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Quick way to test one aspect of male maturity. I once read something someone wrote to an advice column. He wanted to know what he should do about a friend his girlfriend doesn't like. His friend told him that the reason she didn't like him was that she tried to come on to him once and he turned her down. His description of what she did was that she "stretched and preened" in front of him (whatever that means!). He went on to say that he could have had any of the girls he's ever dated (The guy mentioned that his friend has always found himself irresistable.) and that he shouldn't get too worked up about it, but should just accept that that's the way it is. The guy who wrote this said his girlfriend denied it and he didn't know who to trust. The advice columnist had a detailed answer which I actually thought was really good. I wish I still had it. But, when someone hears about this (or a similar story), the response is usually.... A. His friend is obviously full of himself. B. He should dump his girlfriend. C. That's tough. How does he know who to trust? D. Why do you think about these things so much? Believe it or not, your answer does tell me something about you. Judgemental? Maybe. But, it's better than living with no sense of judgement at all. If your answer was D.... You never really know someone when you first meet them. It's frustrating. Maybe, I've gotten lazy, but I don't like having to think about people so much, anymore. Whether they mean to deceive you or not, in the beginning, you alone see them at their best. It isn't until you get to know them that you see what a complex mess of issues they are....but by then, you're probably already emotionally attached. But, I've found that you can pick up clues about someone's mentality early on by the way they react to certain things they hear about.