My niece is eleven and still plays with dolls...? Any suggestions !!
By samrat16
@samrat16 (2442)
India
April 4, 2007 2:12am CST
My niece is eleven years old and still play with baby dolls! I dont think childern of her age group do it too but I think she is little too old to play with dolls whenever her friends come over she has to shove them in the closet and stuff because it is babyish. its a four-year-old thing, right?
i dont think she is normal and I am really worried!
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@omer_ahmed_tabarik (1057)
• Pakistan
4 Apr 07
Oh shish samrat. Come on. I still play card games with my friends including all those pokemon, digimon, yogi-oh things. I love them still even though I tried it all fell apart and I couldn't resist playing them over and over again. Don't mind but and don't let it that is this thing get to your head. Someday she'd become mature enough and realize that she's a grown up now and leave the dolls aside herself. There maybe things with which you still may play with amn't I right? Don't spit it out and keep that in your heart and leave this thing alone and aside. :)
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@mummyofthree (2715)
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4 Apr 07
Hello honey.
I think you are over reacting a little. Most girls of eleven are at that in between stage, wanting to be a teenager and a little girl.
Her behaviour is perfectly normal. If she were wanting to take the doll to school with her I would worry!
We are in such a hurry as a society for kids to grow up. She will soon pack the dolls away for good and then the troubles do start as she'll start wanting to go to parties and dates with boys!
But it is lovely to see that you take an interest in her wellfare.
@mummyofthree (2715)
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4 Apr 07
sorry had computer problems and appears to have posted this 3 times!
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@asish1672 (338)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Apr 07
Normally girls, now a days, has a fancy for Soft Toys......I have seen, even 16-17 yr olds, moving around with soft toys. So if she is doing it as a style statement, then it is fine. But if she is obsessed with it, then it is awkward, for sure. In that case you must make her understand that it is not desirable form a girl of her age and that if she still continues, you will inform her friends about it. Also you might try to divert her occupation to other activities like Music or Dance. If none of these works, just inform her friends about it. When they start pulling her leg, she might stop it fast. Because, children are likely to accept negetive criticism for someone from their age , rather than form her parents.
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@mummyofthree (2715)
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4 Apr 07
Sorry but that is an awful thing to suggest. For your own comfort you would subject the poor girl to years of bullying and torment by her peers? There is nothing wrong with it. She is eleven not fifteen!! Plenty of time to grow up yet.
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@JC1969 (1224)
• United States
4 Apr 07
mummyofthree is absolutely correct. What Asish1672 suggests would have a negative impact on this young girl's childhood. Kids can be cruel and grudgy, it could make her become the kid they all tease and make fun of. Sure, it might get her to stop playing with dolls, but it also may make her crawl up into an introverted shell and cause her to become depressed and isolated. Children identify more with their peers at this stage and to make them treat her negatively will cause her to withdraw socially.
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@subathra (3519)
• India
4 Apr 07
Dont worry she is very normal and she has the age to play with dolls.You know something i played with dolls and kitchen sets till class 9.Still i possess some dolls played in that age and show it to my friends visiting my home.But she should have concentration in other things too as the world is moving very fast these years not like in my childhood days.
Dont interrrupt her playing with dolls but encourage her to learn some outdoor games specially computer games.
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@blackkatdreamer (1461)
• Canada
4 Apr 07
Not neccessarily... lots of girls play with dolls as they are growing up because they are a security habit... best way to help her break it is get her interested in collecting dolls, porcelain, barbie, ashton drake dolls and there fore she has them but cannot play with them
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
What's wrong with that? I remeber I play barbie dolls upto 13 or 14!!!! I play them with my younger sister, but it wasn't something that I would share with my friends because they'act a little grown up. So she must be embarrass because her friends might make fun of her. But you shouldn't worry because she still has friends, she'll get tired of this stuff soon right before you notice. I am actually happy to see kids just wanting to be kids, if you'll look around today, these kids leave their childhood too soon, they want to grow up too fast.
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I was 12 when I stopped playing with dolls and to this day although I don't play with them, I collect them. A part of my childhood that I just refuse to give up. :) Kids should be allowed to be kids, since they only get one chance at being one. Eventually she'll get tired of shoving all of her dolls in the closet and stop playing with them, but for now she should be able to enjoy them as long as she wishes.
