I Am Hurting And I Am Sorry...I Don't Want To Have Enemies Here In Mylot
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
Philippines
April 4, 2007 7:43am CST
Hours ago, I received a message from a supposed friend. Excited, I prioritized it. Much to my surprise it contained something else. I was baffled, confused and wondered why.
I wanted it clarified. Maybe I did something wrong. What did I say? Whenever I make responses to a discussion, it takes me a long time. I make a lot of errors, mostly typographical ones. But there are times when I miss a word or two and sometimes it could run to a whole sentence. I know that if I miss a no or a not, the whole thought becomes the opposite of what I am trying to say. To all those whom I have wronged this way, I am sorry. I would like to let you all know that before posting responses, I read and reread before posting. I want to be able to check it alright or I might regret having done it. If ever there are those of you here who still get my replies not well corrected, I ask you to give me some allowances. It is most probably due to my failing eyesight. I am turning 54 on June 15, so it is not due to old age. I just happen to be suffering from this condition for many years now.
I wear eyeglasses and I take some vitamins. This has greatly helped my condition. Otherwise, I cannot tackle using the computer. I can't read whatever is in the screen without having reading eyeglasses on. So for all of you out there, please bear with me. Give me some allowances for my errors.
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@unusualsuspect (2602)
• United States
4 Apr 07
There's no need for you to apologize, or even explain. This is an international site, but a good proportion of the members don't use English as a first language. Anyone who criticizes you for not having perfect replies needs to wake up and be a bit more tolerant, and less rude. Keep in mind that "friend" is just a word used for convenience here. People don't really know you and you don't know them, so if they want to act like jerks, just ignore them. If they're jerks on your friends list, delete them. You don't have to put up with them.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
I think so, too. In fact, I feel so bad because, I am trying to give my best in making those responses at most of the times. There might be those moments though when I don't it good enough because, I always try to post a response to those discussions which have zero responses after being around for sometime.
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@magicalmerlin (1623)
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4 Apr 07
Responding to low response posts is a very kind thing to do. I am sorry that it did not work out for you. It was good that you felt able to write about it and I hope the responses here have helped you. I have only been a member here for a short time but it seems to have a high proportion of vey nice people. I hope you feel better soon.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
4 Apr 07
Hello trinidadvelasco, I don't know what your "friend" sent you but I would suggest you ignore it if it is being unfair to you.
I know you as a wonderful myLot friend of mine whom I see regularly at my discussions. I appreciate your presence very much and I have always observed effort in your postings.
Having poor spelling or typo errors does not diminish the effort you put in. So my friend, please don't be affected by what that person said. You are a valuable contributor to the myLot community.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
Thank you for your kind words, lordwarwizard. I'd be lying if I'd say that I was not affected. After that experience, I had to stay away from the computer because I was so upset.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
5 Apr 07
Don't. You have other more "friend" friends here. ;-)
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@amielletherese (197)
• Northern Mariana Islands
28 Apr 07
I agree with lordwarwizard. You shouldn't let your "friend's" message ruin your mood and make you idle and discouraged. Honestly, In all honesty, I admire you because at your age you're very much adept at using the internet, even finding this site (which I've only discovered a month ago!) and actively contributing. You're the same age as my father's (that's why I'd also like to ask if I can call you Tita because I'm not comfortable calling you with your first name, if it's okay?), and now with not so good vision, he stopped using the computer.
Maybe your "friend" is just the type who requires perfection from ohers because that's one thing he/she lacks from him/herself. Don't waste your time with this "friend" of yours. You may lose one friend here, but you may gain hundreds more. Wish you all the best and God speed! :p
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
4 Apr 07
apology accepted. just kidding! hehe
anyway, there are lots of nice people here in mylot. however, there are also those who aren't nice at all. just sad to know that rude people can ruin our mood in an instant.
anyway, don't feel bad about what you think might be your fault. if so, your "friend" should atleast have told you about that certain issue why he/she felt bad about. otherwise, forget it. not easy though but he/she's not worth of your time and effort.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
After having had lots of responses to his/her discussions, I have learned that he/she is not worth my efforts. Thank you for making me realize this. But that message really did get me off the computer for hours. I kept on thinking, how many have I wronged here. I know that I have posted so many responses already. I don't know if how many hours will it take me if I review them all.
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@Augustta (1850)
• Poland
6 May 07
I definitely agree with my friend maryannemax (which right now i missed so much)and i guess you don't need to apologize at all...who is upset i suggest to try learn another lingo and see it is easy or hard?
I am pretty sure i did a lot mistake ,and i will love to talk in polish because here i am artist(i am teacher)but i try my best in english which is a great lingo also...
