must a woman marry to a a man?
By elliete
@elliete (26)
China
April 3, 2007 8:13pm CST
i have graduated from college for almost a year.my family,friend,collegues,etc. are keeping advising me to have a boyfriend and then marry.they say the earlier you have a family the better,as growing old,it is becoming hard for they to have a good husband.because the good boys have already been chosen by others,and they won't wait for old lady.
yes,in chinese tradition,woman have to rely on a man.but now,women are independent and they can live on themselvies.so a man is not nessesary to a woman for living.so a man who supports your ideas and your career is becoming more and more nessesary.i am just waiting for the guy like that.unluckily, i havn't found one.
so give me a suggestion.what man should i look for,a rich man or a man supporting me?
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8 responses
@jenalyn (675)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Well you have to decide if you want to be happy, or just financially stable. I would pick someone that had both qualities. There is no reason to just accept someone for part of what you want. No need to hurry either. When ever you are ready to get married and start a family then you should be looking for the kind of man that will fit that profile. Until then you should have realtionships with the expectations of learning from them and hoping for the long term relationship. Even if you did find someone that interested you it doesn't mean that you have to do everything you can to make that person be who you want. Maybe you will have several relationships before you find the right one.
I think nothing comes if you set out to look for it. It is harder to see the person for who they are when you are looking so hard at them.
@jessie0413 (130)
• China
10 Apr 07
I am from China too,I have the same condition as you,I don't think a woman must marry to a man either.I think a woman can live well too left the man,so sometimes I think I will live myself other than I meet the one I love and love me.
@jessie0413 (130)
• China
10 Apr 07
I am from China too,I have the same condition as you,I don't think a woman must marry to a man either.I think a woman can live well too left the man,so sometimes I think I will live myself other than I meet the one I love and love me.
@yanstill (1490)
• China
6 Apr 07
as we grow older,this is a problem facing to us.we had to choose one man in our life.it is also a common question that who is the only one in my life.yes,marriage is not as simple as lover,we have to consider more,is that man suitable for the rest of our lives?did he have any bad qualities that i never found?so before marriage,i think we should know each other well,we go back to be lovers,and finally,to be a couple.i think it's a long time for us to find a proper man,but it worth to do that.
@earthul (61)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I think the man who you are looking for is a guy who can support you.I once had the same problem.But now,the problem is went off.I bear an idea in my mind.The idea is that I am supporsed to be myself.Try to be an independent girl,and to do what you want to do,you 'll find yourself a changed girl.
@GlitterExplosion (415)
• United States
4 Apr 07
You run your own life. Take your time, there's no rush to start dating or even to get married. When you are ready find someone that you like, and will treat you with respect. Do the same for him. Remember that relationships are based upon trust or that communcation is a valued thing.
@gadget_kat (412)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Find a man who you have a lot in common with, who has a wonderful sense of humor, will treat you like a lady, and is willing to jump in to change diapers when the babies start coming.
Most of all, a man who will support you no matter what you do in life.
Good Luck!
