Have you been labeled RUDE because you speak your mind?

People who tell the truth straight out without the play with words are usually labeled rude for being brutally frank. I have been labeled like this many times in my life. Until time came when I finally accepted that this can't go on. We can hurt some good friends this way. Now, I always try to make telling things on a lighter way. I have tried to play with words while coming out with the truth in the process. I find it difficult because, I was never brought up this way. My parents always used to level things with us straight up, no beatings around the bush.

Yes I talk flat on face. My I have not been labelled RUDE. It actually depends on the way you speak. There are various ways of speaking the truth. If you are polite while saying truth, then may be you will not be blamed for being Rude. I am well popular amnong my friends for saying things directly, for not hiding facts, and also for being straight-forward.

I useed to be straight and plain spoken. This habit has done more harm in my official work. I hate to find people taling sweet words and acting just the opposite behind the scene! But such people only come up in life! They are termed tactful!

LOL ..very good ..you are just what this world needs , if more people wouldn'y be afraid to speak their minds then I think there would be a lot less misunderstandings among all of us. I am becoming more and more that way , I am tired of trying to keep silent about something. One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone is constanly whining and complaing about different things in their life that they can change if they chose to .Thats when I have really been more apt to speak my mind . In fact I told someone just the other day they were complaining about how little money they make and I flat out told her to do something about it and quit with the whining, sitting here telling me all the time is only bringing you down and me . you need to decide to change things in yojr life and move on .Well guess what she started going out and putting in applications at better paying job sites and she has a new job starting Monday . I told her how proud i was of her...she will feel much more confindent to with herself ...it was great all the way around. Sometimes alittle push is all someone needs to realize just what they have been doing and for her it made her open her eyes and see just what she was doing ...

Actually, I see a lot of that on mylot. This is supposed to be an open forum, but often when someone speaks their mind it is not always what everyone wants to hear. I mean if you start a discussion, have an open mind when it comes to the responses you just might get. You may no like them, but hey, it IS an open forum. To call a person rude for telling it like it is, makes no sense and takes away from this site.

i hear ya loud and clear..and i agree to an extent..i used to be just like that blunt force trauma of words indeed..but then i had to step back and learn theres so many ways you can be frank and not come off totally annoying or nasty..like phrasing things in the way of a question to see what response you get to then go in for the actual truth as you see it..there is always a way to tell someone something not so nice, without the sugarcoating..sometimes it will shock the person into actually thinking about the issue therefore thwarting it from ever happening again..lol.. like the saying goes..words hit like a fist..so you have to eventually slow your roll and think of what your saying as perhaps being detrimental to ones thoughts of ones self.. its liberating to be able to have the no "sugarcoating " rule..i know..but you have to step back and ask yourself..is this for the persons benefit or purely shock value..or to be validated for making the person feel like crud.. think about it..

i only speak my heart and mind to people i am really closed to. i say what i wanna say even if it hurts. and yep, i had been labeled rude most of the time. and i don't blame them for calling me as such. i am guilty of it but i am proud to say i have the guts to say what is true and what is real for me. my opinions matter most to the people i am closed with. and even they know how rude i am, they always try to seek for my advice because they know i am gonna say what i have to say rather than not be honest at all.

yes i do speak my mind now and again and in the past i have been labeled RUDE and CHEEKY. but it never bothered me the slightest

I'm a very soft spoken bunny. But I don't mince words just to please the person I'm talking with. I can speak whatever is on my mind but in the most gentlest and calmest way. I found this to be more effective rather than resorting to using some few harsh words. I always emphasized that I respect everyone and I like for them to return the same gesture to me. :)

I have been labeled rude for speaking my mind. Quite frankly, I don't care. My friends know to take what I say with a pinch of salt. They know that no matter what I'll tell the truth as I see it. Heck, I'm not going to lie to people. If I see something that I think is wrong I say so. If a friend asks me if something makes her butt look big and I think it does, I'll say so! I find that a lot of times, people ask someone something because they think they'll get a flattering response. It's almost funny to see their faces sometimes when I tell them what I think LOL.

too many times i was perceived to be rude because i speak my mind and i speak of the truth. i dare to speak even if it is unspeakable to many. but for the interest of the truth.. i just spill the beans.

Yes, i have been called rude by a few people for saying what i mean, when it was not acceptable. It does look funny to me, maybe because i do not think that rude is the right word for this. i really think that the people that called me rude, are not able to hear any different opinion, then there's, and that is a pitty. i do know that people do call me stubborn, and a person that will say what she think, even if she is the only one that things in that specific way, and the rest of the group think the other way.

I'm considered to be very rude guy in my life. I'm a person you can expect to speak anything anytime if the thing is true. I trust in straight forwardness and don't care about what effect it makes. I love to speak what I want to . Yes, I have found people hate me for my straight forwardness. I also think that it hurts them and even it hurts me too as I will be disappointed if I lose a friend just because of speaking truth. Yes , truth hurst and nobody like truth.

My old motto used to be "if you don't have anything nice to say, say something rude". However I realize you can't always say what you think because of the social implications but with my close friends and family I always speak my mind and of course some have labeled me rude because of this. The truth hurts, but truth is remarkably better for you than ignornace.

If I know that I am right, then I will speak my mind for sure and look out whoever it is. I dont care if people think that I am rude. I have done it a few times now for people talking behind my back and if they dont like it, THEN STIFF LOL!!!

Oh god yes. And it is fuuny to me that people want you to give them the truth and then when you do, they don't like it. There are far too many people that go through their lives taking all kinds of crap and then crying and moaning about how unhappy they are. When all it would take in the first Place is a NO or telling people what they really think and not sugar coating.

oh dear i talk what i wan tor what i feel but i hv to pay heavy price for that sometime actually it takes guts to face the truth and few pwople have so now i on hv decided i'll see who can handle it and who can't.

good thing it's a no. they replace the word rude with mean or frank and loud. yeah i am a kind of person who speaks of what is really behind my mind. i am not that type of person who says thing just to get a good feeling with another person. sometimes i do hurt another people's feelings but that is just the truth. you're right about truth really hurts. but sometimes, there are just some creatures who can't take those words and that they are too sensitive about things like that. another way of expressing my feelings towards that person is to keep away from him/her. if my words really hurt his/her feelings and he/she don't accept me with that then go on, i can live without you. if you are too hard headed i can manage my life without you. in some cases, i just shut up if i knew that the person is really a sensitive one. in important cases is just the time i speak when it is really needed to say or else i am gonna explode ha ha!

Sometimes people take it the wrong way whenever someone speak himself/mind, tho sometimes, it is better that we speak out ourminds, but I guess it would really depends on what kind of people are you being too open with. Since we all differ from one another, there are some who are narrowminded but there are some who will respect one's opinion. It will also be depending on how you will say it..

yes but i think its there problem not mine cause i am just telling the truth and its not my problem if the truth hurts or they cant just accept the truth. it my opinion and im just saying it or giving its their choice if there gonna mind it.