Lets argue over names!
@silvermoonmyst (943)
United States
April 2, 2007 2:34am CST
My husband and I have found 2 names for our soon to be born son. And we both like both of them. Which is really good as the baby is expected to be here in a few weeks.
However we are running into a wall in one area. The placement of the names. He likes it Alexander Conner, and i like Conner Alexander. We both agree on what the child will be called we are calling him Conner. But he wants Alexander first.
My question is, how did you choose which way to position first and middle names? And is it worth the argument over how they are placed as we are calling him Conner no matter what?
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@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
2 Apr 07
If you are going to call him Conner no matter what, then why name make it easier on him and give him the first name as such.
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@feddef (43)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I like Alexander Conner, but only because my Dad's initials were A.C. which is the name he went by, that is "A C", as he hated his first name and did not want anyone to know what it was. As an adult your son will be known as Conner A._________, or as A. Conner ___________. Most find the A. Conner__________ cumbersome, and I have even heard some call it "stilted" meaning I suppose, "pretentious". On the other hand some might call it "cool " or sophisticated. It's a guessing game, but try to anticipate what you think your son would prefer. If I were your, son I would prefer Conner A.______.
Incidentally I do like both names however you put them together. But, I think I would prefer to be called Alexander or Alex or Zander to Con or Conner. The puns for the latter might become tiresome. "Oh, you're a "con". And where did you do your time?" or "Oh you "conner" you. You really are a con artist." Good luck!
@feddef (43)
• United States
2 Apr 07
One more thought. Often boys named Conrad or Conley get dubbed with the nickname "Connie" A big guy might handle that well, for example, Connie Mack. But some might think it a bit sissy. So, do you expect a big one, or one tending to be smaller. If the latter, he probably will not find the diminutive "Connie" to his liking. And no matter how comfortable he is with his name at home, once he hits First Grade, the other kids will be merciless.
@jchampany (1130)
• United States
10 Apr 07
It is definitely an argument for names isn't it? I like it both ways but never understood why people would call a child their middle name instead of their first. I think what you should do (this is a little sneaky though) is right after you have given birth and you are laying there holding your son, look at your husband with those tired and worn out eyes and say, "Can't it just be Conner Alexander, please!"? It will work. That's how I got my sons middle name. We couldn't agree on that at all. Then he felt so bad for me he just let me have my way with the middle name.
@trouble4u2avoid (2915)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I personally liked Conner Alexander better. But I can tell you first hand even if you decide to name your son Alexander Conner, that's what he will be known as in school.
I had a problem with this first hand with my son. I was tryly amazed at how many of his teachers refused to call him by his middle name even though they were completely aware of his/our preference. Their basic response is we aren't allowed to address out students by their nick names. It was unreal. My son's name was Carlos ANTHONY. I have never address him as Carlos. I absolutely loathe the name but I named him after his Dad so....anyways you might want to take that into consideration. It confused son when he first started school because the teacher kept calling him Carlos and he never responded.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
6 Apr 07
personally i think you should go with conner alexander if you are going to call him conner anyway. i had a friend who's name was celia nicole but she always went by nicole. she was forever having to explain that to teachers and such when they called her name for something or on other things. it might be confusing for him when he gets older and you are trying to teach him his full name and you're telling him alexander but you always call him conner.
@sunup13 (420)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
I like Conner Alexander, the sound of it flows together nicely. And especially if you are going to call him Conner it is better to have that as the first name. My grandmother called all her kids by their middle names and I always wondered why she didn't just place the name at the first instead. It seems like more of a hassle to me. If you went with Alexander Conner, I would imagine in school that teachers would start out calling him by that name because that's the way it would be on their lists. I bet that would get annoying always having to correct them through 13 grades. And anything government has to be signed with your given name and if your son is used to signing Conner on everything, that might mess things up a bit.
Hope that helps, congrats on the upcoming baby!
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@astromama (1221)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I'm joining the ranks and saying, yes... Conner Alexander does sound better. Better flow to it, I think. Plus, in school he will always have to correct people who have his name written down as Alexander if its the other way around.
