What is the best thing to do by pregnant teenagers?

Philippines
April 4, 2007 6:52pm CST
Teenage pregnancy is now very common. What would be the best step for them to take knowing that they are still in school and still under the supervision of their parents? Must they continue raising the child? Go for adoption? or maybe even abortion?
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@nic24uk (571)
5 Apr 07
i think it should be up to the pregnant teenager to decide what to do. i was a pregnant teenager and i kept the child and raised her myself with no help from the father shes now 10 and it was the best decision i ever made.
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• Melbourne, Australia
22 Jul 07
I was a pregnant teen....twice. The first time my family decied for me that abortion was the only way & despite what I wanted & despite the fact that it is still against the law here they still made e do it. No support from anyone afterwards. I was only 16. I then met up with the father of my 1st one about 1.5 years later & wow again I was pregnant. This time it was MY choice. I hid it till I was 18. Then I told my family I would be having this child & that I don't care what they think about it. That was almost 14 years ago. My sonis the best thing to happen to me.He would have had a full-blood sister. But my family decided that even though it was MY body, MY baby it was not MY choice.
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• United States
24 Jul 07
So it would be right to kill a child? You shouldnt put your child out because they got pregnant. Im sorry but thats the stupiest thing I have ever heard. You shouldnt kick someone when they are down. Its your child's body and if they were grown enough to make it, they need to be grown enough to take care of it.
@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
Yes, they should continue raising the child. I believe she has the right to parent the child or place it for adoption. She should not be given the right to kill it. Abortion is murder.
• Melbourne, Australia
22 Jul 07
Wow that is a little over the top. My month NEVER raised my son. I did it all on my own. No support from family, or the father. You say teens have no rights about it? Then who has the right to tell a person what to do with their body?
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
5 Apr 07
It really depends on the situation raising the child or adoption. In our home when my daughter became pregnant when she was 17 abortion was never even thought of. In some cases maybe it is condonable , but for most I think it just says we can throw away a human life because it is an inconvience. Adoption there is some wonderful people out there looking for some wonderful kid to be their own.She chose to keep Cooper and he is the light of our lives.. Grandma and Grandpas boy.
@sweetee (420)
• Australia
5 Apr 07
i think that should be up to the pregnant person to decide.
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@socorban (650)
• United States
5 Apr 07
depends on the situation, either raise it or adopt it out, never abortion! Whats the differance between sucking the poor childs brains out before birth or tossing it in a dumpster after? Either way its murder! A good step is for women to keep there legs closed and guy keep it in there pants. If you cant handle yourself than use protection, women who abort should be killed with the baby and the father to be. Irresponsibilty is no excuse for murder.
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• Philippines
6 Apr 07
Hello, cookielex, anyone who wants to have their relations go beyond what's acceptable per moral standards will best do it with some sense of responsibility. There are ways to stop any occurence of fertilizaton, what with all the available methods of birth control. Besides, this will be better for them for they can go on and on with their activities without cut. When abortion is resorted to, a cut in this kind of activity will have to happen as a newly aborted girl cannot indulge in it, right?
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
19 Apr 07
Depends on the teenager and the parents. If they feel they can take care of the baby properly then they should raise the child. If the mother wants to go back to school hopefully the parents can help babysit. If not, hopefully the mother is okay with taking a break and finishing up school later. If they don't feel like they can handle it adoption would be a good idea, lots of childless couples out there wanting to adopt! I personally wouldn't get an abortion, but that's just my opinion. To each their own.
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• Canada
22 Jul 07
There is no right answer to this question. I believe in the freedom for people to chose. There are a number of alternatives, and they are all right, depending on the situation. Some people keep the baby, some people adopt the baby out, some people let their own parents raise the baby and some will abort the pregnancy. It's not up to us to decide what is right and what is wrong.
