Making things work

I have a aunt nd a uncle that way. They each get a check and they buy their own food and bill their own bills. he did pay all bills but they still bought their own food... A lot of women are that way today. You took full time mother that stays home with the kids (some of our mothers did and some of us have stayed home with kids at one time or another) all you hear from them is how rough they have it. they should try working and taking care of a kid. but back to the point, with no skills after the kids go off to school. They themself with wanting something extra for the kids, or high priced curves to take some weigh off, or something for themself or kids. Husband tells her money is tight so she gets a job just for that matter. I think she should pitch in when needed if not more.Thats what my check does , it fills in when needed. It is put into the same account with my husbands. We never know whos money is going for what because it is ours. (if the case)i do not think married people getting child support should help pay bills every month. I think they should put in for some food, buy whatever the child child needs for the house, themself, school. but should not pay the monthly bills for two adults living in the same house together... Like they tell the women you knew that man had that child when you got with him.. well that man knew he was marrying a women with kids (called a ready made family)that may need help every now and then. Not to think will i will marry her , she gets support and that can helps us live... I believe a man and a woman should be able to take care of their own bills. If another man is taking care of his household and senting $200.00 to $700.00 to another household money to support his kid. I think it should be used on that child , that child should even have some sort of saving account or should never want for anything if $700.00 a month. you have to think some women do not think they should how to work .they said because after school day care would eat up the earnings. Then when they do get a job least the husband is not having to pay for her personal things, maintence, something she wants to buy for the kids. I wonder myself if they ever talk about it (money)? What do they say to each other about it ? I do not know the whole story for them so I do not know what to say or how to feel about it. I did put down some feelings on different reasons..

I don't know. Maybe this system works out better for them. I cna recall when I was married that we kept things in one account and my ex-wife would spend some of it. So when it came time to pay bills, there wasn't enough money for everything. Eventually, I had to keep my account seperate so that if I put money in it, it would be there to pay the bills. I think different types of money systems work for different people. If this couple is happy, they it doesn't matter too much. If there system of doing things causes trouble and anger or resentment, then they need to change it. I don't think society has anything to do with it. It is how the couple's relationship works between them that matters.

For married couples, there are many ways to deal with their family finances. The bottomline is as long as they are happy with it and live with it - that is fine!!