Do you think it is rude to request to be friends on mylot?

I don't see how it could be a problem either, unless they were spammers. I know some people are picky about who they choose because having too many people on your list makes it harder to find discussions started by your close friends under "discussions my friends started" but I go to all my really close friend's profiles and work from there anyway, so that doesn't affect me at all. Not only that, once in a while someone who friended me out of the blue will surprise me by being an awesome friend! I might have missed those people if I had been pickier. Actually, I can only think of one person I've turned down, and that was because of outright hate speech he was posting in a discussion I was involved in. I'm not sure what in the world got into his head to cause him to send me a request anyway. I really don't expect anyone to reply to all of my discussions either. Not everyone is completely alike, even if they share some interests. I would rather someone not respond than make a random response that doesn't add anything just so they can say they responded!

I understand completely. I would expect nothing less. I honestly wouldn't want someone to post on EVERY topic I post, because I know you are not going to relate to EVERY topic. Or even half in some cases. You relate to some people better than others, that's a given. I just don't see how it can be a problem having people as a friend, unless they are just spammers. :)

Hi there, me too! Ta for best response mate! LOL

I totally agree. I don't think you can ever make a living using mylot. The money is just that extra boost, so to speak. I, personally, enjoy talking with the people on mylot. Which is why I try to be friends with the people that have good ratings. Most the time if you have a good rating it means you are a good "friend". I don't get a lot of responses either. I probably give out 15 more responses than posts. Their is a man on this site, that actually just spams posts, like up to 50 a day. Pointless questions, that no one cares to know. lol. I really do enjoy conversating with most the people here. Good, intellegent, and funny people :)

But of course, you are not going to just start posting on a freinds discussion about "What child birth feels like.." and you are a man :) That's just silly. I guess I am more or less wondering "how" people choose their friends on mylot. Interests and what not... you know?

Indeed. I normally try to get friends that not only have the same interests, but also, a good reputation. So far I have no complaints. I did accept a couple of invites from some Work at home spammers. Don't get me wrong I post a couple of things about my blog which is all my work at home information. BUT! It is rare, and I don't spam it. :P Other than them, I have some good friends so far. Hope it stays that way. Thank you.

I totally agree. I add a few people that were spammers, and ever since I check profiles, and I normally won't just respond to something I have no idea about. That is just pointless and makes people have a bad outlook about you.

So, you just search for a discussion and if their topic seems interesting to you, you ask for to be freinds? Or is it when someone responds to your post and you find them interesting?

I try to do the same. I will check their interests and if I see something on their most recent posts that interests me I will add them, then respond to atleast one of their posts to start. It helps and I make a friend in the process.

Well, for me, the first 4 people I added as friends, were spammer "work at home" people. Now, do not misunderstand I work at home, and will sometimes premote my site. Once in a blue moon. These people like used the site to promote their site, then up and left. Yet, since I started my way of deciding who and who not to add. I have been very pleased. 90% of my friends post on about half of everything I post. Also, I can't see how having someone as a friend is bad. I know some people say only add people with the same interests. But say I have someone who has never posted anything worth responding to, then one day he posts something and it changes my life forever... Just a thought. I agree, the diversity on this site is great. :)

True, and even if you don't have the same interests as another. You never know when they are going post a discussion about something that relates to everyone... or you don't have A LOT of the same interests, but you do have some.. you know?

So you are saying that anyone who has freinds other referrals are impolite? Hmmm.... interesting. I just don't see how it could be. It's the internet. It is meant for making friends. If you can't "talk" them. How can you be their friend? Interesting point of view. And thank you for sharing your discussion.

Very good point. I am glad you brought this up. A lot of people just look to see if they have the same "interests" Now this is not wrong at all. Yet, neither one of use can have one interest in common, and still have a good conversation about politics. Though, I moreover try to get people that are respectful, kind, and give good discussion. Not just someone who can talk about video games. Thank you bringing that up.

I am willing to be friends with anyone as away from the computer I have very few. Most of them are guys anyways and they are only after one thing! lol. I hope we can actually be friends. Ill keep trying to reply to your discussions that interest me because I feel that is what true friends do. I understand people wanting to promote their site but many times it is a referal link just to get themselves more money. I too have a site on which I sell alot of things but I do not promote it here. I think mylot is enough to earn pocket money. I don't need to bother the nice people on here when I have a fan base anyways!

and for me not the earnings are important but the person behind this name on my friends list ;-)

I completely understand. I have been lucky as well. No spammers, some people discuss more than less, but I have gotten a good response out of all my friends. So, I am more than happy :)

I am starting to understand why most people try to keep their friends to a minimun. I have a little over 50 and already it takes me near 3 hours a day, just to respond to half of my responses. I enjoy the conversations though, so it doesn't bother me too much. I just don't stress, if I don't get to them all everyday.