Do you make friends easily?

I am the same way as you, I am very shy and observe how people act before I can feel comfortable talking to them, and sometimes I am never comfortable talking with them. I have a very small number of close friends which is the only way I know how to be, I tried to make myself be more friendly and outgoing but how can you fight who you are? the answer is you cannot. The best thing I can say about being shy is to tell yourself that it is ok to be this way and not to beat yourself up over not being like all the other people, it is ok to be different!

I used to be a shy guy but that all changed when i moved to my new school. Although i did not know they people and i tried to be as friendly as i possibly could. but it was not only me who had to try. the new people at my school were also willing to find out more about me and with both of us working i didnt find it too hard to make new friends. not everyone makes friends easy but its important to show them that you are willing to meet new people and then all the rest will fall into place.

No. I don't make any friends easily. It's just that ever since my school days it was hard because I was bullied almost every day. Add to the fact of my family life and I started becoming an introverted loner, one that enjoys not having friends in order to stay away from trouble. I was made the laughingstock of school, and my life was like Hell during that time. I could, cannot, and never will forget what happened to me since then, so no. it's not easy for me at all.

My head may be big but my heart is small. My orangy face tells everyone that I am one shy person. I do not make friends easily. I find it difficult to initiate a conversation with strangers and often find it awkward if that person is also like tongue-tied and anti-social like me. The irony is that if the person is overly confident and articulate, I will also keep a distance from him. I too select my friends, and do not treat all acquaintances as friends. I believe having only one bosom friend is still better than an army of generals (general friend). Of course, I am a bit greedy. The more bosom friends the merrier, it's just that it takes time to have such friends.

I do make friends easily..I dont usually go and sent a friend equest to everyone...I usually sent one to someone who gives me valuable,quality responses to the discussions.I think friends can really help you lots in here..I have more than 50 here but most of them dont even reply to my discussions..Im not worried as I think they all will be having too many riends to take care of...

No way! Though i like to have a lot of friends but ironically, when it comes to actually making one, i don't feel comfortable with it unless i know someone considerably well and find him trust worthy. I think part of the problem stems from the fact that i have spent most of the time of my life as introvert personality who loved to remain in isolation and alone, always thinking. It was only after i got into university that i really started making friends. then little by little i came out of introvert attitude but it still remains there, to a small extent, though. It also happens that sometimes, it's not other person whom i don't feel qualified to be friends with but I myself don't feel qualified to ask for their friendship. Having said that, in my last decade, i have made really very good friends, who are always there to stand by me whenever i need them. we are infact like a big family now. we are distributed in different countries now but always keep in touch and visit each other.

Well in real life i am an introvert. I was shy and reserved by nature as a kid some of which still remains. Whichever way you look at it. LOL. I have only few handful friends in real life until now as i believe in quality than quantity as i would like to have only true friends who can be treasured. And yes i also take time to open up and be friends as i feel have to some comfort level with them. I feel your mom had a great personality which made people towards her. But every peson is unique in their own way and i respect that. And i can be very friendly Gabs would attest to that. Charms i have been intersted in being your friend. Please do accept it. Thanks. :)

I can be really "Up" and "On" in social gatherings, but that is not my general nature. I like good friends that I can trust and that I know well. People think I am a lot friendlier than I am. Comes from clowning around I guess.

I only have a small number of friends and have a hard time making new ones. I too was very shy as a kid and some of that has carried over into my adult life.

I don't make friends easily at all. People judge me before they ever know anything about me. They will spend all day around me and never say a word. some of them will speak to me and then later on I find out they do not like me. We will get along like two peas in a pod and they will later tell someone else they don't like me for whatever reason. I have no friends because they all use me up or they do not like me for whatever reason they may choose. I guess I will always be a loner in this world. I hate it sometimes but alot of times I do not even care any more.

I can talk if I want to, no problem with that. But whether I want to talk or not, it will really depend. If I am with a new acquaintance, I normally try to be friendly though since first impression counts. :P Making acquaintances is not an issue but making FRIENDS (you know, the real real kind), that's another thing altogether.

