What would you do?

Ashlee, I answered from my email so I just now saw the rest of the stuff and I am outraged that your husband is treating you this way! The book will help you discover your personal bottom line and you can tell your husband that you will know he wants to end the relationship if he tells that other girl he loves her again or if he ____ whatever. Married people do not act that way! I don't allow my male online friends to send me hugs or kisses or anything. I know my hubby doesn't either. You need to sit down with him and talk about what you expect from marriage and why you are disappointed. You both need to re-evaluate your relationship. This other woman he has said this stuff to needs to be out of your lives completely, as it has already gone too far. Get the book, talk to him, good luck.

Thanks for the advice Tonya. Yes, we have our ups and downs in the relationship. I guess everyone just needs to read both sides of the story before it's totally pointed at my fault. I guess my problem is I see him talking to other girls and sometimes saying stuff that he shouldn't be saying that I have to turn around and do it too to make myself feel better. I guess two wrongs don't make a right. After posting this question and seeing some responses I haven't really called this other guy (his name is Chris). I figure the less I talk to him the more apt I am to be in my relationship with my husband as opposed to a relationship with a friend. I miss Chris, I love Chris, I wanted to be with Chris, but I have to learn to get over him. It's hard when he means so much to me. I wanted to be with him before I even met my husband. We had a fling and then I met my husband and one thing led to the next. I guess my husband was a rebound to make Chris jealous at the time. Yet, it turned into so much more than I had expected. The beginning of Trav and I's relationship was wonderful. Besides him talking to his exgirlfriend. Then he stopped talking to her and I had trust in him and we worked well together. Then he just started getting flirtatious with girls and I lost trust. After which I began reading his stuff and seeing what all he's said to other woman. So, I guess in a way it is my fault. Yet, it's my husband that has driven me to this. Just for the record I have discussed the birth control thing with my husband and he's understanding why I'm getting back on it. Until next time....

Thank you for your words of advice. I do need to work on the marriage. It's not as though I don't love my husband, he's just not the fairy tail prince I've always sought. Also, I have taken into consideration if I divorced my hubby for the other man what would happen, specifically if it didn't work out between him and I. I would like to add, I have posted other discussion boards about my husband. Particularly the one posted "how much flirting is too much flirting." Maybe if you read that you would understand why my heart goes one way as opposed to the other. The other man has the same feelings for me, and he has told me he doesn't want to ruin my marriage, so I'm sure he would be understanding of my decision. Again, thanks for the wonderful advice!