Why does most things in life have to be so hard?

Yeap that'sthe story of mylife man..Only now at the age of 41 I see a small light at the end of a long tunnel..and I have a long way to go..I have toleave my husband next week..not knowing if or when I will see him again.But at least I can now say that some one loves me a little bit on this planet..I understand where you are coming from..

God has been very good to me. I've never gone hungry; my parents are wonderful; and I never even lost a Grandparent until I was 28. Then things stopped going so smoothly and life became harder. However, the things that I have accomplished through hardship are that much sweeter to me. I failed to get pregnant for so long that when I did the kids were that much more precious; I have no Grandfathers so the lives of my Grandmothers are important and I try to be with them etc. I know I'm young so the lessons will keep rolling in. I hope that I learn from them rather than fall apart under them. Thanks for making me think deeply for a few moments. :)

Dear Steph, The hard things in life serve as a mean to teach us there are no things that can truly bring joy to us if they come from this world. The person/thing that we love the most will have the biggest capacity to hurt/disappoint us. I think we should be thankful if we go through hardships eventhough we might not understand while going through it. Hardships make us better person. Help us understand other's hardships and therefore might equip us to help them better. It teaches us about patience and will mold us to be more patient if we allow it to. My hardships and constant failure always remind me that life is not only to be spent here. My true home is in Heaven. Failure after failure teach me the value of success more than if I succeed at the first time I try. It's always sweetier when we have to go through a lot to reach something...=)

I have never understood why we fail at some point. I found that when my husband and I first started out we had financial troubles. After about ten years we were both working and making good money and we bought a home and every thing was peachey. I lost my job and shortly after that my husband lost his. We were up and then down. I think maybe we have to go through the rough times to really appreciate the good times. Or maybe it is just to keep us humble.

well like don't go the way we want it but I like to thinks it goes the way we need it as some failures are opening doors for bigger and better things so i'm glad sometimes for the many little failures and very happy for they great succcess

I have experienced in my personal life all those constant failures , and now achieved something more enough for my family.. I think i did not achieved many things in those days because i did not worked out my plans in time and also don have confidence. but now i have gained little experience from my past failures and also i can execute the failures as success day by day. as you said i also wander why it was not possible for me before..I think god has decided to give each thing to us in a particular time.

Its not failures, lessons for us to get experience. In other words failures are stepping stones for our success at a later date. For that particular day we have to wait and get joy with the sky is the limit.

Life is very hard, it has always been a struggle. Unless you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth, we will stuggle. And, it is getting worse it seems. We do have to fail before succeeding most of the times. But, succeeding is much harder now. Life is like a roller coaster, it goes up and down. I guess we just have to keep working and be glad if we have the health to do it. If we don't, we will have more problems. Bless you sugar.

why life has to be so hard is a question that has often puzzled me. After years and years of observation all I can say is it has to do with the value we place on things. If something is of value to us, we imbue it with more if we have had to struggle to gain it or indeed to struggle to hang on to it, if we dont struggle it becomes of less worth to us. At an individual level, i think in general, life is getting harder. As greed increases, those who have seem to be in hot pursuit of more. Those who have little or nothing will therefore struggle to get even the minimum of resources to suvive. In short, why do most things in life have to be so hard? well its just greed, nothing more. Blessed be

Maybe, that's life my friend. Everything has its' ups and downs, humps and smooth roads. There isn'y anything we can do, its what lifes us want to be, to learn and to learn more. That as we age, we learn to follow and to go on with life wherever it takes us. But the best part is we learn and we became stronger and that makes life easier , because of our past experiences. My husband and I had gone through so many ups and downs but we regain strength from it and from each other. We're having the best time of our married life now, enjoying each other even though financially were not at it but important is we have each other...

I ask myself that everyday! I think sometimes we make life harder and more complicated than it actually has to be. I know I have! But, still, the older I get...the harder it seems to get. The kids are older and want EVERYTHING, money is always tight, bad things always happen...blah blah. I just started a new home biz and I'm hoping and praying that it works well. Cause if not, I'm about to throw in the towel and just move into a cardboard box, lol. Good Luck!@

Well my take on life is that we all have our high and low points in life, and it seems funny but what used to be a problem often turns into no big deal later on in life. Therefore I think we all change even though we may not realize it. I've tried all my life to have things running smooth but that just wasn't the way it worked out. I think God has a plan for all of us I really do.

i know what you mean. my life is like a big swing that wont stop. for the last 3 years everything has been great. we have been able to afford our bills and do a few extra things. before that we were always on the verge of something being cutoff. we didnt change anything in our lives but we moved to a smaller city. i think that is what helped all of that. we had made a promiss no matter what family comes first then work. well all was great for 3 years then my landlord past away and well. since the beginning of this year everything has gone wrong. lol. it is like since we had 3 good years this whole year is going to make up for it lol. i did get sosme good news though. i should start getting my unemployment so at least i can pay a few bills now and afford to go job hunting. now if i can find a place to move i will see some light. the one thing i have learned is that when things are going good take advantage of it but also put back some for those other times so that you dont end up going to far backwards. always remember murphys law too. i am glad you are seeing some light now hang on to it. lol

i guess i do... maybe thats one way of God to make us strong !!!

I feel like that too steph , nothing has ever come easy to me in my life and I so often feel that I have taken 5 steps forward and 4 back , I have had a lot of obstacles put in my way too ,but when I look around and see what I do have I am so grateful , My parents have Alzheimer's , My hubby and son are disabled , I have a disability too but I still have them all here with me and my 2 eldest sons their wife's and my 4 gorgeous grandchildren , Yes we have our problems but we have a lot of love and kisses and cuddles and that more than makes up for the stumbles along the way xx

Is life hard on us? Maybe it is “yes” and maybe “no”. You have rightly put that we cannot have both. Life seemed to hard or appears to be difficult, I guess that, we are taking our life very seriously without the sprinkle of challenges, at the fun of doing it. It is because we want badly to give o good life to our family and want it sooner then possible. Because of these, it appears too difficult. Sometime we tend to take a bigger bite then we can handle and frustration creeps in. Maybe, we should go a bit slow and have a smaller bite. Organizing our thoughts and action can be of help.

No Gain without Pain. That is the practicality of life. Every failure has to taken as a stepping stone to success. Its only when we take it like that we gain experience, we learn and become more successful. Big companies like Microsoft, Apple, Dell, Infosys have all gone through them. All leaders have failed first and become successful next. Napolean Bonaparte is one of the biggest example for this concept of failure first and success next. Hope I have answered your question. All the best Keep trying. mike the lil smiley devil

I am glad that things are going smooth for you now I know how rough things can be we had copper to clean and I sliced my finger not to bad but just enough to throb but it's ok and I thought it would be easy but kind of hard to make money.

.. Knowldge, experiance, wisdom. learning part is more difficult..or before you experiance knowldge life is hard.

Yes, I too have been a complete failure in life so far, and am without any money, and jobless...., i have joined mylot now and am hoping for the best, and hope i make money from it, as you are doing now..., wish me luck, man........