Will you marry an actor or actress?
@lordwarwizard (35747)
Singapore
April 7, 2007 7:08am CST
Don't let your imagination run wild, alright? I am not playing matchmaker to any famous actor or actress here, or any small fry wannabes for that matter. Instead, I just want to share my thoughts on marrying an actress.
Flirting with an actress and getting into a courtship would be one thing - that would just be a game and for the fun of it. But if you were to ask me to fall in love with an actress and marry her, I think it would be hard. Of course, we know the old saying that love is blind blah blah. That is true of course - if it really happens to be some love-at-first-sight thingy... I would be pretty much helpless. :P
So why would I not want to marry an actress? The simple reason is that I cannot trust her! Look at it this way - this person is an accomplished actress who has convinced millions on the screen in every role she had been given. One moment she might be an angel from heaven, the next, a devil from hell. One moment she might be a dutiful housewife, the next, someone from "Desperate Housewives". Well, you get the point... so how can I trust such a person? How would I know whether she is lying when she says she loves me? How can I be sure she won't run away with another man who is richer than me?
I have told you my thoughts, so what about you? Will you marry an actor or actress? Put their looks and bods aside, how trusting can you be with someone who can lie and act so flawlessly? Do share your thoughts. ;-)
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
7 Apr 07
I don't think I would marry an actor. You see all the time how Hollywood marriages end in divorce. The go on set and do a movie with another woman, there has to be chemistry at some point in time. How can I be sure that they won't act on their feelings ? They are away months even years at a time doing movies, while I would be at home. I don't worry to much about the lying part, I think if he took the time to marry me, he must have felt something. I just would worry that he would feel some kind of spark with a co-worker and act on it, seeing it may be awhile before he sees me again. Plus I don't think having your relationship in the public eye helps any either. People constantly reporting where they see you, whom he is lunching with, etc. People interrupting our intimate dinners and vactions. I think it would be all too much for me.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
7 Apr 07
Well said, you brought up quite a few valid points..
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
Didn't I told you I'm not going to marry again? And haven't I been a good bunny to earn your trust? (LOL)
Will I marry an actor? The answer is NO!!! My reason is simple enough. I hate being put in limelight. My privacy will be shaken out of me and the media will start digging on my past. If you are talking about trust, it depends on whom I'm involved. I like to think there are some actors who are trustworthy. I do know of an actress (once a popular DJ in Singapore). She may impersonate a different persona while on camera but in real life, she is very humble and a loving person.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
7 Apr 07
Bunny, might you be some actress behind this bunny mask? Out with it now! :P
And yes, I understand the privacy concern..
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
7 Apr 07
No Lordwar I don't think I would
I like my quiet Life and also my Personal Life to be mine
I could not handle all the Publicity and all the Hectic that comes with it
You rPrivat Life is not your own anymore it gets shared with the World and no I could not do that
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
7 Apr 07
no way! i have been with actors since i was 6 years old.
my father directed then theater plays and i always was in there otherwise i would not see my father..lol
then i went to art school and fought with all of those acting students that always thaught they were the next king lear and then i went to study directing theater at the university and again i was with them you can say 24*7 and multiply it by my age..well i guess i did not have enought of them so i went to work at special projects at the theater..well no way i am merrying an actor..
first of all i like the attention and if you are with an actor they want the attention and there you have an ugly situation, second of all they are very emotional and need all of you everyday every hour and then at every project they finish they fall into depression..lol..
they are also a bit kinky and well..i think that you understood by now that i really want an account manager for a husband and not an actor..lol
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
8 Apr 07
i want to sum it up with saying, that most of the people never lived with an actor, or known actors a long time to really know their way of lifes and problems.
i do think that most people live in a fantasy world that the media supplies us. it is okey. but still it is very far away from the real world.
