing we are all in mylot to learn .so why expect some certain kind of respons when you post a topic you just post a topic and let the people answer .what u have to do is to take the good ones and leave the bad ones.what you feel is a wrong respons might be the right one in the sight of the person replying u. Dont get angry just laugh anything u receive any respons u thought is wrong.is one of those this in real life
• United States
3 Apr 07
YES. I hate when I think I have a topic WORTH discussing and NONE respond or very little. Than its like lame topics get tons of response why didnt mine? I could always repost I guess but by the time I realize its not a great discussion I dont feel like bringing it up again. Or odd responses. Once someone answered with a reply NOTHING to do with what I asked. I was like huh??
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• Singapore
2 Apr 07
Just shrug it off... sometimes, we just want to unwind and so we are that THAT serious. We might say things you consider silly and irrelevant to your question. :P But hey, I am sure someone will come along and give you the answer you want. Hopefully. ^^
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3 Apr 07
offcourse......... well sometimes i got reply but most of the time i was dispointed by the fact that no one posted anything but its part of the game . so no regrets and going forwarding leaving behind the previous things.
• India
2 Apr 07
Sometimes when I really need suggestions or help and I get vague answers or not any answer,I do feel disappointed.But It happens rarely.Most of the times I end up getting responses more then i need. Its not necessary that every times you get your responses.For that your questions should be discriptive enough and should be of people's interest.Only then people find it easy to response for the topic.
@austere (2812)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
not really, because though i have my own opinion about things, i believe that people are entitled to their opinion too. I know i would be happier to hear what i expect but of course i also set my mind, and think that though that's what i want to hear, i shouldnt expect it like that because people no two people think the same way. We are different people. We are unique for each other. And our difference doesnt mean one of us is better or we are wrong while the other person who thinks otherwise is right. We should learn to respect and understand differences, that is learn and understand opinon of other people.
@nagatraju (198)
• India
2 Apr 07
Yes, I am dissapointed two times for not getting responses for my posts. The two articles which I not get responses are the best ones than others, of my posts - this is the main point!!!?? Any way we must need to take this light and keep posting....
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@jlo228 (170)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
Nope, I just think that my discussion doesn't work.. it maybe nonsense.
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• India
2 Apr 07
yes ofcourse i get disappoint because i think whenever i expect some repsonse from someone it means i have done good enough to be treated as per i think. so when thing didn't go as per your thought i do get disappointed for sure
@maxmani (33)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yes you are right i get disappointed when i dont get responses that i expect especially my friends because i'm very sensitve and i expect a lot from my loved ones
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