So, is this 'tough love' or 'tough luck'?

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Or what? The story's pretty long, so you'll probably have to read it carefully to understand what's up with the love triangle and whats going on! Ok, so if you go through my profile, I started discussions earlier, asking for advices as to how to propose a girl i really liked at that time. But, now, that like has grown into love. It's been 6 long months since i fell for her, and have been trying since then. So, the story is, I somehow managed to propose her after around 3 months of friendship and casual talking. I knew that things were gonna turn out pretty bad, and so they have, because she rejected it, although she did in a way that would hurt the least, but it hurt nevertheless. Since then, I've only grown to love her more, and each time I think about it, i feel this painful feeling inside me that she'll never be mine. Now, we're really good friends, very good ones, FROM HER POINT OF VIEW. The situation is, that she has after being in 3 different affairs, 'truly fallen' for a friend of mine. The friend is also a very close one of mine. THis is what she says about him. She started out with liking him. ANd then after proposing him, she's fallen in love with him. The worst part of this thing is, that she's been already hurt 3 times in the past, and I feel that this time will be no different. Up until before friday, my friend says that he just 'liked' her, (which was after he had accepted her proposal). But, after friday (it was a party, a gettogether, where they both sat side by side in the bus, and hardly talked), he says that he's 'fallen in love' with her, and she's of the same opinion. She keeps telling me that she never felt this way before, and all. The thing is, she does not know how i feel about her, and that i've felt about her all this long. My feelings have continued to grow by the day! So, my question here is, does my friend TRULY LOVE her? I mean, you cant just fall in love with someone after sitting beside her for half an hour! I mean, uptil then, he just liked her, and now he's fallen in love with her. But i feel it's just a short time attraction! Is this true love? OR Is true love what i feel? Because, in my case, I dont have the heart to tell her that i love her, because this would only make things worse for her. My friend will feel guilty and kinda bad about loving someone i did! And things will be bad for her. I just want to see her smile, i always want to see her happy, even if this means letting go off her. I feel her everywhere, my nights are spent sleeplessly, thinking about her. She's invaded my dreams, am like, whenver i think about her, a strange and a wonderful feeling crosses me. I would be prepared to do anything for her happiness! IS THIS LOVE? OR IS LOVE WHAT MY FRIEND FEELS? What should i do? Tell her how i feel about her? Because doing so will make no difference! I mean, she never felt that way about me, or she would have realised by now..!! OR should i let things be this way, and wait for time to show what happens. The thought of never being her guy and man really hurts me. Yet, it makes me smile, and happy when i see her smiling face! Am really in a situation which i feel is different and desperate. Please HELP!