What was she THINKING?!?!
By Backpack30
@Backpack30 (924)
United States
April 5, 2007 10:04pm CST
Okay,so I've just got to know what everyone thinks here. This is the rudest thing I've ever seen.....
One of my girl friends (we'll call her "Jane") was pregnant with her 2nd baby. Her best friend called up one of our mutual friends (we'll call her "Kim") to ask her if she'd co-host a baby shower with her for Jane.
Kim politely tells her, "Well, actually, you're really not supposed to throw a shower for the 2nd baby, just the first, but we can have a tea after the baby's born-that's appropriate"
So Jane's best friend said "Great! Good idea!" and that was it.
Well, Kim sees Jane out somewhere and Kim says, "Yeah, your best friend asked me if I wanted to co-host a shower, but a tea is actually appropriate for the 2nd baby....."
And Jane interupts and went, "Oh, no, I'd like a shower since this baby's going to be a girl and we had a boy first"
!!?!?!?!?!!??!!!!!????
Okay, so it gets worse....
A week later Kim gets the baby shower invitation in the mail (keep in mind-she hadn't spoken to Jane's BF yet about the shower plans) and opens it to see that not only were the time and date set without her decision, but guess WHERE the shower was taking place??
YEP! HER house.
So fast forward to the day of the shower.....
Kim decorated her home beautifully with everything from crystal choo-choo trains to very tastefully done pink ribbons and bows and has some nice music going in the background.....Jane's BF made the tea. That's it. Kim did everything come to find out.
Well, Jane shows up a half hour late, WITH her 3 year old son (Kim had to quickly remove all the decor that she had out because he got into all of it).
Jane walks in, casually says "Hi" to everyone, doesn't introduce any of the guests to other guests (we had no idea who they were-we had to introduce ourselves) and she goes strait into the kitchen to feed her son.
MEANWHILE, Kim has to turn off the music to put on a Finding Nemo DVD for the kid.
Yeah, so it gets better....
Kim then overhears Jane on the phone with her husband asking him to come to the shower.
Kim asked, "Why do you need him here?" but Jane just ignored her.
He gets there and stays the ENTIRE time sitting right next to her opening presents with her.
It was the oddest thing I've ever seen at a WOMEN ONLY baby shower.
Now, am I being too etiquette conscious here????
Am I wrong in thinking that this girl had absolutely NO manners and was the rudest thing ever????
What do you all think???
3 responses
@HeavenUnaware (1757)
• United States
6 Apr 07
You are not being too etiquette conscious at all. Jane and her BF were very rude.
Kim would have every right to be upset. I do not see anything wrong with having a 'shower' for a 2nd or 3rd etc. child nor is there anything wrong with having the husband or child there as long as it's established beforehand and to the hostess!
I would have been really upset if I was Kim.
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Yeah I think that was pretty rude. I would be so mad if someone sent invitations that said a party was at me house, and I didn't know about it. I probably wouldn't go to all the trouble she went to to decorate either.
That said, I don't see anything wrong with having a babyshower for second kids, or having guys there. But I think that if there were going to be guys and children there, it should have been included in the invitation that it was okay. I know when I had my baby shower, it was after my son was born, because we live 1000 miles from home. Everyone wanted to see us, since it had been over a year since we had been home. So my dad barbequed and the guys stayed outside and talked while the women stayed inside and held the baby and stuff while I opened the presents. We chose to have a really informal shower. I believe those are okay. But since that wasn't what "Kim" planned, they should have respected that and not brought in kids and men.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I I KNOW I wouldn't have gone to the trouble that Kim did.
I bought her two very low priced things from her REGISTRY. That was ANOTHER thing!! I've never heard of the mother-to-be REGISTERING for her 2nd shower. It's just not proper.
And you're ABSOLUTELY RIGHT: there is nothing wrong with guys and children being at the shower.......IF SAID ON THE INVITATION!!!
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I can understand having the shower but the rest the woman was way out of line. Of course I would have nipped it in the bud when I got the invitation that was for my place. I would have called up "Jane" and given her an earful along with her best friend. There is no reason for such behavior. She was not only rude but self-centered and childish to behave in such a manner to her friends. I would give her an earful and tell her exactly what I think of of her. Personally I doubt she'd be a friend after such treatment from her.
@Backpack30 (924)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Oh I think showers for the 2nd baby if FINE too, but the difference with this situation was that she pretty much asked for a shower!
And I'm totally with you-I would've nipped it in the bud too if I were Kim, but she was like, "What can I do at this point...."
And actually, we are good friends with this girl (which made it even more surprising!) but still, I agree, she was self-centered and childish.
And after seeing that behavior, none of us have called them to get together with us since and I can honestly say that I didn't miss them.....
