What can she do?
By easyzheng
@easyzheng (666)
China
April 6, 2007 10:44pm CST
A 50 year old woman who used to be my classmate and has been my good friend ever since has a trouble these days. She asked me for advice but I don't know the solution either. Six years ago She met a young boy who is 20 years younger than her through internet and has taken him as a little friend ever since. But later on he told her that he loved her and would love her all his life though he knew quite well they could not come together. All these years, he would contact her now and again and always tells her she is always in his mind even though he has got married now. He said, "No matter what you think, I'd never change my love to you, even if you don't accept it." What can my friend do with it/him?" I don't know the answer. Can anyone gives me some ideas?
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@lil_monsoon (90)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
Let it go.. she should never take it seriously now that she have her own family. Leave it that way that she being loved, andt the only way she can make him feel better is not to make any decision that is involving him and her
@cyclonewriter (2168)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I don't know the answer either becaus I am not there to hear her responses. Does she give him the idea that she enjoys his attention or is she firm and lets him know he needs to move on? I think the most important thing whatever she does is that she is honest and straightforward with him. Maybe he will get the hint !
@easyzheng (666)
• China
7 Apr 07
thank you very much for your prompt response. Initially she just wanted to show her concern as he was wondering about his future, not knowing what's lying ahead in life as he lost his father at the young age and had not much joy in his childhood, what's worst, he was doing a job with very low pay and did not know how to change his life with his own effort. My friend emphasized with him and always encouraged him to be optimistic in life. So I think his feeling is kind of gratitude instead of love. But the young man insists it be true love. My friend is now in a "how do you do" situation. she doesn't want to hurt him.
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