Should men open the doors for women?
By kynni204
@kynni204 (2031)
United States
April 2, 2007 8:53am CST
Do you menn still get a trill out of opening the door for your women? Have you ever. I personally find it fasinating and charming. Sometimes my husband gets mad when I jump in the car without waiting for him.I am in Michigan it gets cold out there sometimes. He is on this gentlemen kick now. He was back and forth with it sometimes if he is mad he will just jump in the car.What's up with that will the real men step up and flatter your women.
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35 responses
@jboyblinks (158)
• Nigeria
2 Apr 07
hello thanks for ur question it is very cool to open a door for ur wife .I always open door for my wife for my wife everytime will are going out and wen i opne the door she smile but i dnt knw y she always smile wen i do that...buti willsoon ask her y she smile wen i open the doorr for her and wen she give me soution i will get back to you....
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@xlyingxwhispersx (721)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Yeah I still love it when a man will open a door for me. I think its really romantic and sweet! Definitally flatters you!
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@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
3 Apr 07
It is nice on special occasions and makes me feel great but for everyday it is not practical. We are like you where we live in very cold weather, it would not be practical for him to come and open the door for me. He does open doors of stores and stuff for every lady and he tries to get the car door for our older relatives. Overall I guess I will keep him. LOL
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@Erinlpx (179)
• United States
2 Apr 07
Honestly, and I'm not meaning to be contraversial here, but I firmly believe that women's push for equality has seriously impacted the way that men are treated by women, at large.
My husband isn't so great with the door-opening thing and the like, but I understand and accept that. Before he met me, he had been alone for around six years, and we were long distance for our first year together, so he's very used to only having himself to worry about.
That said - he won't get himself a drink without asking if I'd like one, or something to eat etc, if he's going somewhere he will always ask if I need something, if I'm cold offer a blanket or sweatshirt etc. He shows his consideration in other ways, so the door thing doesn't bother me - unless I've got my hands full :)
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@kaye_rrs (36)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
Here in my country, men opening doors for women is a sign of being a gentleman, having respect and appreciation. I can't say that it is a must. Men can and cannot do that if they really don't want. But for me, it is a plus point for them. I feel that it is also a way of saying that I am a man, you are a woman thus, I respect your position. For those who are in a relationship like girlfriend-boyfriend, a guy opening doors for their girl simply means that "I am ready to serve you", "I appreciate you" and "I am protecting you." Added to this, in a girl's viewpoint, it is so sweet knowing that there is someone opening doors for you.
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@PunkyMcPunk (1477)
• Canada
3 Apr 07
I think that if a man opens a door for me, whether it is my boyfriend or a perfect stranger, it always makes me smile and I definitely always say thank you. I (as a side note) will always hold the dorr open for men, women, older folks, etc... if I happen to reach the door first. I was taught that this is polite and courteous.
A few other people that have already replied have mentioned that women fought so hard to gain equality with men. I think that by doing so we, as women, also lost a lot of these small little gestures that we took for granted. Men now don't know whether they should open the door for us because they might get chewed out by some female fundamentalist.
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@manzician (4727)
• India
3 Apr 07
Absolutley. I think men should open doors for women. Its a sign of a true gentlemen. We should not forget that men needs to be very very gentle with women.
@mrsturner (518)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
I love it when my husband opens doors for me. I like it when other men open doors for me. There are a lot of gentlemen out there and they should be congtatulated. My husband always opened the car door or the house door for me before we had kids. Now, we each have a baby in one arm and diaper bag, my purse, groceries etc. in the other so first come, first to open the door.:) When we get to go out on a date whe is still very much a gentleman.
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@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Whereas i find it incredibly sweet and charming for a man to hold a door or open a door for a woman, i don't expect it. i thin everyone should hold the door open for everyone else. It is just common courtesy. However, there is something incredibly sexy about a man who holds a door open for a woman.
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
3 Apr 07
it really doesn't matter to me if they do or not,but
if they see you with your hands full,it would be nice
if they did-i would do the same for them.
most guys in my area won't do it anymore-not even for elderly women.
@maucute (979)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
Wow, you're lucky your husband is still doing it.. :) I would really appreciate it if my man would do the same and when we usually ride a taxi he would open the door for me to get in.. :) It's actually sweet and would really show us that he's a gentleman.. Probably it's in the mood that's why he would be like that sometimes but don't worry with it, appreciate the things he have done for you because it shows that he loves and respects you..
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@dalifona (5)
• United States
2 Apr 07
I am happy to say that my mother in law did a great job with my hubby in that aspect. Soemtimes depending on parking spaces (the other car might be too close and it is hard to fit to open the door for me and let me enough room to get out) or weather conditions, we just skip it but most of the time he opens the door for me to get in and out of the car.
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@sirdunk2much (19)
• United States
5 Apr 07
wait for him. if he wants that for you take it and let him be the gentleman that he is boo.
@bdc254 (20)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I enjoy doing the little things for my baby. She is already spoiled so I just spoil her a little more. I was raised to treat women with respect and it should be common place for a man to be a gentleman in today's society, but unfortunately it is not. Yes ma'am it is a thrill to open the door and do all of those pampering activities for my wife.
@marytoad (53)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Well, I do think that it is nice of them to open the door for a woman. Remember when the women's lib thing was around & they were like "Well, we don't need a man opening doors for us! hmmmph!" lol!!
But I do think it's nice & I appreciate it. I always say "Thank you", too, though. I know there are alot of women who don't, & my husband will say "See that woman over there? When I held the door for her, she just walked through like I owed it to her!" Sometimes he will get aggravated enough to say, as they walk by..."I didn't owe that to you!" Oh, I hate it when he gets defensive like that - - just hope I'm no where around! lol
@desireeo (595)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
such chivalry only works with couples who are just starting to go out. most men use that tactic to impress the ladies. not many husbands would do that to their wives due to familiarity i think. i don't know. i hope men would never forget to be a gentleman whenever around a lady. it does feel good to be treated nicely by a man.
@brandonmagsino (639)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
but of course should men open the doors for women. men should treat women with respect. thats how gentlemen are supposed to be. not only is it a sign of respect but also a sign of courtesy. and besides, it is kinda cute though. hehe