what is your decision under this condition?

China
April 4, 2007 12:06am CST
there is a good gob offersd to you that you long for for a long time,but you must go to another city to work which is very far from the city you and your boyfriend are living in now,are you going to accept the job? I feel so awkward that I have no idea.I do not want to seperate with him?I am afraid of living in a strange city lonely,I will miss him very much.so I do not know how to do.
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10 responses
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
if my only concern before making a decision would be my boyfriend and being separated with him... i would definitely talk to him about it first. if your boyfriend knows you well enough and that he knows how much you longed for this job to land on your lap... then he would understand if you would like to take this job. what are your priorities in life for the moment? maybe you should think about that too. if you don't take the job, would you ever regret it? would you ever wonder what would it be like? if you took the job and later you found out that you were better off without it, what's stopping you to quit that job? if you go to another city, will it pose some problems for you and your boyfriend? aside from the distance that is. won't there be other alternatives for you to meet often? whichever you decide to do, weigh things first. talk to the concerned people. decide only when you are convinced it's what you want and you can stick with your decision. goodluck! :) i'm in a similar situation also, and i'm thinking of working in another country. good thing my boyfriend is very supportive of me... he'll go wherever i go. :)
• China
4 Apr 07
I am so jealousy of you ,a good and lucky girl.I am just the opposite:i will go whereever he goes.maybe I am too dependent on him.
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
in my case, it works both ways. if there is an opportunity for me, he'll go wherever i go. i would do the same if there is an opportunity for him too. i'll go wherever he goes. :)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
thanks for the BR. :)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Will this job make your professional dreams come true? I mean is it your drem career? Then I would take the job. If you don't take the job you might regret it later.If it is just a job, not your dream job,i wouldn't take it. It isn't worth it to up root your life just to do a job.The work maybe good but you might be sad far away from your boyfriend.Follow your heart. Good Luck.
• China
5 Apr 07
thank you for your advice,i will act only after careful comsideration.
@pinokkio (352)
• Bahrain
4 Apr 07
Well, if American TV taught us anything, it's that long-distance relationships never work. However, before you make any of YOUR life decisions based on your boyfriend, put yourself in his shoes. Do you think if the job offer was for him, would he pack up and leave you? Sometimes girls are under the impression that their boyfriends will do everything for them. Needless to say, that only happens 1% of the time. Odds are, he will take that job. But I never met him so I can't tell for sure. And would I leave my boyfriend if I had a job offer? Well, I'm a guy, so... If I had a boyfriend, that would be a whole new problem!
• China
4 Apr 07
if he has the chance,I will encourage him to take that job and he will do.then I will leave with him to the same city.maybe now i make mysely his attachment.i must change this condition! thank you!
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
6 Apr 07
It is something that you need to think hard about before you act on it and talk to your boyfriend also about it before you make a choice. I am not sure if I would want to do this myself but that is what I think.
@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
5 Apr 07
oh friend,i see your situation,but i only can give you some advice.i think that you should ask yourself one question.the love,and the job,which is more important to you in your heart.the answer is different from everyone.then for you,which is?i know now it seems that ,these two are both important,but you should choose one and give up the other without any nostalgia.but in my opinion,if i were you,i would follow with my boyfiend to another city and find a new job.that is i would give up the good job now.but i believe,if i have good capability,i will get a new good one and develop more.alright?on the another hand,if you choose your job while be part from your boyfriend,i believe it is no good to your relationship and your love.you should consider it carefully,friend,i hope you will be happy with your friend and you job.
@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Are you engaged? How far is the city? Take into consideration the employment rate in your city. Can you get a job in your city? I personally would move even If I get lonely as one grows and matures by moving to other cities. As long as you have phones and airplanes you can visit each other frequently. This is a good time to review your relationship and find out where the relationship is going.
• China
4 Apr 07
I am not engaged,but I love him very much,I am afraid of the distance will make us become estranged,but I think you are right,we can communicate frequently by phone! thank you for your advice!
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
4 Apr 07
I'm married now and away from my home town . I made decision to move away from my city as I was getting chance to grow. You don't get opportunites many times in life. I think you should grab it and think for future and even you as earning partner will improve your living standard.
• China
4 Apr 07
when i am a student in school, i think i will accept the job, but when i really join in job, i changed more, erevyday my only hope is at night meet him and touch him,i do not want leave my boyfriend. so i will find a job in the same city. maybe so cause me a normal girl.....
• China
4 Apr 07
when i am a student in school, i think i will accept the job, but when i really join in job, i changed more, erevyday my only hope is at night meet him and touch him,i do not want leave my boyfriend. so i will find a job in the same city. maybe so cause me a normal girl.....
• China
4 Apr 07
when i am a student in school, i think i will accept the job, but when i really join in job, i changed more, erevyday my only hope is at night meet him and touch him,i do not want leave my boyfriend. so i will find a job in the same city. maybe so cause me a normal girl.....