Open Marriage/Relationships

I've been in an open marriage and it failed miserably, that doesn't mean I think all open marriages will, but in my case it was bad. In my case our rule was no secrets, no ongoing bf/gf type relationships with others, and to always be honest. Unfortunately my wife started seeing several men entirely behind my back and even decided to skip christmas day with my family in order to be with one of them. When I found out I blew a gasket, now she is moved out and living with another guy who she claims she was never with during our marriage but I doubt it. I think that open marriages can work as long as both sides agree to the ground rules and stick to them. Honesty is infinitely more important in an open marriage then a traditional marriage. Not that honesty isn't important in all relationships, but in an open marriage it is too easy to screw things up with an omitted fact, and an outright lie can destroy the relationship.

If I am correct an open marriage is when they see other people, not sure if I am right about that or not. I personally don't think that would be healthy in a marriage, I would think that it would cause a lot of problems. I don't think people should do it when they have kids as that would be very confusing for the kids.

I do believe to each his own so if it works for some then fine but it wouldn't be for me. I love complete commitment. So no I would never consider it.

I have heard about them but have never met anyone who has been in one and I haven't personally been in one either. It's just not something that really appeals to me. I have always been big om monogamy. My feeling is though that if both members of the relationship are equally commited to having an open relationship, then go for it. Just so long as no-one gets hurt.

I have only ever been involved in one so-called open relationship and it didn't last very long I'm afraid. My boyfriend at that time wanted to see other women, he got the best of the deal. He said he didn't mind if I saw other guys but I felt uncomfortable with the idea, especially when he wanted me to go with one of his friends.

Open Marriage/Relationships I think is a coward's way out. A selfish person's way, if you will. Relationships/Marriage is a COMMITMENT. You vowed to love each other and stick with each other through thick and thin. Once you call your relationship "open", there's no commitment, just lust, and selfishness. Calling it a "relationship" is a joke. You should just call it quits because you're ruining the meaning of love.

i am familiar with the concept of open marriages but have not come across any one seems like it is a closely guarded secret.well ive not been in one. One has to worry about diseases due to multiple partners, i fantisize having multiple partners but never been in such relationship.

LOL I just posted something about polyamory which is along the same lines as an open relationship / marriage. Personally, I think if everyone involved is mature enough to handle it then there shouldn't be any problems with it.

I thought I answered this already, but I can't see my post!!! waaah! I've been in a poly relationship, but it was closed poly and not open. (Involving specific people, not allowing any of the members to have outside relationshps going on.) I really liked it, but because of a certain problem with one of the people involved, it didn't last. I would definitely say it was a very happy time in my life when it was going on, and that if I met just the rest person I would be assuming to try again (assuming my husband was also).

I am familiar with the concept but I know I couldnt be part of one. If it works for you, great but I am a jelous guy and I couldnt allow my wife and I know she wouldnt allow me to be part of such a marriage. Personally if your going to be part of an open marriage, Why be in a relationship at all, then you can do whatever you want to whoever allows you to. Just my two cents but you asked.

I beleieve that when you make a commitment to another person and to GOD to love and honor and charish that person there will be no other. Those people who live in a poly marraige should not be allowed to bread or be around children. They should also be ready to spend along time in hell.

I once met a guy and hot damn he was fine... after a week or so of flirting, going to lunch, I found out he was married. HOWEVER, he and his wife had/have (if they're still together) an open marriage. I didn't know what he meant and he explained it. They're agreement was do whatever, just be safe (protection) and not to get involved w/ppl each other knew. I wasn't comfortable. I'm a one guy type of gal. But if that worked for them, more power to them. Ppl have the right to live THEIR lives how they want. I don't agree or disagree with the concept. I do however believe that it is something that both parties have to be comfortable with and 100% in agreement.