I'm not too crazy over becoming a mother soon- is this wrong?

I am seven months pregnant and feel much the same way you do at the moment. I really am not excited about the prospect of having another baby. My son is enough to handle and I worry how I will adjust to having to deal with him and the baby too. Right now, its just me taking care of them, because my old man is a trucker. So much of the time its just us and I'm SCARED spitless. I also have problems with deliveries. I tend to die on the table, so its a real worry to have this baby. However, I know that I love this little one with all my heart. And this time, I have the feeling, I'm not going to have it very easy at all. lol. I already have the fake contractions from h3ll! Dunno about all this. Definately my LAST one! lol.

sounds to me like you are having second thoughts about being a mom me and wife would like to purchase the baby from you how much?

I do not think that you are a bad mother. When you are having a baby, your emotions go crazy. Some days you maybe excited and others not at all. you can not compare yourself to other mothers to be, because we are all different. however, if you do not get more excited after the baby is born, or this is something that really bothers you and wears on your mind, then talk to your doc. about it, and see maybe if you have depression. This is really common in women during and after having the baby. Good luck to you and your little one!! :)

It's perfectly normal to be scared about the process and to be worried about the deliver, but for safety's sake, I'd mention it to your doctor. Some women really get screwed up by their hormones during pregnancy and it doesn't mean you won't be a fantastic mom. It might mean that you are simply approaching this more logically than some people or it could mean that you are dealing with a hormone imbalance causing depression. Talk to your significant other, your doctor, or your mother...someone who knows you well so that they can watch for signs that you are too depressed. Having a new baby is overwhelming to yor body and mind and in those last few days/weeks of prgnancy you don't get nearly enough rest as nothing is comfortable. Try not to worry, but make sure you have people there to love and support you and not just the baby.

It is probaly your hormones that are makign you feel this way and the anxiety of actually going through labor and delivery. Im sure once you hold your baby for the first time all those feelings will go away and youll never even remember.

It may just be apprehension over the actual labor and delivery that is causing you to feel less than excited at the present moment. Especially if this is your first pregnancy, I believe this is probably very normal. I know I had quite a bit of apprehension about going into labor and the actual birth of my son. It's all a new experience and you're bound to have mixed feelings of joy, love, apprehension, confusion, anxiety and a whole mix of other emotions all at once. You're definitely not a bad mother for feeling this way. I wish you the best in the remainder of your pregnancy, a smooth labor and delivery, and most importantly, a happy and healthy baby.

Becoming a mother is a big responsibility, and an honour to bring a new life into this world... so you should decide on the best time when you will be all set and ready to take this great responsibility...

It's normal. I wouldn't worry about it. All your emotions are hitting you all at once and it is getting overwhelming for you. Once your baby is here I'm sure things will change and you will just fall inlove the minute you see your child. Good luck with everything and I'm sure everything will be just fine.

its just normal emotions..my wife is also in our first born..afraid of what might happened during delivery and at the same time excited for aving a new one..all you have to do now at the moment is pray very hard for a safe delivery for you and the baby..

you may feel diferent once you hold your own child in your arms most folks do if not you definatly need to see someone about post partum depresion wich in your case amy be having an early start it doesnt make you a bad mother just an ill onne!

i'm sure all your worries will be over as soon as you see the cute little face of your baby..congratulations!

Of course you are not a bad mother my darling catcai! You are a first time mum unsure of what to expect and probably a little apprehensive! With my first I was on a rollercoaster and sooo scared but it is not as bad as people make out! I am not trying to be presumptious but as I also know a little of the background story the pressures of life around you will also be affecting your mood and how you feel about the upcoming delivery honey! I am sure when your beautiful baby arrives your feelings will become apparent and you will be like any other new mum! Please try not to worry catcai - we all react differently to any given situation and you are going to be a wonderful mum - stop worrying! xxx

