Walking on eggshells

Hi soccermom,Your husband got mad over nothing,hes being a baby.I use to be married to a man that would get into bad moods sometimes..I was married to him a long time and we had five children,we ended up later on getting a divorce...I said that to say this.I would never put up with a mans moods ever again.Just because hes in a mood that don't mean he should make the whole household walk on egg shells.I would stand up to him and tell him we was not going to cater to his bad mood..I would not allow my children to have to be miserable because of him.Ignore him and do as you please..I would tell him to be quite.he has no right to act this way .....The worst thing you can do is cater to him,if he gives you a bad time,give it back to him the way he dishes it out.Its not like hes sick or anything...I would not keep my mouth closed Im afraid i would have to explode..If hes in such a bad mood he can't stand the family ,then tell him to leave until he feels like he can act better...

to answer your question...yeah, it's like walking on eggshell. Maybe hubby has something else worrying him other than that incident with the xbox. Is it his day off and this is the only time he can play? Is he having problems at work? Maybe he's not sleeping well or maybe he's not feeling well. Try to let him cool off for a while and when the air seems better, try to talk to him. Sometimes we all just need a "time off" to recharge. I hope things will work out for you and hubby.

I respond to my spouse like he does me when I have that type of day. I just give him his space and let him do his own thing and just try not to get him rattled in anyway.we all have those days and need to just have our space, sometimes when he is like that I will just tell him I am taking the kids and going for a ride. Mine is very seldom that way either so it is easy for me to just listen to him vent, for they need that just like us ladies too, whether they want to admit it or not.""""Just don't smile and say yes dear""" those of no no's for both of us in our house when we in not good moods...

I don't know if you have ever heard of the expression, "If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." It basically means the wife/mother rules. If she is not happy nobody else will be. Your husband is taking that role and you need to take him out of it. If you walk around on eggshells, he will see it and he will continue to treat you in an inferior way as if you are in an inferior position. Any grown man who has to have his Xbox loud is either hearing-impaired or acting like a child. When you talk to him, put him in his place and be firm. Avoid him until he learns to show respect to all household members. Retreat to a private area where you can be alone and do what you want. If he does this on a regular basis, you need to get counseling. If he will not go, you and the children go. If he doesn't want to change, show him the door.

SUCCKKO! I am so sorry he has made your day so miserable! Ignore him, go take a nice bath as soon as you get kiddos to bed and let him stew! Sounds like he is just in a real bad mood and it's usually best to just let them get over it themselves if they won't talk to you, so just be good to yourself and go take a nice long soak! He may get over himself and join you! Good luck!

It's hard when my hubby is in a bad mood, but usually he gets over it fast and we can move on with no problems. Usually I just try and make light of the situation and he will laugh and feel better. Sometimes it isnt that easy obviously, but thats life I guess. If it makes you feel better I had to get a little nasty to get him to turn off his Nintendo DS for dinner ;) Tell him you will make him a nice breakfast (not cereal) in the morning!

Well when I was married it was bad and my Ex Husband could go on for Days with it and with him it was always like walking on Egg Shells as he would just turn for nothing so it was very tense all the Time

i can get you right. otherwise a cool person, i get mad when someone behaves like that. i get jittery and want to walk out. i just need to breathe in fresh air and avoid the company. however, on retropect, i cannot agree that even i get on the same shoes and sound that bad. trust me, that's not often though. sweetie, keep your cool and think twice before actually throwing tantrums, keep it up for some other day when your hubby is pacified and kids are holidaying.

Oh my goodness, I have had this happen so many times, we have alot of children together and often times they can get us in this kind of mood, when it happens to me, I just tell my boyfriend that I am going to shut up and not talk to anyone cause I can't do anything right, usually that gets him (cause I am always talking) that he will realize what he is doing and apologize for his behavior, although it may not change, it is always nice to get an apology for his behavoior and to realize that they know the problem and are aware of how they are behaving in hopes they won't continue.

