fiance jittery about 2nd marriage

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we have a great relationship.we love each other,and when we fight we try to talk until we are okay.he understands my eccentricities,and i understand his compulsive behaviors,though we sometimes want to choke each other.he is definitely a man who will never cheat on me.here's the thing....i am 31,he is 45.he has been divorced for 15 yrs and swore to himself he would never remarry..till he met me.he has done his share to push me away,but begged me back and wants to be with me till death(his words).we are slowly putting plans together to get a place the beginning of next yr,and we have put off getting a ring and wedding plans because he had lost his job and was looking for another.he has told me more than once that nothing will stop him from marrying me,that he has lived w/o me and the alternative was awful(again,his words).well,lately when i mention anything about it,he gets really quiet and kind stares off into space.a few weeks ago,i was mentioning that i took my daughter out to look at dresses,and i might get one.he quietly mentioned that we haven't even set the date yet,and left it at that.i knew that,but i also know how long it takes to look.he recently got a really good job,and a few wks ago got a GREAT deal of money from the retirement he had saved up from his last job.i'm kind of hurt that i haven't gotten a ring or even a mention of a ring.now i'm NOT selfish or a big spender.i think it's MUCH more important to have other things,and he knows i would happy with something that costs very little(less than $200,preferably),but not even a MENTION of one.he told me that if he got this job,that we would more than likely marry sooner than later,because both of us wanted so badly to be married.this isn't the only thing,or i WOULD be selfish.i'm afraid to mention the wedding at all now,because i don't want him to feel pushed.i have been thinking about this,and i had noticed some other things that i didn't really before.he refers to me as his girlfriend,while i refer to him as my fiance.now,i could understand the difference if we had only discussed marriage,but we have made it clear to everyone that are going to marry and i don't have a ring because he couldn't afford one.i guess what i'm saying is....how could he just suddenly feel pushed when we have both been talking about it and looking forward to it?????? should i be alarmed at all or do i just calm down??see,my 1st husband married me because it was "better than losing me".it was hell,and i will not do that again.now i'm just afraid that when he DOES do the ring and we set the date,that he's doing it for that reason also.