hi, well i am a mom of 4 kids. All i can say that some people have different reactions on giving birth. I know with my first i was wondering if i was going to be a good mom. If i could give him enough love. How well would my hubby tak e to the baby was he going to be health was he going to be normal. I also was wondering if we started our family to soon, or wether we had our finances in order to raise him. there is many things that make you feel the way you do. like age married or single, hormones, delayed due date, money, doubting yourself. Plus its getting close to the end and like you said your are scared and confused that sometime happens. I know it happen to me with my last one. I wanted him and then again i didn't. I was in a new relationship and it was his first and i was done after having my 3rd child but then there was #4. Oh don't get me wrong i wouldn't give him up for the world. I had so many doubts about me and his dad. We had a rocky relationship andthings wasn't the greatest. My ex was making my life miserable. i was having problems with my pregancy and then the hormones. man i didn't know if i was coming or going some days. I would cry for no reason or fight with my b/f cuz i got pregant or cuz he was late. it was terrible the last month or so. so don't worry things will get better. Keep your chin up.

Hi. i think it's normal to feel scared or apprehensive about giving birth. i felt the same way too with my little girl then. i was scared of the responsibilities, of everything attached to having a new life in my care. i was also worried with all the pounds i gained. i had an excuse for being fat then because i was pregnant. But after the baby comes out, i was worried how i would look like and feel. I was also worried about the hospital bills and all the expenses having a child would incur on me. i was worried about the procedure, the pain, the humiliation of having to spread my legs apart to some 5 or more strangers who would look at my very, very private parts. Many are saying all these are due to hormones. there will be more ahead. be prepared for post-partum depression.get as much support from your partner, friends and relatives. you'll get through all of it.

hey, don't despair! i've had 3 kids myself and i've had varying emotions with each of them. but all are perfectly normal. as yours are. have you heard of postpartum blues? altho you haven't given birth yet, i think what you're having is an early sign of it. i've experienced the same with all 3 of my kids - the bouts of crying and unreasonable fears, every other mother has them. just go easy, take your milk and vitamins, have a healthy diet, exercise and think happy thoughts. it will go away, you'll see. and, good luck! motherhood is the best gift there is.

I do not think that it makes you a nad mother. We all have different ways of dealing with things. i am sure that once the baby is born you will love it like only a mother can. It might also be that u are bervous over the delivery.. Just relax - and don´t care so much about how other people are acting. You are You and You are enough =)

Nah, nothing is wrong! I got like that towards the end, i was sick of being tired, sick of having a huge belly that never fit through normal gaps & tired of waiting & waiting! It's also normal for first borns to be overdue, my baby was due on the 15th June last year but since i was having a c section she was scheduled to come out on the 6th - which she did but when they got her out of me, they said she was over cooked & could have come out sooner! That was all i wanted, her to be with us & not in my massive belly! Trust me, everyone thought i was having giant twins but no, just 1 baby 8lb 5 oz! You'll be fine once the waiting is over - i think the whole waiting is what kinda got me down too! Good Luck :)

i think you are normal, but your thinking is like that what others think about you. but it is good that you are not too much worried about your figure and enjoying the pregnancy. you are lucky that you have get a chance to become a mother. think what happens if you can not become a mother in life. so dear enjoy the process of nature and god and it is the right time.

I think it's the hormones and the "not knowing" I'm assuming this is your first. I remember I felt exactly the same way...and uncomfortable and irritable and tired. Really really tired. I couldn't wait to get it all over with. I worried that I wouldn't even love my baby after all that, but then she came and all those feelings went out the window. Don't worry too much, I think it's normal. Still, mention it to your Dr, but I think you're going to be great. Good luck with everything, and don't forget to let us know how it all went :D

Its quite normal to have double feelings about becoming a mum. Hormones will have a lot to do with it as well as worrying if all will be ok and if you will be agood mum or not. I think it will probably change once your baby arrives but if not you might want to be checked for depression as well as this is a common thing that can happen when having a baby.