Do you sometimes feel that you do not deserve being a mom?

Guess what most moms feel that way sometime or another. Some moms will not admitt it. There was never a day that I did not question my decistion with my children. I was like you no parties, I went to their friends home and met the parents, I picked them up from school and knew where my children were most of the time. I am sure my kids did things I am not aware of. But my kids are adults who are well and vital citizens of society. My daughter is 29 and married, my son is 26 and lives in another stae and works. Both are resposible adults and know right from wrong. Give your self a break, you are normal, your daughter will say anything to try to talk you into letting her go where she wants to go. You might suggest if she wants to go then you go with her. She might change her mind. If you go with her once or twice then you will find out what is going on if the parties are safe or not. I went to parties with my children my daughter was OK with it my son hated me for it. Oh well he is alive and well and loves me to this day.

*hugs* You sound like you needed a hug. Now, as for your daughter; she is a teenager. This behavior of hers is normal, I assure you. Teens are at a time in their lives where they are -almost- ready to be on their own. The are chomping at the bit to get out there and live their lives, and parents are trying to keep them safe as they take those first flights out of the nest. While it may be possible, depending on her age, that you might need to let go a little more, it sounds like you only want what's best for her and to keep her safe. And that is a parent's primary job. Please don't feel that you don't deserve to be a mom, especially because of the words of a teenager! When she grows up and has kids of her own, she'll understand. She'll look at you in wonder and tell you "now I get it". Hang in there!

It is hard being a mum especially to teenagers as they are almost adult and will fight to get their independance. Be sure you have not got into a habit of just saying no without really thinking about it. Sometimes our gut reaction is to say no but there are times when if we think more carefully we can let our children have some independence while still keeping them safe. If you are too strict then they can rebel even worse than if you give them some leeway and independence. However once they get past this stage, if you really are being fair to her then you will become friends again, I'm sure she really would rather have a protective mum than one who lets her do anything she wants without caring for her.