close relationships between parents and children- good or bad?(adult view)

I think it is worth it to have a close relationship, We had this rule, it was called the bedroom rule. If they had to get something off their mind and not be in trouble they would tell me in the bedroom. I would advise them and never bring it up again. If anything happened outside our bedroom talks than I got to tell them off. It worked out really well, now that htey are all gone from home they tell me everything and I don't judge.

As a child it was always my mum that influenced me, she was the person around and provided 90% of the care, don't get me wrong my dad was there to, probably in body not mind! It was always my mum who supported me especially in my schoolwork and came to Parents evenings and it was always mum who I'd run to, seek advice and acceptance. If I could change something, well I would have wanted my dad to be more active in my growth and now I feel handicapped because I didn't have him as a positive male role model in my life. I think that's where I've gone wrong, he was a bully and sorry to say I seem to attract them in life, that's why I do not seek relationships. He bullied mum terribly and part of me hates him for what he did. They've been married 37 years and it's scary to think about that! I certainly do NOT want to get married, seeing my parents has put me off commitment for life!

My dad had a mjor impact on who I am and what I want to be. He taught me several things and I miss him alot. I lost him when I was 12 years old and my life has never been the same since then. I think mothers influence some daughters but not all of them. I also think some fathers influence their sons but not all of them either. If I could change one thing in my reltaionship with my mom who is still living, it would be that she be more open and accepting like my dad was and less judgemental.

Certainly all of us are influenced by our parents. At least those who have lived their childhood with parents. They are our first guides, teachers, guru whatever. Nobody can deny that they have the least influence of their parents. Some are good and some are bad. I have been greatly influenced by my father in developing a liking for reading, which has helped me a lot. This habit has been picked up by my daughter also. It is not necessary that monthers should influence daughters and fathers should influence sons. In fact I have been greatly influenced by my mother in many matters of life. My daughter also has been greatly influenced by me in various things. I think I am happy with the relationship I have with my parents and would not like to change anything.

I would say they influanced me in a good way. Then again I have good parents. I know some people that had bad parents and now hate life and everything that came with it. So I would say parents have a BIG influance on their children. If I could change one thing it would probably be the fact that I disappointed them a lot. Probably still do :P

I believe that both parents influence their children. My mother influenced me by being a great single mother and taking care of four children on her own. My father was also a big influence on the decisions I made when it came to the men I allowed into my life. Both parents have a big impact on how children grow up and decide to live their life. If I could change one thing in the relationship with my parents it would be that I was closer with my dad.