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• Philippines
6 Apr 07
I was aware of this going on for years now. What I did with my kids then was I used to talk to them about the consequences of going into the marital act so they will have sufficient knowledge about the matter. I rest assured them that whatever happens I will be supportive of them. I can welcome a child in the family but, definitely no marriage will take place. Once they get married, chances are, more kids will be coming. What a headache will that be then. For my part, I'll take the child so they can finish school, this is the best step for me. When they graduated from college, my children told me that those words kept them on their toes against doing that act. They are much older now and, it seems that they are never keen about getting married too soon. Coping with teenage pregnancy must be done with caution. The girl must be reintroduced to the values of morality and responsibilty once again. This will deter her from doing the same mistake. Only communication is the key to keep this thing from going on. If ever the daughter is one who goes into wantonly getting into these acts, let's face it, the best thing will be for her to make use of birth control methods.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I think when anyone of any age finds themselves expecting without wishing to be, they should take a serious look into their options & make a decision based on what is best for them. With very few exceptions, a woman who is old enough to conceive is old enough to make a rational & educated decision for herself.
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• Philippines
5 Apr 07
If the teenager has not yet developed the maturity to actually take care of her baby she can always seek help from her immediate support system like her parents or other siblings. I think this is better than giving up a baby for abortion because that will always make her wonder about the baby. I would never recommend abortion. It only teaches youngsters to be irresponsible and at the same time tolerates their impulsiveness and aggression. Continuing their studies should also be recommended. The better education they get the better future they can provide for their baby as well. It will also give them self-fulfillment and make them feel better about themselves despite the things they go through when they engaged in teenage pregnancy.
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Please give the baby up for adoption. To have an abortion would be punishing an innocent child. If a teenager insists on being active then she should take preventative measures to keep from getting pregnant.
• United States
10 May 07
I am thinking that we need to make them aware of the consequences of their actions. We cannot make it to easy nor to hard but we must protect the children both of them the new born and the teen. I think we should be careful not to have them viewed as martyrs or victums though unless they truly are. We must make sure that society is protected and that we try to keep the sequence of events in order school first then adulthood.
@alnilam (969)
• United States
23 Jul 07
There is not a best no best thing to do in this situation. everybody decides for themselves on the ground of in what circumstances do they live. if this happens to a teenager from a rich family the best thing to do is to keep the child, but if it happens to a poor family other options may be considered. it depends from situation to situation
@alnilam (969)
• United States
23 Jul 07
no i did not mean it in that way (but i guess it came out like that) i wanted to put out that rich families have the benefit that they can accept such decisions easier, they do not have to worry if their child will be able to go to school, if they will be able to afford things for him/her. I think everybody can make it (rich, middle class, rich people) just want to say that it is easier for people with money. They still have all their options open, they can go to school (because they can afford babysitter 24/7), the middle class and poor class mothers and fathers just have to give up more, so because of that i have written that they consider other options more frequently.
• United States
23 Jul 07
I think it kind of depends on what situation the teen is in. Having support is a big help in these circumstances, so if the parents of the teen are willing to step in and help out then I'd say the teen should go ahead with the pregnancy. Howver, if finances are a problem and the teen is too immature to handle a baby, then abortion may be the best option. Moving from foster home to foster home is no life for a child.
• United States
23 Jul 07
My sister got pregnant when she was 14. She had the baby when she was 15. He is now 9. My parents were very, very upset, but they gave her the choice of what she wanted to do. They had always told us that if we got pregnant they would kick our a@@e@ (btw, that worked for me!!). My sister was born with a heart condition. Last summer she had to have that fixed, along with a repair to an aneurysm, on her heart, that was about to burst. During her operation she ended up having to have a double by-pass and a pacemaker inserted. She now has to take blood thinner for the rest of her life. The doctors have advised her that if she were to get pregnant now, she would most likely die. I think everything happens for a reason. If my sister wouldn't have had my nephew all those years ago, when she was still a young girl herself, she never would have been able to have children. She is one of the best mothers I have ever seen, she has been since day 1. I love my nephew, and I'm more than happy to have him with us.
@mybizla (136)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 07
i think they should keep it that way. but their parent must play their rule. this young lady need a lot of time with their parents. the best way is rest from the school for a while. they need rest. that all