Feeling down :(
By beckyjgb
@beckyjgb (67)
United States
April 5, 2007 10:26am CST
I started dating one of my best friends about 5 weeks ago, and on Tuesday night we had to end it.
I really like this guy. I know we only dated for 5 weeks, but we've been good friends for years, and I've developed real feelings for him. When we started dating everythings seemd so perfect and we got along so well. Then I don't know what happened. Just 5 weeks later we were fighting all the time and barely spoke to each other.
We decided to end the "relationship" and try to start over as friends. Our friendship is more important to the both of us, but right now it's on the rocks. I don't know if it'll ever go back to the way it was.
The worst part is, he lives in my building and we work for the same company. We're so close to each other all the time, but we just don't get along anymore.
I really screwed things up. I was too jealous, yet I never told him, I just bottled it up. So I was always angry at him and in a bad mood, yet he never knew why. He's just been through a lot lately, his dad passed away recently, so I didn't want to bring things up that would upset him.
Still, I really miss him :(
4 responses
@DesignDiva (379)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Gosh, doesn't that suck? I'm actually going through the same thing right now, except that I got really angry at him.
I don't know what to tell you except that it'll probably be hard for awhile, but if you are truly good friends, then I imagine you can overcome this. I don't know that it'll ever go back to the way that it was, but I bet it will become much better than it is right now.
My advice would be to give him some space, until he comes back to you. In my situation, my guy isn't giving me space and it's making me so angry that I may just totally drop him as a friend.
Good luck...doesn't dating suck? Ugh, I hate it!!
@DesignDiva (379)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Oh...one other thing I forgot to say is this: Don't be too angry at yourself that you gave it a try. Think of if you'd always been too afraid to try, you'd have always wondered. At least you were brave enough to give it a try, and now you can move on to the next relationship (when you're ready!)and you won't have doubts or wonder later in life what if...
I always try to live my life to avoid the "what if's". Sometimes it's much more painful, but I usually am glad I did it later looking back in hindsight.
@beckyjgb (67)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Thanks....your words really helped :) I actually just talked to him yesterday. I opened up to him and told him everything I'd been feeling while we dated and what things I would change if I could. I realized that I hurt him as well and I apologized for that. It was hard, but I think being honest with each other will slowly help rebuild our friendship. Thanks again! Hope your situation works out too.
@DesignDiva (379)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I'm glad to hear that you had a chance to talk to him. I think that as long as you're both honest with each other, it can only help to rebuild your friendship. I hope you guys figure everything out.
As for me and my situation, I'm not too torn up over it. I'm glad I took the chance, but I feel like once I got to really know him, he wasn't the person I hoped he was. I think he has a lot of growing up to do. And hopefully he'll find someone who's patient enough to wait for him to grow up! Haha...not me!!
@bgerig (1258)
• United States
5 Apr 07
you are right to try to stay as best friends. sometimes, people are not meant to have a relationship beyond friendship. I broke up with a girl who had been a good friend for years...and then we started dating for a short while. We went our separate ways and then started communicating again with each other and that has been the start of the best personal friendship I have. It will never be more than that...but it is a great friendship. I suggest you take a little break and then start over just being yourself and recognizing him for what he is...and I will bet you in another four or five weeks, you will be best of friends again..not in a romantic sense but in a true friendship sense. good luck.
@babayarosun (126)
• Malaysia
5 Apr 07
i think the thing is going to be alright. you still need some time. you are going to forget him gradually as times goes by. no need to force yourself just let it be becasue u never know when u going to meet another better guy in your life again. at least u had learn somethg from this relationship. u can choose to be his best frend again. no need to be too down because you had enjoy the process. believe me, u can find another man than can suit u better and love you more.
