how to be a good wife

Philippines
April 7, 2007 8:03pm CST
i wanted to be a good wife, i want tips from all of those wives out there... i want that my husband be happy of me be contented..what are the responsibilities of a better half
6 responses
• India
8 Apr 07
my husband, he excepts me to be very kind and forgiving when he makes mistakes. though i get mad at all his mistakes, i try to keep calm and explain him. there are situations where husbands they wont realise their mistake and explaining to them at that point of time is useless, only our heart will break with every answers they give... so when you want them to learn a lesson, when you want them to do thing in your way, you need to tell it in a very kind, loving way... we should not spend too much with his money, everytime he spends a little more on us, we should show him that we bother about his expenditures... but dont tell him that he's a spendthrift, blah blah stuff... because next time he wont buy you anything... take care of their kids, mother and father properly, that way you can have your husband on your side. dont hit children, warn them on their mistakes, punish them only when its very necesary, esp dont scold the kids when husband comes from his office... dont start any gossips when he's tired... be a responsible person in front of everyone, esp in front of his friends... these are someways i try to tame my husband... ((lol)) tell me what you do....
• United States
8 Apr 07
I wouldn't be able to tell you since my husband is always complaining that I am not a good wife. I guess me giving birth to three lovely kids plus working full time while he stays at home to pursue a new career is not a good wife then I don't know what a good wife is.
• United States
8 Apr 07
Dtaggett (((hugs))) I am so sorry your husband is not showing you appriciation and support right now Is it because he is so wound up in his own new ventures that he just doesn't 'see'? I hope that this situation is not causing you to become bitter or negative You sound like a courageous lady
• India
10 Apr 07
well i think its the inferior feeling he has that makes him speak that you're not a good wife. if i were in your situation, i would speak to him and know why he feels that i'm not a good wife... i would express that i'm trying very hard to be his best in the world... i would help him to get what he wants to achieve... and i will not make him feel that he's useless sitting at home and being a burden to others.... i know how much it hurts when our beloved ones says that we're not perfect... i can say you're not the isolated one in that case, it happens between every couple... its human tendancy that we forget all the good things done by some person and remember only the negative things.... i pray your situation will change... happiniess is hidden in our ways.... not so difficult to find it, i hope you speak to your guy leaving all ego and anger... and make him understand that you're his best, and remember make him realize that you feel very lucky and excited to have him as your husband.... i hope you would have tried all this, but this is all i can say for you.... good luck....
@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
21 Nov 07
"how to be a good husband." Same thing as being a good wife. Accept and love your spouse for everything that he/she is. Be there if he/she needs a hand to hold or a shoulder to lean on. Don't demand, don't take for grant it. Let your spouse know that you appreciate them. Don't make your spouse feel subservient and don't be subserviant. Be equal partners and accept responsibility equally.
• United States
8 Apr 07
First on my list would be for you to study, and follow the 31 chapter of Proverbs in the Bible Not a popular thing but really, really the best description of a WIFE Don't fall into the currently popular trap of putting down, complaining about your husband Talk about, brag about, all of his good qualities Be warned, others will make fun of you for this but you and your beloved husband will reap huge rewards in closeness and contentment Be a wife your husband can TRUST with his deepest secrets
@neenasatine (2841)
• Philippines
8 Apr 07
i'm not married yet.. but most of my male friends telling me that they need a wife who is not a nagger... they get easily feel irritated if their wives are nagging everyday... next is as a wife you should be sweet to your hubby even in simple ways... and even if you have children already, pls dont forget to take care of your husband and be more sweeter to him... of course you should not taken for granted your hygiene and physical appearance... your husband is a guy.. so he usually cannot avoid to see good looking gals so try to be the most beautiful among those gals and the most fragrant and sexy...oooops your figure... watch out for it.... AND WELCOME TO MYLOT...
@jmathen (112)
• India
8 Apr 07
I really dont think there are any tips for being a good wife ! In my experience, If you can understand your husbands feelings, thats the most important thing ! Sometimes women just get too much into their busy schedules and often forget to give their whole attention to their husbands when they are talking. I believe husbands should feel that they can open up to their wives whatever they feel inside at any time of the day, day or in the middle of the nite ! Its that communication that brings partners more closer and if they can get their communication paths clear, everything else in their lives can be put in order ! I dont mean thats the only way to be a good wife, But I believe thats the first thing a wife should be focusing on...
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
It takes a lifetime to know oneself, they say. And with a partner, it takes double a lifetime for both of you. And that is what makes it so wonderful. The excitement of not knowing. Some might think that after years of being together, the mystery is gone, and that is what mostly happens to relationships, they wither and die. But I believe otherwise, there are lots of mysteries in a person that you ought to discover. We even surprise ourselves everyday of things that we find novel with our partners. like the way he stares at you when he wants to be pampered, the different smiles and stares that he has for different reasons, and a lot more different things about a person that you will discover each and every day together. Forever is just a word so to speak. But wanting to spend forever with someone, without knowing what to expect, is indeed life's everyday miracle and is worth celebrating all throughout your lifetime. Being a good wife is effortless and effortfull at the same time. Exhausting your every creative and romantic powers to come up with different tactics and instruments just to tell your partner or show them that you are so crazy in love with him. There must be something really special in you that he saw. Remember, he fell in love with you. He fell so hard that he wanted to be with you for the rest of his life and even after life. That something that he saw in you should remain with you. Your own person. When one marries another, they become one. But they are still two individuals from different paths who can live without each other but chose to be together. Because they can survive life without each other, but life is definitely happiest and complete with the other. You have found a place in this world when you finally meet the ONE. You have found your home. I used to be a wanderer in this world, just floating around. I never really knew what my life is all about. Not until I loved him and he loved me. I began to live when all I did was exist and get by. They say that you should be happy on your own before you can be with another. that is so true. Life will be double the joys when you are together. Take care of yourself as you take care of your hubby and kids. Yes, be beautiful and continue to flirt with him everytime you can. Communicate and listen. Pour out feelings to each other. Be comfortable with each other but not too much that you lose the mystery. Be a good homemaker. Have a positive attitude towards life. Be your own person. continue to reinvent yourself and learn new things that will ultimately add a spark to your relationship, enrich friendships, love each other in lots of ways unimaginable, dance the dance of love and perfect it with every move...You may make some mistakes, maybe step into each other's shoe sometimes but you will get the beat with every sway, never give up on love because love never gives up on two people who love each other. Be better everyday.And you know in your heart he has the same thoughts in his heart, to be better for you..