i can never say that all people, or all actors are arrogent.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
7 Apr 07
So you want to sum it up by saying that all actors are arrogant? :P
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@Suze05 (480)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I would marry an actor..especially a really hot one! lol The only difference between marrying an actor and marrying a regular person is that its a lot harder and you would have to be a very secure person. They live with everyone watching them and their lives being reported on TV and in the tabloids..and on the internet. They also have tons of women who are in love with them and hitting on them, sending them love letters, even though they don't really know what they're really like, and they don't care if they're married or have a girlfriend. You'd have to be secure enough and trust him so you don't get too jealous and have it affect the relationship. Yeah, they're actors and probably good at pretending and convincing when they try to lie, but in most cases, regardless of their job, in the end, people are people, and they act in their personal lives and relationships just like everyone else. They get up and shower and dress and go about their days, and have family, friends, and job responsibilities just like everyone else. They watch TV, movies, listen to music, and surf the internet right along with all the regular people. They just are famous and have lots of money. So if I met one, got to know him, and fell in love with him, I would marry him just like any other normal person in the world. What makes it harder to be an actor/actress and try to have a real, lasting relationship that will survive over time is people who get involved with them with thinking like you said at the beginning..its one thing to have a courtship with one, but another to have a real relationship and be in love with one..its a game..but you wouldn't take it seriously. That's probably why they go through so many quick relationships and they don't work out.. I'm sure they have a LOT of trust issues with any person they get involved with, wondering if the person really knows and loves THEM, or do they love the image, and are they just with them to be dating a star.
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@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
3 May 07
No, I dont. I will not marry an actor. If I have a chance to be actress, I maybe happy to accept it only for money. I dont think there is nothing important to seek for as a actress except money. Maybe you will say reputation, but how many actress have good reputation? Maybe you will say for a memory, it is true that the film will record your days from a girl to a woman even to an old lady, but how many good films can you have a chance to act in? Sometimes you get nothing important but lose too much time or personal life.
As an actor/actress, it is necessary to take part in social intercouse,then you must have less and less time to stay with your wife/husband. If you want a long and stable marriage, communication is very necessary between a pair of couple. Sometimes you have to kiss other actors in the films. If I am a wife/husband of an actor/actress, I cant bear it at all.
So it is impossible for me to marry an actor.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
3 May 07
You are right. Acting as a career makes too many demands on your personal life.
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@unisis (1673)
• Indonesia
3 May 07
I never think that i would be married with an actress,I would not want to marry an actress,cause of reason is that I cannot trust her,in my country a lot of prety actress but when she married only for a short time and then got divorce,look at it this way this person is an accomplished actress who has convinced millions on the screen in every role she had been given. One moment she might be an angel from heaven, the next, a devil from hell. One moment she might be a dutiful housewife, How can I be sure she will not run away with another man who is richer than me if she got..
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
3 May 07
Yea, many tragic marriages in the acting arena... :/
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@bindishah (2062)
• India
3 May 07
I wouldnt marry an actor either - but it has nothing to do with trust. The issue for me would be one of privacy. we all know the actors/actresses live a very public life and most of the population (& media) feels they ahve a right to the inside information in these celebrities' lives. Thats something i would not be comfortable with specially when i am the sort who fiercely guards her privacy. While its fun to be in the limelight and get attention for a while, i dont think i can go through a lifetime of that.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
3 May 07
I understand where you are coming from. I value my privacy a lot too.
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
9 Apr 07
You've made a really great point. However, would I? Well if I cared for them enough I just may. They'd really have to treat me right and what not. Then again I also feel like I'm a pretty good judge of character..but then again I know that doesn't mean I can really figure this person out considering their profession. I think I would, but if I felt something was amiss, I would definitely end the relationship.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
9 Apr 07
But isn't love supposed to be blind? Once you are swept off your feet, you become a poor judge because you are no longer able to be rational. :/
@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
8 Apr 07
Although I'm happily married. I have always told my husband that I'm still waiting for Jim Carrey to come by and sweep me off my feet. There has always been something about him I have always loved...But my family tells me it's because my husband acts just like him, maybe so...But still it the opportunity came up I'd sure be tempted... But then again, some dreams are better left as just dreams....
