Is marriage accross cultures bad?
By Nic
@academic2 (7000)
Uganda
April 8, 2007 3:53am CST
I have heard many instances where cross culture marriages in my country have caused a lot of stress to the parties concerned. Love is a thing that attacks those involved without considering the petty issues such as cultural or racial differences. I have personally married outside my culture, I have seen certain Europeans from the U.k and Italy, happily married with African women. Ofcourse, I have also seen a Brittish man, do a costly wedding in my city but when his tenure of service in my country was over, he travelled with his African wife but abandoned her at Hethrow Airport! Is cross culture marriage bad?
7 responses
@forgetfulgod (9)
• Canada
13 Apr 07
I think that culture, heritage, and ethnicity have very little to do with how we, as people, get along. To be honest our devotion to personal labels is a practice that has gone on for far too long. If we can get past our ideas of "who we are" or "what we are" and simply get down to the simple point where we are focussed on the fact that "we are" we will see a new type of relationship emerge in the world. We will see people meeting and working together under one common bond...that we all exist and we are all aware of ourselves. There is a very deep well that lies beneath our thoughts, our doubts, and our needs to define...there is a consciousness that does not see any differences or problems. Underneath it all we are all one mind...and we know it, we just have to stop distracting ourselves long enough to remember it.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
13 Apr 07
I agree no less forgefulgod, if every human being saw life from your perspective, what a beautiful thing this world would be for those surjourn it!
@brandonmagsino (639)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
is marriage across cultures bad? no, i would not say so. after all it is love that brought two worlds together, as they might say. i does not matter if you are white and she is black. love knows no boundaries. therefore, it is not bad. however, i would like to marry someone with the same culture/race.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
1 May 07
I agree absolutely brandonmagsino, in my country Uganda we have about 56 ethnic groups speaking different languages and enjoying very unique cultures-I happen to come from the North (Acholi tribe) of the country and my wife cmes from East(Karamojong tribe)we have no problem belonging to different cultures, our children speak mainly english and Acholi my tribe-they found it difficult to learn their mother's language because most of house maids were my tribesmen-but they are beginning to speak karamojong! We feel no problem about our different culturEs, infact we celebrate it!
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
13 Apr 07
Point taken MarkyB21, we are these kind over zealous newbie mylotians who are trying to learn, and in learning, you sometimes make mistakes,I am affraid, I misposted this discussion, but am sure you can understand, that am trying to learn! Thanks for the observation
@brandonmagsino (639)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
i would also like to add that marriages across cultures is not really that bad. who knows? the offspring of different cultures might look better than the original ones. if you know what i am trying to say. hehehe
@brandonmagsino (639)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
i would also like to add that marriages across cultures is not really that bad. who knows? the offspring of different cultures might look better than the original ones. if you know what i am trying to say. hehehe
@mom_of_two (2)
• United States
1 May 07
I don't think that it is bad at all. This all depends on the two lovers and how they really feel about each other. If there is love, why should you let you cultural and racial issues come between both of you, say if you felt that you were soulmates. I don't think that it is bad at all. If you marry within your culture/race, you're as normal as it gets, but even there are differences, such as beliefs, when you marry within your culture/race.
@AshleyHasan (1024)
• India
13 Apr 07
I have to say no to that because many cross culture marraiages in my county are settled and they are living very happy life, it depends on the individuals how they take it? If you love some one and if you are ready to do any thing for them and I think you should not go back just because of cross culture.It depends on how each individual will take that ... We should have understanding, trust & love between husband and wife and that is more than enough to lead happy life even in ups and downs, and I dont say you will not have any problems at all I am sure they will be some differences but love covers any thing and we will come out of it... Just try to understand your partner very well and lead a happy life.. I conclude stating that Cross Culture Marriages are also Good!
