Parents Role?

Parents will have to accept that their children will grow and eventually become independent individuals. In due time they should be allowed to decide for themselves. The best we can do is raise our children well and teach them to pray for discernment all the time. If we are confident in the way we raise our children we should not worry about the deicisions that they will make in their lives. But they should remain a big part of their children's lives and should always be there to support them in everything. Reassure them that if things go wrong it is not because the decision they made was wrong but that things just really does not work right all the time. Never use the line, "I told you so" because it will discourage them to make decisions for themselves which is something important for them to learn because they cannot be dependent on you all the time.

I would hope that I gave my kids the foundation they need to become good, productive adults. If they ask for advice I will happily give it, but I wouldn't force my choices on them. They are not me and therefore have to make their path in the world. If I see them following a path that I can tell will lead to disaster I will try to steer them to a better one, but it will ultimately be their decision.

Parents mostly do the decisions when the child are still minor and under their care. When a child reaches age, they should be guided only on their decisions like giving advices and opinions but not to force the child on what to do. They say that a child can only learn to walk after series of fall. Hence, as an adult he/she should learn to do decisions by themselves and learn from it. As parents, we are here behind our grown up children and when they fall from their struggle in life, we're behind to ease the pain and wipe away the tears.

Parents should never force their decision on the kid as soon as he/she becomes an adult. Parents should raise their children to be independent individuals. They should raise them with values, discipline and build up their self-confidence. But when they become adults, parents should just be supportive. Children should feel safe to come home and talk to parents, even if something goes wrong. Parents should talk about certain things, the pros and cons, and leave the decision to be taken by the children..and just be supportive of whatever decision they make. If something goes wrong, instead of criticising, find a way to help them out ! Make them feel that mistakes happen and you learn from your mistakes....