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
9 Apr 07
Won't your husband get angry or jealous when you say that? :P
@66jerseygirl (3877)
• United States
9 Apr 07
Great topic! No,I would never be able to marry a celebrity. The main reason being is they make amockery of the marriage vows.They get married and the next thing you know,they are divorced.They go one from lover to the next and if the spouse finds out ,they act like it's no big deal to them. I cannot be married to someone like that.Marriage vows are important but they take them too lightly.
@gegegelay (933)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I don't think I would want to marry an actor. See, first is that they're actors, and heck.. they're probably already lying to you if ever they said they're seriously in love you. I mean.. c'mon.. they'd probably go for someone who's also into the same kind of thing as they are. Unless the actor's really not that type.. unless he's a Christian.. then I think he might have a chance to win my heart ;)
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@aprilsong (1884)
• China
9 Apr 07
Well,i will absolutely not marry an actor.Cuz their jobs are just like playing games of love.In modern today,even a man who is not actor can lie and lip-service woman.Then how about an actor?I have seen very very few actors and actress can have a lasting marriage.Human is an animal of feelings.Just image an actor or actrss who has play games and flirted with others on the screen for so long time.How can't he or she has no feeling with that person.
They are so unreliable and i would no way to marry such person.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 Apr 07
If I married an actor I would not be that insecure to feel that he is acting when he says he loves me. I have nothing to offer him but my love, I have no money, no status in the community no fancy job etc. So that would not be a problem.
But although the rich life style sounds wonderful, it is hard, the actors that make the most money are always gone on shoot and work hard as hell.
I don't know if I want that life style.
But I would marry a smaller closer to home struggling actor the gets a project by project half decent pay check.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
8 Apr 07
i dont choose in whom to love..may it be ordinary or an actor itself..having a bf that is an actor is not easy since you have to protect some image or whatever..your concern is trusting an actor...actor is the same as any man who will court you ,,they are all wearing a mask and its for the girl to un masked him so that she will know if that particular man can be trusted..and thats how i choose my partner..it needs a long courtship and getting to know each other stages before you can trust anyone...
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
8 Apr 07
You are right. Actor or not, actress or not, it's probably quite the same with everyone else.
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@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
8 Apr 07
Wiz, I don't think I'd marry an actress. On closer reflection, I don't say so because I don't trust them, or because they do love scenes in their work. And yes, sure they can "act" but it's difficult to keep up an act ALL the time.
My main reason for saying "no thanks" is that I am a fairly private person, and people in the performing arts live very "public" lives. Yes, love may be blind... but I have to wonder how compatible I could be with someone who's OK with being in the limelight, and in the tabloids, and living a life where some photographer is hiding in the bushes. I don't think I'd want to be part of such a lifestyle.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
8 Apr 07
Trust is just so very important in a relationship..
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@DeaXyza (577)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I don't think I would ever marry an actor not because of trust but because of the silly paparazzi that is in their lives constantly, they lie in wait like a hunter for his prey for the actor or his wife to do just anything and mess up their lives for themselves. The press is hound a news thirsty, non imaginative, manipulative, ruthless hound and I shall thank my stars to be away from them.
I feel I do not have the nerve to be in public eye all the time it is just not possible for me to share what I eat or wear with the whole world and well I am a very private person.
I also feel an actor or an actress are as true in love as just any other person, the media make a circus of their lives and often they succumb to it. There are many hollywood marraiges that are in great shape case point being Will Smith, John Travolta but you must also look how well they have kept their lives shrouded from the media and that is why they are successful. If it were me and minus all the media attention and if the person is truly in love with I have no qualms about it, but since everything lies on the hypothesis of media not being there I guess the answer is no, no and an emphatic NO Thank You. I am very happily married to a man I love and maybe if he becomes an actor tomorrow I will always be his wife irrespective of how famous or infamous he is!
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@ursfriend (218)
• United States
8 Apr 07
I would like to marry some beautiful actress, but i would also like to restrict her from acting after marriage.