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@5000ml (1923)
• Belgium
4 Apr 07
I think it's lovely to hear about an 11 year old girl who at least still behaves like a child! These days kids are expected to act like miniature adults by the age of 11, so I find it incredibly healthy and normal that your niece still likes to play with dolls. I played with Barbie dolls until I was 13 and I turned out allright :)
Please try to respect your niece just a tiny bit more!
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@AngelNicki (412)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Kids lose interests in different things at different times. Many kids grow bored with dolls when they're little. But perhaps your niece is an extremely nurturing person who loves the idea of taking care of babies... or perhaps she is really into hair-styling and fashion and uses the dolls to pursue that interest... or perhaps she is just a little nervous and uses the dolle for comfort. It could be anything. It doesn't mean anything is WRONG with her. If anything, you should be proud to have a niece who is a unique individual! Please don't put her down about her dolls or tell her she has something "wrong" with her!
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@mummyofthree (2715)
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4 Apr 07
Hello honey.
I think you are over reacting a little. Most girls of eleven are at that in between stage, wanting to be a teenager and a little girl.
Her behaviour is perfectly normal. If she were wanting to take the doll to school with her I would worry!
We are in such a hurry as a society for kids to grow up. She will soon pack the dolls away for good and then the troubles do start as she'll start wanting to go to parties and dates with boys!
But it is lovely to see that you take an interest in her wellfare.
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@mummyofthree (2715)
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4 Apr 07
Hello honey.
I think you are over reacting a little. Most girls of eleven are at that in between stage, wanting to be a teenager and a little girl.
Her behaviour is perfectly normal. If she were wanting to take the doll to school with her I would worry!
We are in such a hurry as a society for kids to grow up. She will soon pack the dolls away for good and then the troubles do start as she'll start wanting to go to parties and dates with boys!
But it is lovely to see that you take an interest in her wellfare.
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@thanuarun (290)
• India
4 Apr 07
no need to worry i was also the same i too played with doll the sme age atlast my mother and brother took that doll put it in a river.. i dont know how much my mind distracted don't do that ..when ever i think about it again i feel bad about my mom and brother..surely she'll change that habbit,may be she's alone at home she may feels loney thats why...when she gets good friends she 'll drop the doll,now its became a fashion keeping a doll!!!
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@GlitterExplosion (415)
• United States
4 Apr 07
There's nothing wrong with a child her age playing with dolls. You have to remember that she's not even a preteen yet by most people's standards.
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@Withoutwings (6992)
• United States
4 Apr 07
There is nothing wrong with playing with dolls at that age. I still like dolls and I'm 27. It's very girly. She will quit when she is ready.
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@sylvia13 (1850)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
4 Apr 07
Don't be worried, just let the girl be. If she is already shoving the baby dolls, it is obvious that she doesn't feel too comfortable when her friends see her, so I would say she is soon going to get over the baby dolls herself. All kids are different and some like playing with dolls, while others don't. I was never interested in dolls much and neither is my daughter who is nearly 16. I rather have a book to read or a jig-saw puzzle, while my daughter rather draw and paint.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Kids grow out of things at different ages. My daughter is 10- no she doesn't play with dolls hasn't in years. She does occasionly play with Bratz dolls-- Alot of it is because she is an only child. She doesn't have siblings to play with. This is only on occasion.
I think your niece is fine- She will outgrow it soon.. Don't tell her there is something worng with her- You will give her low self -esteem.
@Rosepetal (352)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I wouldn't worry if I were you. She'll grow out of it before you know it. She could be doing much worse things. Be happy she's a good girl.
@kurtbiewald (2625)
• United States
4 Apr 07
if she enjoys that, get her some more dolls
maybe its nicer than real life or something
some women who are 70 still play with them, some of them dolls are worth like $45,000 too, I watch the roadshow
if she starts stickin needles in em, then maybe worry, unless she is studying acupuncture
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@Gumball (793)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I should add that even though I'm now 47, I still have all of my dolls from when I was little. Some are now valuable collector's items. I've also still got my Hot Wheels and Johnny Lightning cars from 1967 and over 100 feet of track for them. My daughter's now 7 and plays with both dolls and Hot Wheels cars. Someday soon I plan to give her the toys from my childhood.