You are just fine and i apreciate your effort..
keep your chin up!
augusta
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@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
4 Apr 07
Hey Trin dont let the small stuff get ya down.I have to really watch myself when i post too . I am 43 my eyes are getting worse by the day it seems . That and the keys jump around on my keyboard so much sometimes i cant keep up with where they are.lol
A true friend would have asked you why you said something with out jumpin your butt first. Allowances made keep up on the posting .
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
Oh, it is good to know that I have someone around here who shares with me this problem. My hands are no longer as good as they were before when I touch type. I kind of touch on the wrong keys everytime. This slows me down so much and makes me commit so many errors. Correcting the errors take much longer time than composing the responses. Thank you for letting me know.
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
4 Apr 07
No dear this is not the case with me. I have never found your responses having mistakes or having any rude thing in it. We all love you and praise your energy that at such age, you are doing such a great job. You are very near to approach the top page of raring. Keep it up!
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
Thank you for your encouragement. I really need all your kind words at this time.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
4 Apr 07
I think this is a bit rude of you to say - it's not a matter of wording but possible mis-spelling & it's a bit wrong for you add in your 2 cents worth.
I'm sorry but your wording isn't perfect either & wouldn't it be hurtful to you if someone said something nasty to you because your English isn't perfect?
I think it's just something that happens, sometimes people miss letters & even re-reading doesn't always work because you already know what it's supposed to say so you don't notice the little mistakes.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
4 Apr 07
actually, we all commit mistakes. even transcriptionists often do. so, it's not just right to be at "war" just because of our shortcomings which is obviusly unintentional. there are just those who are easily annoyed or irritated. and in all honesty, i guess we are all responsible in posting our responses here.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
I try my best to be careful of what I have done. This is the reason why I make only so few postings in an hour of being online. It is true that the trouble is, I know what I have been trying to say, so there are some misses that I still miss despite repeated rereadings and making corrections.
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@xbrendax (2662)
• United States
5 Apr 07
What I want to know is, why are you letting these people you don't even know bother you so much? I say: To hell with them! I would laugh at their opinions, who are they to you any way? Just printings on paper, they are meaningless to you in your realm of life, so don't let them get to you, you are stronger then that! By the way, you give nice responses. Anyone with any sense knows it's not (HOW) you wrote something, it's the meaning behind it and your thoughts and feelings!
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
It bothered me so much because, I started thinking as to how many have I been so hurting. The thought kept running in my mind...'How many others more have I wronged?' Since I have been trying to make as many responses as I could whenever at the computer, there could be plentiful out there. Anyway, I have cleared that now. Most of us around here are not as sensitive as he/she is. You don't have any idea how much lighter I am feeling now as I have been reading everybody's response. Thank you for your kind thoughts.
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
5 May 07
I am very sorry that you were hurt. It doesn't sound like they are a friend. You do not need to make excuses dear. Delete that person, and let the ones that appreciate you, be your real friends. God bless you, M&M
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@raphael_volts (1131)
• India
5 Apr 07
Actually there are few of us who make few mistakes and rest of us are full of mistakes and I believe that those who say they never make any mistakes are just big blasphemists.
I myself make a lot of mistakes and typographical errors and so I can understand.
Actually some people are not toocool or calm in themselves and get baffled by the small mistakes so you can sure overlook their comments but shouldn't over look your mistakes yet. I know you are having troubles and we are no body to jusdge you either but you should never let your errors or troubles make you fall.
Always Stand Tall
Take Care
May GOD Bless YOU
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement, raphael_volts.
@stormygrl (761)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I've seen alot of discussions worded badly and some are like what is this...Somebody will always complain about anlittle thing, I wouldn't worry too much if you're trying your best.
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@browneyedgirl (1264)
• United States
5 Apr 07
If you end up with enemies just for being human; then I feel sorry for your enemies. And, for the record, I'm just like you; only human too. LOL
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Nice of you, browneyedgirl to say that. I like it, the way you say it. Thanks.
@Aphroditei_5279 (2465)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
You don't have to apologize Trinidad. I have always appreciated your post. And I think we should always be considerate with others. Don't bother yourself with what your "friend" said. If he/she really knew you he/she would have understand your post and be more considerate, especially given your age. So don't think about it.
Keep up the good work! And I wanted to thank you again for dropping by my thank you post. I owe it to supportive members like you. Take care! (^^,)
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
Thank you, too, Aphroditei. Nice of you to say that.
@shubhamgupta (127)
• India
5 Apr 07
how can this sort of thing happen?
are u tring to bluff everybody?
