would you go...?
By trinihd
@trinihd (996)
United States
April 2, 2007 1:08pm CST
If your "grandfather" who has never acknowledged your existence died, would you go to the funeral service? Would you stay around for the burial/cremation too? I am only going in deference to my mother and my father (whose father it is) and if they had said, "Don't go" you can be sure I would not be going. And it's not that I don't forgive him for being what he was and refusing to accept us in his family, it's just that I feel like "What is the point of going anyway?" He's dead, it's not like he's gonna know the difference, and his family probably already think little of us anyway, and I don't know half of them ... but I suppose it might be interesting to see how far back my family history can be traced, and in that respect, I am willing to go, in order not to burn those bridges should I need the help of those same people!!
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@erminiasanjose (1588)
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
I suggest that you go to pay your last respects to him even if it's true that he never acknowledged your existence. You are not the same with him. Whether people like it or not, you are relatives and he is your ancestor. His fault is not your fault. If other people who are not relatives go, the more you should go even your other relatives ignore you.
@trinihd (996)
• United States
3 Apr 07
Thanks for the reply and the suggestion. You're right. My sister who is going with me and I were having a discussion with our other siblings explaining the exact same thing to them. They, of course, refused to see it that way! But they're young still, maybe they will understand when they are a little more mature!
