yesterday was not a good day for me
@sandeep_2991984 (675)
India
April 6, 2007 8:27am CST
there hasnt been a good relationship between my mom and dad. yesterday again they fighted like everyday. my mom didnt get respect she shold have been got. i feel regreted for my mom and the relationship between my mom and dad. i love both of them and want to help them in their relationship but sometimes i get angry how my father treated my mother and say few wrong words in those heated and tense moments. i love my mom dearly and cant bear that anybody say anything wrong to her. she has lived a miserable life and no wi want give her respect and love and evrerything she wants. but i love my father also but he doesnt respect my mother. is there any way to sort out this problem.
2 responses
@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Yes, Sandeep, there is a solution to this problem - tell your father how you feel, tell him that he does not treat your mom right and with the respect she deserves and that you as their child love them both and want to see that they respect each other and live in harmony...
Your father probably gets away with all the verbal abuse because nobody has ever stood up ti him and told him that he is WRONG to do so - wait no longer and give your mom the respect she rightfully deserves.
Hope this helps...
@sandeep_2991984 (675)
• India
6 Apr 07
i have done all this but that did not work. their marriage in their 25th year. but my father doesnt understand my mother.he treats her like a toy. when my father needs my mother he behaves like nothing has happened but after getting his work done he starts behving like before. i cant understand that after living together for 25 years together how one person can not understand other person feelings and emotions. but nevertheless thanx for suggestion response.
@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Sandeep, could be that your dad is going through a middle life crisis and that could change his personality a lot!
It must be very painful for you to watch your mom being treated like that...may be your mom should amswer back and treat him the same way to show him what it feels like...
@sshazie (253)
• Singapore
6 Apr 07
I am really sorry that you are put in a situation with 2 persons whom are dear to you. First thing you have to know is that it is not your fault for what has happened. Many couples argue and most of the time id due to a lack of communication, pride, lack of patience, lack of understanding and stubborness.
May i suggest that you sit down with the both of them and let them know how you feel and how it is affecting you and the family as a whole. From what you stated, you love your mum dearly. Obviously you would side her all the time. have you asked yourself how this whole problem came about? We dun need to start pointing fingers at who is at fault for the whole matter though. Perhaps there are incidences that occured without your knowledge. Could it be something that your mum has done that your dad has not and cannot forgive? or coult is just be your dad's temperament? well there are just too many questions that will be left unanswered.
So the best thing is to get them to speak abt it. since the problem is there, seek an answer, get them to compromise or even solve it. Communication is the key. When was the last time that your family has spent a good time talking about what went on? what their plans are? what makes them happy? When was the last time you had a nice famliy outing?
no matter what it takes and no matter how sour the relationship is between your parents i think you should give them a chance and they should give themselves a chance to work it out. how many ppl out there are without any families to spend time with? Make it work, i believe you can if you want to. It is not easy, but give it time and put in your best effort. Good luck.
