I cannot believe what just happened
By brendalee
@brendalee (6082)
United States
April 4, 2007 6:46pm CST
Some of my friends know that my boyfriends father has pancreatic cancer. Its one of the worst kind you can get. Well, the surgery was scheduled for tomorrow. Relatives flew in from out of state, others took vacation time from thier jobs. His father started the "cleaning out" procedure by drinking that stuff and then sitting on the toliet all day. Just a little while ago we get a phone call from the hospital...the surgery has been cancelled. They found something on an ultrasound involving a problem with a heart valve. If it had not been caught, he most likely would not have survived the surgery. I'm glad they caught it but I wish they would have seen it sooner. I feel so bad for my boyfriends father. He hates hospitals and doctors to begin with and I am afraid now he may just want to give up. I just want to scream right now. Please somebody, cheer me up. Has something like this ever happened to you?
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@kaperkitty (1097)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
I'm so sorry and i can understand how upsetting this is right now..the same thing happened with my mother in law she was scheduled for a hysterectomy because of a huge tumor..two hours before surgery she starts running a very high fever and everything gets cancelled..of course we are all there we had flown 200 miles to there..but of course that was not the issue you get to a p[lace that you so ready to get started and suddenly everything stops..its like hitting the brakes at 100 miles an hour..i wish i could take away how awful; you and your family must be feeling but you will be in my thoughts and prayers
Cheryl
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Hitting the brakes at 100 miles an hour is exactly how it feels. Thanks for understanding.
@kaperkitty (1097)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
i do completely understand the feelings your experiencing hon your just so angry, frustrated, hurt, worried, ready to cry in an instant, all at once..
my prayers are with you and yours
Cheryl
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@ela2pso (364)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
well, my dad had suffered from dudenum pancreatic cancer and he survived the operation. its been almost three years since he had been operated and he's still in a good condition now.
i think your boyfriends dad will survive the surgery too. because my father had a lot of complication also in his other organs but then he survived.
and also,,, prayers had did so much help on us.
JUST PRAY.
and keep up cheering him up so that he will be able to fight.
brendalee,,, just have a faith and God will provide you everything.
Good luck
Godbless
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Reading a success story really helps cheering me up. I'm glad your dad turned out okay.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
5 Apr 07
It is better that they found out before he was on the table. My uncle was to have catarac surgery. He was put on the table, the anesthesia started, he said he felt like he was floating off the table when he was awakened by people shouting his name. He nearly passed away.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Huggers to you Bren. You know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
@Penguinsangel (3498)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Oh honey....I am so glad though that they did catch it before the surgery at least. Yes they should have caught it much earlier, but thank goodness they got it now when they did.
I wish I knew some way to cheer you up though... :( But I am drawing a blank there. *big hug*
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
5 Apr 07
OH wow! It's a good thing they caught that in time though. I'm sure your boyfriend's father doesn't want to go through that lovely "cleaning out" process again, let alone the surgery. I don't blame you for being upset. But imagine if they hadn't caught that, what the outcome would have been. He's still with you and your boyfriend, and that's a GOOD thing. If you want, I'll come and kick the doctors around a bit for ya! LOL (Did that cheer you up just a bit? I hope so. wink
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Apr 07
If you want to come kick some butt, you should probably wait until next week. They are calling for snow again.lol. Thanks for the laugh.
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@anjoks (2080)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
Oh yes, same thing happened to my dad few years ago. He was suspected for having throat cancer. What we did is we asked second opinion from a different doctor in a diff. hospital and asked again for a third opinion from a diff doctor again and to another hopital. Thanked god we did that, if not for that my dad's now having a hard time speaking, his voice will slowly diminished after surgery. .got a big slash right behind his throat. It was actually just a big saliva formation behind his throat that makes it worse. . . . . I'll be praying for the speedy recovery of your boyfrien's father. I'm sure he'll hang on. (",)
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Thanks for your comments. I hope your dad is doing well now.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
5 Apr 07
Brendalee I am so sorry about this so does this mean that he will not be able to have the Surgery at all?
I really do not know what to say and how to cheer you up Sweety as this is so sad
Big Hugs to you Sweet and I do hope there is still something they can do for him
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I am so sorry that this has happened to your boyfriend's dad. Cancer is terrible and insidious. My mother-in-law had pancreatic cancer with liver metastasis. She found it too late for surgery. Be thankful that he still is a candidate for surgery after they fix the heart valve or some way to minimize the risk. I will pray for his speedy recovery.
At least now he has a clean colon.
I like the powder puff joke better.
We are here for you.
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I am sorry about your mother-in-law. I think I need a nap as I found the clean colon remark to be very funny. Thanks.
@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
I guess your medical system is still better in the US than in Canada. I really do feel bad for your boyfriends dad, I really do feel sorry for this poor man being so sick. It really doesn't sound good I realize but after what has happened to me yesterday I very much doubt it would have been detected if he was in Canada. I know you have enough sadness and medical problems but when you're feeling better
you can read my new thread. I will post it tonight. I think our whole world is falling to pieces when it come to the health field. You folks are still in my prayers. It's good some of the family are there right now may cheer the poor fellow up a bit. Take time to Take Care !!!
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Thanks and I am sorry with what you are going through. I posted on that discussion of yours. what that saying?....Misery loves company. Reading about others problems helps keep my mind off mine.
@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
I don't know you, but I'm so sorry to hear this has happened.
On the other hand, someone was definitely looking out for your boyfriends father by having the docs check the ultrasound. If they hadn't caught it, chances are he wouldn't have made it through surgery, so at least they have that in their favor.
I wish you and your boyfriends family all the very best of luck in treating this. Cancer is a nasty nasty disease but it can be beaten.
{{{{Hugs}}}} to you from British Columbia, Canada.
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@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I am so sorry about your boyfriends father's situation. I am happy that they found the problem with his heart valve tho. Try to look at the bright side of this. I can't say that I have gone through something like this but I hope these flowers cheer you up.
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Thank you for your comments. This isn't the first time this has happened to him. It happened once before a test. he was all prepared and the test machine broke down. They had to reschedule it.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I am sorry to hear about your boyfriends dad. I am glad they found the heart problem, being a nurse I know finding the problem after the prep has been started made the hospital look bad.
I hope this works: Why does the Easter bunny have a shiny nose? His power puff is on the wrong end.
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@brendalee (6082)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I was upset at the hospital first but now I am thankful that they caught it in time. Thanks for the joke. It gave me a chuckle.
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I am so sorry sugar. It is indeed quite sad, and stressful. Is he going to the Mayo clinic?
My husband had stones, and by accident, they found his kidney was full of cancer. They removed the kindey, and it was packed. If it went untreated, he would not be here now. That was an accident that it was found.
I'm saying a prayer right now for your boyfriends dad. God bless, Margieanne
