how possessive are you about your partner???

Right at this moment, I'm not possessive in the least. Want him? Come get him. I'll pack for him.

I would agree that at the beginning of most relationships that as the two partners grow closer, there are bound to be clashes and insecurities. But as time goes by, providing both partners openly discuss their insecurities, when they are exposed in this way, those securities can melt away like ice in the summer sun. With past relationships, I have been on both ends. I have felt insecure and possessive and it turned out she was seeing somebody else, so something in her behaviour may have been giving her away, unless she had the same reaction as I did in my next relationship... This was a relationship in which she was very possessive with me. Being a musician, I worked in night clubs and was getting the "third degree" every night when I got home from work. I felt suffocated and in the end decided I might as well do it if I was going to be accused and that's what I did. Now in my marriage, we have truth and although at times it has been a little embarrassing, we discuss our insecurities and they simply vanish and we both feel a sense of freedom in the relationship which we both feel is great. My philosophy is that if they are going to do it, they are going to do it - there is nothing you can do about that except leave and no point in leaving unless you absolutely know that they have played around. Best to know exactly what you are walking out on.

You know I dont have to be possessive ov my husband. That is 1 major positive thing I can say about him. No matter what he will not allow another women to hang on him or hit on him at all. He knows he is married and he takes his marriage vows very seriously. The problem I have is he can get possesive with me. It has to d owith the fact that his past girlfriends always cheatind on him or used him to get to his good looking friends. So he is a bit insecure. He is getting better at it tho, even tho it is taking 6yrs of marriage.