If you had to do it over again, what would you do differently?
By phyrball2
@phyrball2 (17)
United States
April 4, 2007 4:20pm CST
I am 27 years old. I have two kids, who I love dearly, and one more on the way. As sad as it is, my life is totally unfulfilling. I planned my first two at 21 and 23, and am only a year away from my youngest being in school. I decided to go back to school myself, and boom, pregnancy. I'm sick of just being a wife and mother. I want to be something more, but now I'm just tied down. I love my kids, and I know it's my own fault, but if I had it to do over again, I wouldn't have started my family at 21, I would've waited until I had all my partying out, and all my schooling done. I also would've had my tubes tied after my second, instead of listening to my stupid husband, who absolutely refused to take the time to get a vasectomy, but the expected me to get an abortion after we slipped up. Anyone wanna commiserate with me?
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@Lavera1 (896)
• United States
4 Apr 07
Dear, Phyrball, I hope you aren't as miserable as you sound. Not only for your sake but for your family's sake. For when mon's sad the whole family is sad. All right just go on and have you new baby and bless him/her and be happy.
You still have plenty of time to attend college and have your caree.
Stop blaming your husband and make your life happy right now.
I hope you don't get cranky like my neice did. I'm not going to discuss her just now.
I know you've heard this before, Phyrball, that parenthood is the most rewarding job in the world. And the hardest and lowest paid. But like I have said before, just enjoy it now.
@phyrball2 (17)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I'm not blaming my husband for the pregnancy, it does take two to tango. I'm upset with him because he refused to get a vasectomy, saying, "what if we want more." After I got pregnant, he tried to persuade me to get an abortion, something I would feel guilt and turmoil over for the rest of my life. When I refused, he actually had the nerve to say, "if you get an abortion, I'll get a vasectomy." I'm blaming him for being an a**.
@Norstar (694)
• India
6 Apr 07
Whatever has happened has happened. There is no point in thinking about it except of taking lessons from it as to how you can take care in future and not repeat the same mistake.
You are still young and can do whatever studies you wish to do as soon as possible. But you must do these studies and not ignore them.
Look for future with lot of positive thinking and discuss things with your husband and with your doctor.
All the best to you.