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Awww, neither do I know what he/she meant about me having offended him/her because he/she wouldn't tell even if I already inquired about it. If you don't believe me, there's nothing that I can about it. However, this guy hurt me deeply because I had taken all efforts to reply to his/her discussions as best as I could. Considering how plentiful those responses are, it would take me hours to review them, okay? I hope you get my point here. I don't need to be bluffing anyone. What will I get out of it? Moreso from you. The truth is, I don't know what you are trying to drive at here. I am sure that bluffing will not bring me anywhere at all. I cannot give you the mylotter's name because that is definitely beyond good manners. Besides, there are so many topics in this world which I can post had I not personally been so affected. I have laid out 5 discussions already which I didn't post yet because, I just don't feel like doing it anymore. Maybe I'll let a week go by, whatever. It doesn't really matter at all.
@lovesfreedom (1245)
• United States
5 Apr 07
You have no need to apologize. I have never read any post by you that would cause me to say, boo hoo my feelings are hurt. The only language I speak is the English language and sometimes I butcher it terribly!
The humor in me causes me to explain that I speak TYPONESE fluently, so when someone makes a mistake or I do, that is my excuse.
We have a saying in my family and I have heard it elsewhere.....
Those that matter don't mind and those that mind, don't matter.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
I find that last line you wrote very funny. Thank you for the advice, lovesfreedom.
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@kiwikidz (753)
• New Zealand
5 Apr 07
I think if you were only omitting a word or two, a lot more of us would be getting nasty messages. I know that you have built up your number of discussions so you can't have done too bad, and what if one or two were with errors. I see everyday discussions on here that at times I can't understand what the person is saying because of their lack of english skills. I think it would be nice to be able to say to those people with problems understanding english "hey would you like some of us to show you the right words to use so a lot more people will respond to your discussions, which would boost them up also, but unfortunately if we said this, a lot of people would get on their bandwagons and say we were being nasty, so what a strange world we are.
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@kiwikidz (753)
• New Zealand
5 Apr 07
ops I didn't mean to reload this again, must have been a gremlin in the works, see how easy it is to make a mistake. I hope we all learn that we are not perfect and make mistakes a lot of the time. It is also easy to make a nasty comment to someone but a lot harder to apologise. Have a great Easter you guys and girls.
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@kiwikidz (753)
• New Zealand
5 Apr 07
I think if you were only omitting a word or two, a lot more of us would be getting nasty messages. I know that you have built up your number of discussions so you can't have done too bad, and what if one or two were with errors. I see everyday discussions on here that at times I can't understand what the person is saying because of lack of english skills. I think it would be nice to be able to say to those people with problems understanding english "hey would you like some of us to show you the right words to use so a lot more people will respond to your discussions, which would boost them up also, but unfortunately if we said this, a lot of people would get on their bandwagons and say we were being nasty, so what a strange world we are.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
I understand what you mean. There are some users who are handicapped in terms of language. We can't punish them for their inadequacies. We just have to learn to undersand them, too. I believe these persons have received their share of nasty messages already because, I got one despite doing everything I can to come up with suitable ones. Thank you for your input, kiwikidz, on this matter.
@mummyofthree (2715)
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5 Apr 07
I'm sorry for your experience. People should be a bit more tollerant and I hope all the responses on here show you that not all of us are like your "friend".
I wish you all the best.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Thanks, mummyofthree, I know that we should all be considerate of the feelings of others as I have been through this experience. I should be careful, too, of whatever I may be writing especially, messages sent.
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
hello there my friend. don't think about the message that friend of yours had sent to you. Here in myLot, all of us are entitled to commit errors and mistakes so don't take him seriously. you are in fact a good responder in all the discussions here. i have seen your ideas and they are all good. we do not need to please everybody here and if someone goes against your ideas, maybe he/she just want to do it for nothing or just loves putting up a debate or something. don't problem him/her my friend, as long as pure ideas and opinions are coming out here, there will be no problem. we will support each another all the way.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Thank you, mskzalameda for being supportive. I can aptly say that now, I know it better.
@Luciea (80)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
I don't think someone should be hurtful towards you regardless of your posts. I think it would make more sense for them to clarify if that's what you truly meant... and if it was, then to just move on. If your "friend" didn't bother clarifying with you about the post, that means she or he didn't give you a fair chance to properly explain what you meant. If you really feel worried about it, you can try explaining your situation to your friend. Hopefully he or she will understand. We're only human after all. We make mistakes.
Friendship can last years. If it can be broken by a discussion that is not accurate, then how can we as people keep friends? I hope you take care of yourself and don't stress yourself over these issues.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Thank you, Luciea, you can be sure that I'll take your advice.
