marriage

Usually it's because they don't want to get married. If you live together then there is no real incentive to get married. I think sometimes they may marry if the girlfriend gets upset enough.

When he find out that he can't live without her, he will make up his mind to get married I guess. Because if they are living together, there possibly few freshness to be excited about. Both are used to the situation and may or may not like to make a move.

For some reason I think men are afraid of committment. My boyfriend already told me that we should move in together but never sees himself getting married. He came out of a bad divorce but I do not think he should just say he will never NEVER get married again.

have you ever heard the old saying "why buy a cow when the milk is free?"I think that answers your question clearly!

Perhaps it's the person he's living with-or he could feel that the commitment is enough as it is. Living together as man and wife is marriage-without the paperwork. But, the only person who can truly tell you that, is the man who won't marry the person he's living with.

I read some of the other replies, all good answers, me and my guy have been living together for 2 yrs, we have both been married before (3 times each) and neither of us are ready to rush down that path again. We are happy, we are together, and we love and respect each other, and we take care of each other (in sickness and in health) so really what is the difference other than a piece of paper?

There are other factors to consider, like whether you have the money to get married, wedding day nerves, unconfidence of whether the men will actually provide all that is expected of them at the wedding ceremony and beyond. Personally I just thought at the time that I was not good enough for my wife, but it was just a period in my life that was soaked in depression and uncertainty!!

I have often wondered this myself. my son lives with a girl he has been with for several years. They have purchased a home together and she wants to be married, but he keeps hedging. He does not give a reason at all. I think a lot of it has to do with the girl. If the girl accepts the guy the way he is and never really brings it up or never really pushes for answers, the guy will not be married. She has gone and bought the rings, and set a date and started planning her wedding without him. Now that is all fine and good if he shows up for the wedding, but I think he may not show up. He says why get married when we have everything we need now. she knows I Love her and there is no reason to say I do in front of a bunch of people. I for one refused to live with a guy unless I was married. So to think because you live together is committment enough is not true. You should not live with anyone without the final ceremony.

Why would they? Unless there is an advantage, or legal issues, or a baby, cohabitating is pretty much just like being married, but with the freedom to leave without the hassle of divorce. I think men pretty much think of it as the same thing.