mother in law
By angdonnie
@angdonnie (16)
United States
April 6, 2007 4:27pm CST
I would like to know if anyone has problems with their mother in law, and if so, what do you do about it? My mother in law will be here Saturday night (she lives out of state) to disrupt our entire lives. I'm not the only one that feels this way. I have 2 kids, a girl 5yrs and a boy 2 1/2 months. My sister in law tells me that she said she's going to ask me what my problem is, and why I'm not feeding my son baby food yet. As for my problem, she comes into our house and expects everything to go her way, she has no respect for our schedules and kids naps. She stays up till all hrs of the night and she talks on the phone, takes a shower and watches tv, and she is not loud. Our bedroom is upstairs, and the kids are downstairs, I had a c-section and also didn't trust myself going up and down the steps in the middle of the night. She knew I was sleeping on the couch, and she stayed with us and slept on the couch, which meant, I got to curl up on the love seat. She also went to my sister in laws and told her that me and my hubby were having problems because I was sleeping on the couch, and she told her that we were too hard on our daughter. Does anyone have any advice for me???? I'm afraid it will come to a very heated discussion this time.
5 responses
@roshnichaudhary (1160)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I have a joke about this:
One person was very worried. He went to his friend and told "Some people have kidnapped my mother-in-law and demands a big lumsum of money. If I will not give that then he will"
after that he became very silent and sad.
His curios friend added "If you will not pay then will they kill her"
He replied " No, then they will return her "
@missybal (4490)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Well my mother in law disowned her own son for marrying me. He put his foot down and told her that she had no right to treat me so terrible. Really your husband needs to deal with her and tell her she needs to respect you more because you are a good mom and wife and you may not do things the same way as she would but that doesn't mean that you are not doing good by your kids.
@angdonnie (16)
• United States
7 Apr 07
Good for your husband for stepping up to the plate. I guess we'll just see what happens. I wish my hubby would deal with her (correctly, and not just give in to her). Why are mother in laws so crazy???
@ladymoonstone143 (1507)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I know it is quite hard to deal with this type of mother in law who doesn't mind her own business and has things to say in everything that you do.
How long her visit will be? If it is just for a few days, hopefully you can hold on to your breath and hoping the days will pass by so quickly. If she brought up such sensitive topics like you sleeping in the couch etc, tell her the truth that it is quite hard for u coz of your C-section. I just hope that she will be sensitive and will not brought up this topic. The less confrontation, the peaceful her visit will be.
Hold your ground though if she began criticizing parenting skills because you know very well that you are the parent and you know what is the best. If she respect you and your husband, she will not be saying things because she is just visiting and it will be quite awkward the next time for her to come visit again.
@angdonnie (16)
• United States
6 Apr 07
Thank you so much for your input. I feel a little better now. I just need to keep reminding myself that she is the crazy one with the problem. I mean she thinks she can get my sister in law's daughter who's just turned 3 to give up the bottle in 2 days while she's in because she's "that good". I'm sorry, I'm really not a negative person at all, except where she's concerned. I really get upset right before she is to come in. Thanks for your respose.
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I believe your husband should speak to his mother and tell her she is welcome to visit but she must not be disruptive to your household. i have a backstabbing mother-in-law,my husband tells her like it is than she craws back into her corner for a while,but it slike after a while she thinks it is forgotten and starts again.
@tseavellanosa (52)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
I don't know why some mother in law are like that....if you feel that your mother-in-law is worst...mine is super!!!my God, when we live at their house she doesn't want to close our bedroom door! and she sneaks even in the middle of the night, spying what we are doin!!!I am pregnant at that time and I feel like jumping in our bed because I thought I saw a ghost, because I saw her standing in a corner of our room staring at us!!we can't do our "thing" because we never know what time she will sneak in our bedroom!
