An older woman, a younger man – in a relationship
By cdparazo
@cdparazo (5765)
Philippines
April 5, 2007 1:21am CST
What do you think of a relationship between a much older woman and a younger man? Age gap could go from 10 to 20 years. I know that there are few cases like this one that became successful and even made the headlines. A lot of people think badly about such relationship and are usually met with raised eyebrow and a sneer when they are seen together by their neighbors. I feel sad for them and who are we really to say that it is wrong? It is never wrong to love and some of them have proven that what they truly felt for each other is true. Many of them have overcome tremendous obstacles including those that came from their respective families.
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@ag_abscruzmd (2283)
• United States
5 Apr 07
Well, as for me, as long as they are both single, why not? These days, May-December affair (or even wider than this gap!) has been commonplace even in supposedly conservative countries (like the Philippines). I guess it's really natural/normal to come across someone you'd really fall for regardless of age because honestly, there's a scarcity of prospective partners. Hehe. Thus, I think it's now acceptable for a much older woman to have a serious relationship with a younger man because there's no telling what the heart would feel. Love just comes by without our knowing it, or even without our choosing who to love. It's not fair to judge others this way. As long as they're both free (not committed), then they're free to be with the one they love.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
We had the same reaction, why not? But coming from the Philippines wherein such thing happens rarely and a lot of people are still backward in thinking, would make one really think hard of starting a relationship with a much younger man. A friend of mine had such delimma and I really thought that the guy is really mature but she just couldn't accept that he is younger eventhough she is falling hard for the guy. Yes, love do come by sometimes no matter if we choose to or not but to do something about it and nurture it is another matter. Thanks for responding and may you have a love filled day!
@advicegirl (95)
• United States
5 Apr 07
I think depending on the ages, it can definitely work out. Age is usually just a number. However, I feel that the best cases of age difference being successful are when the guy is at least 30-35 years of age because usually, if he is younger than that, he lacks a maturity to be able to understand the older woman and be truly compatible.
Just my $0.03
All the best,
Zuri
http://askzuri.blogspot.com
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
5 Apr 07
You could be right, but I also see a relationship becoming successful even if the guy is much younger and in his early 20'2 but the guy has maturity. There are few guys who are really mature even at an early age which is i think a big factor in making such relationship work. Thanks for responding!