I send mine out. I dont care where he goes - to the Mall, bookstore, coffee shop or a friend's - as long as he comes home in a better mood. Its a rare time if he's cranky when not ill, but I wont have negative vibes, whining or yelling for no reason and making the household miserable just because he's in a bad mood. When he starts, I hand him the car keys and point to the door. Sometimes he gets laughing before he leaves (but I insist he still goes) and says he'll try to be a good boy during his 'time-out'. Believe me it works, and by the time he gets home, we're all happy again.

I don't put up with that for very long.I mean sure we all have our bad days,but that doesn't make it right to take it out on the family. I normaly ask nicely what is up,but if he still has a attitude and won't tell me what's going on,I will tell him to go somewhere els and be a you know what. I will not let anybody make me feel uncomfortable in my own house,not even my significant other. To me it's best to get things of your chest before you get ready to explode,because once you reach that point,you are gonna end up having a fight for sure.

Hooboy! Mine has been on the warpath all morning and giving me a headache my blood pressure has been rising from all his ranting and raving! After trading demo for a few months he decided to trade live Forex this morning and it's gone against his position. He went short on Japanese yen and it went the other way so he lost something like 190 US and he is thoroughly p'eed off! He kept shouting about "Those d***d f***g b***d stop hunters!" who "made sure the trend went up just to hit his stop loss" before reversing. So I asked him if the brokerage firm went out of its way just to go and make sure he hit his stop loss and he yelled "YES YOU BETTER F***G BELIEVE IT!!!" Anyway, I just went downstairs to look at my nice newly painted living room. I (wisely) refrained from suggesting that he should have just continued with the painting instead of breaking off to trade, OR that it would have been better if he gave me the money to play slots at Casino Rama last night. (Ver inflammatory, this!) But wisdom is bred in the bone after 20 years of this (he is usually OK but when he gets on a rant it is difficult to turn the tap off!) so I kept my own counsel. Kept it zipped I did! ;-0 Don't worry, sweetie, they don't get any better with age. Mine is almost 70 and it's really us gals who mature to compensate!! LOL!!! Take care. I am sending you energy to make you feel better...

did something happen at work or something to put him in a bad mood..or is he just crabby for the heck of it? when my husband is in a bad mood i just leave him alone and keep my distance..he's not crabby often either...he was terrible when he first quit smoking i almost bought him a pack...hopefully a good nights sleep and everything will be back to normal for you....

When my husband is in a bad mood like that I stay clear for a while. It's usually that he had a stressful day and just needs some quiet time to do his own thing. On nights like that, I take the kids out for dinner or put on a movie in their room and make some popcorn. The kids are entertained and out of the way and I just leave him alone. If it lasts too long, I bring it to his attention and tell him how much it is bothering me. Then he usually tells me what is bothering him and talks about it until he feels better. It's not very fun, but we all need to vent every now and then.

I'm not married yet, but my dad can get in a right mood. It often emerges when he has to get work done on a deadline and I just keep my head down and help him with whatever he needs. It does irritate the hell outta me because you do think he would have started doing the stuff earlier, but I just get on with it.

My spouse is ALWAYS in a bad mood and quite frankly, I'm getting REALLY tired of it! I want to just wring his neck. There's no reason for him to be the way he is, other than the fact that I think he enjoys pi$$ing me off! I just want to run away sometimes....Good Luck with yours...TRY to Have a nice day! ;-)

if my husband is in the bad mood my children are very silent..while me ..i am trying to make him a little bit calm or if it is not effective then ill just close my mouth and do something else where he cant see me if i am the one who causes such bad mood..

I realy wouldnt like to be walking on eggshells when my husband isnt in the past mood.But I do understand that you do and Im sure lots others do.My husband tends to go quiet when hes in a bad mood.I prefer this as at least theres still peace and quiet around the house.

when my wife is in the bad mood...especially if im the cause of it and its really my mistake..at first i will apologize and made ammends with what i have done..and make her smile..or i will go out and buy some food to make her bad mood go away..

Ugh- that's the worst! When my hubby is in a bad mood he either gives us all the silent treatment or he'll yell. It all depends. Mu husband rarely tells and is usally in a good mood so if he yells I know he's p.o.'d about something. But that moody silent treatment is even worse. Thank God it's not often.