Hello,charms88,I am also a shy woman which i seldom take active to make friend with people,when i am in a group of people which i meet for the first time,i tend to be silent and wait for someone to ask me something,luckily there will always be some people to try to open up conversation with me or i will be slient for the whole day/night. I am open minded in making friends ,i am not picky at all, but they need to be active in order to make friend with me because I am a passive lady. I do not want to be alone,but i will be happy if i get some good friends rather than heaps of hi bye friends.

I am a "watcher" My husband is amazed by this. he is very outgoing and talks easily with anyone. I prefer to watch a group of people. I can always tell who is who and exactly what they are like. My instincts have never failed me, and I have amazed my husband on many occasions, when I have told him something about someone and it turns out to be exactly how they are !! I have a close group of people I call "friends" I am nice enough to anyone who talks to me, I am just very selective on whom I trust and call "friend"

i am exactly like you and my mother is just like your mother. my mother seems to always be the star of the night. she can light a room full of strangers with her personality. i can't explain it. i'm friendly but only to people i already know. i'm talkative but no to strangers or to acquaintances. come to think of it, i am a LITTLE shy. only a little. lol. i am not consciously selective in choosing my friends, but when i analyze it, i do end up with a certain kind of crowd. i am content with the few friends that i have. i would like to make more friends but i find it hard to open up on the first meeting.

I am like your Mum , I chat to everyone and I smile at everyone , If we go to grocery shopping I will chat to the person waiting behind me at the checkout , I know most of the people by first name where we go shopping , When I go out of town shopping the assistants ask where have I been as they haven't seen me for some time , I smile toi everyone too ( as you saw in my discussions ) and I wave to all of my neighbours , I have been like that since I was a child and I think I am too old to change now , I don't think I would like to change really , I like who I am xxxx,

I'm quite a shy person...I also prefer to be alone at times that's why I don't mingle around with people. It really depends...in school we always need to be in a team. I have teams for school purposes and beyond that we are not even friends. We only hang out because of school. On parties...I do mingle with some people who I find easy to talk to. I have few friends which I consider true friends...I don't think I needed plenty of "friends" that I can't depend on.

I tend to be a shy person, mostly from sensitivity (yet I perform confidently in front of an audience, go figure - but that is probably because there is a different level/kind of judgment there!). I have never made friends or relationships easily and have never been a risk taker on a social level - probably to a degree that is far too extreme in some cases. However, I do hope one day I can be at least somewhat confidently social. I do have several very good friends... more like a few best friends instead of a big circle of friends.

I was quite a shy person until I turned about 15 or 16, when we had guests around at my parents' place I used to go sit up in my room and read a book and leave everyone else to it. Since adulthood though, I don't know exactly when it happened but I have found it very easy to make friends. I tend not to judge people on first appearance and can easily make a new person feel welcome at work or within a social group. In fact, it's well known amongst my friends, that if they bring a new friend or relative out with us socially that they can rely on me to make that person feel very welcome and make an extra effort to make conversation with them on a one to one basis if they are a bit shy and don't want to join in with the group conversation. I guess that's why I work in HR too because a big part of my job is welcoming new staff and helping them settle into the company and their job. x

I do not make friends easily. Not here on mylot or anywhere else. It is not that I am anti-social, but moreso because as I've gotten older, I've become a better judge of people and realize that most are in this life for what they can get and have little regard for others, though they may appear to at first glance. I need a person to prove themselves to me. Prove their integrity and honesty that is. If I do become friends with someone, then it is very special for me and for them, because there is not much that I would not do for them. But ultimately, I too am just a shy bunny I guess and left you with a picture of another shy bunny...

Being a guy i am not that shy to make friends, Well making friends to me isn't that difficult at the same time getting closer to them or letting them get closer to me and into my personal matters isn't that easy. I maintain some selective decisions in choosing close friends. You said about your mom that's really a nice quality and they will enjoy it in the old age. they need some one's company and they will cherish every moment when they are among people.