when you won't forgive and forget

It isnt realy necessary to forgive and forget. the most important thing is to move and accept lifes challenges and learn from it. you dont need to suffer that long. dont be self- prissoned from the bad experience you had. Everybody will pass that stage and its up to you on how you carry the problem and resolve from it. we all have the right to be happy and not just be depressed for lifetime. set youtself free from that worry and bring with you the lesson from the experience you had...i believe that everything happens with a purpose and it would somehow turn you to a better person, not necessarily forgeting and forgiving. every worst experience we will have will always leave a scar that we can never erase , instead we need to accept it and move on...let time heal you, allow yourself to be happy...i know you can do it, just pray always and trust him. God Bless you...

I dont think that forgiving is necessary at all...and I'll never forgive certain ppl who have done serious wrong to me BUT that doesnt mean I havent moved forward in life....I think crdizon your best bet is to FORGET the forgiving...and concentrate on the healing...IGNORE the thought of forgiving and concentrate on working through your feelings and going through the stages of healing THEN you can decide whether or not you really need to forgive them....but no you'll most likely never forget BUT that doesnt mean tht every time you think about it (later on once you've started healing from it) it will consume you... also....as far as you being guilty goes...if you are talking about whatever incident that hurt you, are you really guilty? did you actually do something to feel guilty about OR are you beating yourself up because "theres no abuse like self abuse and if they are goin ot abuse me then I must deserve it".....

i won't forget and forgive when somebody has really done something c=bad to me. Or played with my emotion and all.There are sometimes that somebody only due to jealoyusy has done harm to me. I'll never forget and forgive those.

Sometimes the pain and the hatred can make you feel guilty and depressed. I don't know who you despise and hate or why, but you need to find that place in yourself that will allow you to let it go. "Live like you were dying" as they say. I found that as trite as its sounds my religion, Wicca, helped me with that. I learned to appreciate the things around me and be thankful for what I have, and let the pain and guilt go--I still have problems with it--many years of learn response from society. I go to therapy for it--it can help to talk to someone who does not know the people involved and can be an impartial voice to help you work out your feelings. I also found that prozac helped with the depression. Diverting yourself and covering it up will only make it worse. This is something in yourself that you need to take out and look at so that you can see it for what it really is and deal with it. You will never forget, but hopefully the pain will lessen and as my grandmother says one day you will wake up and you won't care anymore and your life will go on. This too shall pass. Get help of the professional kind, and good luck to you.