do u believe in finding love again and again??
By aissha
@aissha (2036)
India
April 5, 2007 6:55am CST
this question is serious and not at all intended to make fun of people,now here i go, this happens alot u find love in your life and after love is no more and simply it vanishes for some known or unknown reason ,and then u find another love and sometimes again heartbreak happens ,people who suffer heartbreak and found new love do u remember the "old" love or in anyways it becomes hinderance in ur life .all kinds of opinions welcome
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14 responses
@samrat16 (2442)
• India
5 Apr 07
The truth is we are human beings and we easily get attracted towards what we see and when we realize that person or thing is not worth, we start moving ahead in life ignoring the person or thing. I had this feeling of love some 9 times in my life and yes I admit all 9 times I was in true love lol. Now as I have got married to last one and am happy with my life. Hey I'm posing my love of life's picture here . My true love from childhood.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
6 Apr 07
hello Aissha,Yes I do believe you can find love again and again,but it takes time.I was in love once and he abused me and i fell out of love...Later on I found love again,much better than the first,we were togeather for many years,and i was in love...I lost that love..I tried a few more times but love wasn't there,then finally i found a new love...I love my husband now,and he loves me..We are able to love more than once,but each love is different..Its just like our children we can have a child and love that child,we can have another child and love that child also..Yes you always remember each love and sometimes it leaves sweet memories and sometime you don't,but you always remember.It only hinders you if you allow it too...You have to learn to move forward and leave lost love behind you..the besy way to do that is to focus on your new love..You choose to love...you don't just fall into love,you have to make a choice to love that person ,and before you know it,you do...
@aissha (2036)
• India
6 Apr 07
hi ma'am it was very woman question and you got it absolutely right,life is about moving on and so about love also ,thereis nothing fixed in life even we have a body that also cahnges and so does the psyche ,but only thing is commitment should not be broken asit is the integgrity of the [person and even that can go ,but has to last thing to go.
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
i think that's just how it goes and we just have to bbe optimistic, expect the worst but always hope for the best. we all go thru heartbreaks i guess but i don't think this should stop us from being positive about love. it's still the greatest thing. i think that we just have to learn from our experiences and from our mistakes, that way when we really find "the one" we'll know better than to let him/her go. i read Josh Harris' I Kissed Dating Goodbye and it said a lot about how relationships falter and how to keep it going. very nice book. i guess that we just fall too fast and we consequently fall too quickly out of it. it's just important to really really get to know the person and build up a really strong foundation for things to work. things could work. i'm really positive about that. we just have to do things right.
@juliaandrea_a (349)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
When you are young finding love for the nth time is very easy... You can easily get over it and hoping that the new love will be better. But as you get older finding a new love is not the solution to make you complete. Many couples separate because they are hoping that a new love will come and the sun will shine for them again. OLd heartbreaks will make you a better person, stronger and more understandable in the coming relationship. For me it's not as hindrance but a process that will make you learn on how to cope with the ups and down of loving someone.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
6 Apr 07
To love some one is like sharing their feelings and caring for the other. We do share things with whom so ever who are close to us in our daily life. Love isn't that easy to keep it up.
Once we find a person who loves us or if we fall in love with some one we will not hesitate to keep that love for long. We try our level best to stick to that person even though there may arise few differences.
Love after love i call it as infactuation. The person whom we fall in love with the first time will be a good memory for them for a long time even that love fails.
My first love has been a big failure and that has proved the worse part of my life which haunts me every now and then. Now i don't feel like loving anyone unless i have that full assurance that the person won't be leaving me at any instance of my life
I do believe we can find love again and again cause this ain't the small world and there are numerous people who care for others and its the way we choose people and we fall in love for.
@ydiwan (448)
• India
6 Apr 07
Intresting discussion i wish i could shed more light on it but no i fell in love only once and it has grown on and on ever since and though we have not married yet as we both are not ready for marriage but we know for sure that we are soul mates and our respect and love has grown ever since college and it has been now almost more then 10 years since we are liveing together so there was no need for us to look for love since we both found each other but still i think your discussion is happening and i think you will recive a lot of opinions from our members
@massaj03 (4367)
• United States
6 Apr 07
No I do not. I believe you find "LOVE" one time in your life and thats it. I believe you can be mistaken, or tricked into believing it is love, when it is not, and thats why something happens and it ends the "relationship". I believewhen you truly find Love, and it's TRUE LOVE, then no matter what happens, or what tries to come in between two people...it will not work. I believe Love finds it's way through any obstacle..I know that may sound dumb, but I don't know how to word what I am trying to say *lol* But in other words I believe that *~Love~* is found once in a lifetime, and when it is truly you will know it, with no doubts, and nothing stopping it from growing.
@gorgeousdreamer (1034)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
Well, that's life. Nothing lasts forever even humans. Sometimes we realize that we don't love our partner anymore that we have to separate with each other. But then we find another person to love again. A person really needs someone to be part of his life. We people get attracted to other that sometimes we wanted to be with them.
@amar_sandy1987 (1876)
• India
5 Apr 07
i cat say bcoz frm 7 yrs i have only one love my life partner with me so cant say sorry bye
@sridhar87 (16)
• India
6 Apr 07
This is a very good question came for discussion . If your loving a person, if your love is broken for some unfortunate reasons.. you cant leave that girl or boy simply,you have go to trust that boy or girl again and again ,you cant leave it as much you like it.And you cant love another boy or girl.And dont I like that.How could yo forget your first love,and trusting the second love
@babayarosun (126)
• Malaysia
5 Apr 07
i oni remeber my first lover.and the middle one i will totally forget about it. but sometime love do happen like this, keep find and find u will oni stop when the time your age is not longer allow us to do and of course the time and the money we spend. suffer heartbreak is ok at least it can help us to growth up i mean our thinking. and learn from each relationship until the meet the true love and willing to spend the rest of the life with him/her.
@lilyoungfella (1196)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
finding the real love.. but not loving again and again~~ its kinda tiring~~