i have a secret..
By mskzalameda
@mskzalameda (4023)
Philippines
April 4, 2007 11:17pm CST
i can't tell.. it's something i think people won't understand. i worry too much about this secret i have. it's been years that i have been keeping it to myself. even my closest friends and relatives don't know and will not believe about this thing i have been keeping for years. how can i easily forget about this secret. they said all secrets can be unveiled but the real thing is, even this secret become unveiled, nobody will believe for like i said, it's been kept for years and almost forgotten, no any reactions made when it's earlier.
how can you cope with this kind of secret that is hard to cope with? it is really hard to explain, hope you can understand my situation guys. thanks!
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44 responses
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I have been keeping a secret for my brother for many years. If my family were to find out there would surely be disaster. So, yes, I know how you feel and understand your situation.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
i feel a lot more secured now after reading those words from you mamasan.. thanks. :)
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
I am a very private person by nature and I definitely have lots of secret too. I am not privy to anyone's secrets unless they will share it with me freely. It is your prerogative to keep yours. I don't know the extend of your secret but since you decided to keep it, you should learn to push them back out of your mind. You might like to let out your secret to a priest or pastor if that will help you. :)
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
yeah. i think the priest can be a great help! thanks for the suggestion charms!
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@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
5 Apr 07
I have many secrets of even 15 years. But I have not disclosed to anybody. May be even small matter. It is not fair to other guys about someone else. If someone is telling us his/her secret thing life, it is our duty not to tell others.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
5 Apr 07
Just don't think about it. The more you dwell on it, the more pressure you will feel when trying to suppress this secret. The best way to not let out the secret would be to not think about it. Pretend it doesn't even exist. ;-)
@subathra (3519)
• India
5 Apr 07
I too have some secrets which i have not disclosed with anyone and hope i will never tell someone in near future.I too hope almost all people have something to be kept as secret which they dont want to share with anyone.
secrets kept undisclosed can sometimes bring goodness to life.then there is no necessary to reveal it to anyone.You may be knowing well sometime people reveal some hidden secrets to their loved one which can break up the relatinship too.
We have to consider and think more before revealng secrets to someone.Think in all possible ways.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
5 Apr 07
mskzalameda, what is it that you are actually worrying about? leaking out the secret? or the secret being leaked out? Is it your own secret or a somebody's?
Since it has been so many years, why not try to let go? If you need to, speak it out, speak to god, Afterall, God is supposed to know everything. Or write it out on paper and then trash it. Or tell yourself that it is an open secret. Forget about it, and it will be forgotten.
When the secret is revealed, you can really admit that you have forgotten there is such a secret! Hope I have not confused you :P
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
letting go of the secret is a tough job, i know you know that and it is more hard to do especially when the person involved with that secret is still connected to you.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
•
5 Apr 07
it would depend what it is that is being kept secret. If it is a positive thing, it can be ok to keep for years. However, if it is negative, keeping it all inside it can be extremely distructive
blessed be
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@jackinthebucks (217)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
I think everyone has a secret of their own that they are keeping only to themselves.They say secrets don't remain secrests forever so probably it'll be out soon or sooner that you thought.Seems that this secret of yours is making you feel uneasy about certains things it better if you can tell someone about it, well I know you don't want to tell anyone but it's really is a good thing to talk about it.You might find these weird but I talk to my pets about things I can't tell people, well they listen and my secret is certainly safe with them unless they meet Dr. Do Little.I think it really help to talk about things that's bothering us.
@chenvstony (365)
• China
5 Apr 07
Everyone has their own secrets and we won't let us know them including me.Sometimes the secrets are bad things but I can't change them now,I just regret what I had done,hope dear god can forgive me.
@AndiCat (325)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Would talking to a therapist help? Sometimes they can help us resolve situations
from the past that plague us. IF you feel an urge to tell someone, then a therapist may be your best bet if sharing with a friend or relative is not possible.
Will sharing this secret help or hurt another person? If someone committed a
crime, for example, then maybe it would help to prevent another occurence (in
addition to providing justice).
It is hard to hold onto something that tugs at us like this.
I do wish you well.
@raj101359 (54)
• India
5 Apr 07
Reading this, I think you have onto something that should never have happened.Are you a god fearing person ? Disclose this secret to the almighty, it will give you some peace. Keeping a bomb with you will never be good to you.Any time it can explode .Diffuse it before it bursts.The best method is that which I have told you.
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@manish243236 (591)
• India
5 Apr 07
secrets are meant to be hidden now and disclosed later. but we have some secrets which cant be never unveiled.
its better we dont bother them much and spoil our happiness. if the secret causes u tension,say to urself that u can be happiest without unveiling it. even i have some deadly secrets and i bury them in my heart and be normal to every on.....
first it would be difficult, but later it would be the best method to follow
all the best
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@borzack (597)
• Malaysia
5 Apr 07
oh my, is the secret yours or you're keeping somebody else's secret? are you a spy? are you an alien? or you've been married with 5 children and no one knows? hmm... well, i have a secret too. I think everybody have their own secret. but try not to think of it so much. The more u think (if it's about a bad secret) the more it will get you stressed out. cheers
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
hmmm.. it would be cool if i am a real spy ha ha! how i wish i am one! well thanks for the suggestion,, you guys are really a great help!
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
5 Apr 07
I don't know what to tell you it is a secret you kept it for years, so why not just forget about it and go on living your life in the present.
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@lossforredwords (3620)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
You know what this is what I learned from a documentary made for the life of M. Night Shamalan (did I spell it right?) "life would be boring without secrets"
I don't think you need to worry about it so much like you said no one will believe you if it will be unveiled, if that so then no one will try to know that secret. If you find yourself finding hard to cope with this secret then I think its becoming a burden.Is it something bad? or something immoral? If that is the case then maybe reveal it and have some advices from close friends and relatives.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
great insight my friend. new idea just popped into my mind while reading this answer of yours. thanks.
@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
6 Apr 07
if it is one that you want to forget and never think about again well here is one way. you take a piece of paper and you write down everything about this secret and how it make you feel and then you say a prayer and then you burn the piece of paper. and then never think about it again that is what I would do.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
well thanks for the suggestion my dear, i also read some answers that putting my secret on a paper then burn it can do help. i should try this method. thanks for that!
@uramit2003 (898)
• India
6 Apr 07
hey do not worry...there r certain secrets in everyone's life ..life itslef is mystery and u have to cope with it..i too have many secrets with me ...yes but i know one thing that when u are with someone and that secrest is something to do with that person then it becomes uneasy to bear with the secret ..and i think its better to shred off that one and lead a cool life
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
I agree with your thoughts about her uramit. thanks for expressing that.
@domesticengineer (576)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
There's no need to fret anymore since you said this has been years ago and has already been forgotten. If this secret is not affecting anybody then let go of it. If this secret is still giving your conscience a guilty feeling you better go to a priest and confess this secret together with all your other sins. The priest will give you the best answer ever because he doesn't know you and he's not into the secret but how you can overcome this secret.
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
yup i think will be a great help. He is the only one who keep a lot of secrets. he more than anyone else is the one who carries all the people's problem. He is the only person entrusted to be given that kind of job, to help the people carry their secrets and sufferings in life. thanks for that.
