Who pays?

For me it's modern times now, Man and woman should share. Dutch treat that's what they called.

Mostly my honey pays for our date. I always tell my friends whenever they ask me about "Who Pays?" i give them a ratio. I tell them; "Let say that you went out 10 times. 6 times tha guy pays for everything, 2 times the girl pays "Like Birthdays and simply for Fun" and 2 times they both Pay. Its the most acceptable ratio i think. 60% Guys pays for everything, 20% girls pays and 20% both of them pays. Even though the 60% usually becomes 75% since my honey likes to treat me out. I also believe there are times when you both need to share maybe when you plan to go out of town. :)

I like to pay my own way so for me it's normally 50/50 although further into a relationship it depends on who has the most money at the time I guess. Sometimes I'll pay or sometimes he will. I earn as much money than most men I know so I don't expect them to pay for me.

well see I don't know if I am old fashioned or modern,,, but the conventional things work in my case too....I would definitely pay myslef if I date a girl.....in no case would I want my girl, whom am I dating to pay.....Don't know why but it really isn't gonna work for me--neither for the inside me --neither for the etiquettes for me --and neither for my genuinity and gentlemanship..... you got it what me trying to say!!!

That's an easy one, in my mind anyway. Whoever's idea it is. If you decide to go for dinner you should pay, if it's your other's idea they should.

Hello scorpiobabes ... it was the man job to pay for the wages ..it not about dominant but for me the man must protect their ego in front of women ... otherwise he wants to "steal" your money ... hehehehehe .. Even i'm a man ..

girl please!!! i REFUSE to come out of my pocket when me and my bf go out (and i do earn more than him). Now in know that that may sound rude... but even if i did offer to pay he wouldn't accept it. i'm just old school when it comes to dating... i just feel that the man should pay.

I think the man should pay. There were times when I offered to pay but the men that I dated in the past did not want me to pay so that's fine with me.

i like to be treated like a lady when i go out with a guy, but if i ask the guy out, i will offer to pay and if he insist on paying then i say i will leave the tip or if we go to the movie, i will buy the popcorn if he buys the tickets (sometimes that backfires on you though) But if the guy ask me then he better be able to pay.

I much prefer to go Dutch .. if you are both working and in a long term relationship surely it's much fairer if you each ay your way .. special occasion though are the treat of the one who's doing the asking ..

good post scorpiobabes i know that in my country alote of women think that men are supposed to pay for the first date. but i don't really obey those unwritten rules. maybe because i do not date much. i usually met my partners in the strangest ways:) but if i do go out on a date it really depends on my feeling, i think that i can really "read" the person that is sitting besides me. if he was a gentelman te whole dat and insists on paying and i know he is a poor student that tries survivng rent and school pay every month i will try to pay my part or tell him that next time i insist on paying. but again there are no rules here. i do go with my specific feeling on that specific date:)

Me i think the man should be the one that pays in the date because in our culture the man is really the one who does the paying and its not good to see the woman pays the bills but if you are in the relationship together its alright that a woman pays too.In your case, your ex was broke all the time don't you think thats only his excuse?or trying to escape from spending.

Well, in my experience it's the guy who pays. They ask me out so they so it's implied that they want to treat me, right? Fortunately, I have never met a guy who wants a fair share when it comes to paying for the dinner.

definately the guy unless the girl doesnt care

I am a bit more old fashioned than I would care to admit. I feel that the guy should pay, open the door and walk me to my door at the end of the night. But I've been single longer than I thought I would and I wouldn't object to paying sometimes especailly if I asked him out. When my hubby and I first started dating he always paid and wouldn't let me pay for anything. I'm glad that you have a man that wants to take care of you and you can also treat him once in a while.

in my pinion i think its the man who will always pays when in dating unless the girl offers to pay then she may do so...

I agree with you, it should be the guy to pay since hes the one who ask you out! and admit it, the feeling is good when you know that the guy is pampering you like a queen, they give you their time, money and attention. but in our world right now where more women are being successful, some girls i know insist on paying 50-50 when they go out with their guy, but they tend to do it only if they really love that person. i dont see any wrong with that as long as they happy doing it. it must be love!

Yes, I prefer him to pay spontaneously because I'm afraid that if I say I'll pay he will be embarrassed. And I will buy other things to him because I don't want to owe him according to financial problem.

Frankly speaking,I deem the man would pay the momey while he dating a girl.Haha,maybe someone will said that I'm backwardness in thought!But that's just my actual idea. For what? I think is because my farther. He is a realy gentlemen I thought. Whenever he go out whit antic , he is alaways the paier !

I think that depends. My partner has a job and I'm a students so when we go out he tends to pay. I do think that it shouldn't be the guy that automatically pays. I try to chip in as often as i can. Basically the best situation possible for me is for each to pay his own share, that way f your partner takes you out and pays for dinner it's extra special :)