Is it better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all? Why?

Well I would say that whilst it is true that if you have lost a loved one that there will be a scar, it is also true that by having met that person, you have grown as an individual, you have formed a bond and a relationship and you have shared experiences and in life's long path of learning that can only be a good thing. It is also the case that sometimes it is only by being with someone for a longer time that you are able to determine compatibilty, not just as lovers, I'm talking about friends too. If you then lose the loe or friendship then yes it will be initially hard because there will be a void in your life because all of the things that you used to do with that person will no longer happen. Therefore it is important to take time to learn from experiences and to move forward day by day. It is much better to have felt the love and closeness from someone than to be totally alone with no-one to turn to ever. I agree to some extent that if you haven't loved then potentially it is all still to come, however each of us could live our lives with that notion and who is to say that when it does eventually come, that we don't end up in the same place anyway. Grasp the love and generosity of those around you, and give back in equal amounts, it will make for a much more fulfilling and happy life for everyone. As for loss, each of us will deal with that in our own way, but it's better to have felt the love than nothing at all.

I have a friend who is almost 60, has never dated, has never known what it is to be in love with someone. He feels lonely, feels like he has missed out on something because he has never felt the joy of loving someone, of sharing those precious moments. I have been deeply in love with people and then they have left, for whatever reason, but I always have the memories of the good times we had together and I have felt those moments of love. (I am lucky in that I am now very happy and deeply in love with someone once again.) But I do feel that it is better to have loved and lost than to never know the job of being in love

Is it better to not marry because of the fear of breaking up?? Is it better to not drive the car because of the fear of accidents?? Is it better to not make friends because of the fear of loosing them??? Life is a journey, WE meet different people whom we like or not like.Many people come and leave their impressions in our life. We need to learn from all our rxperiences weather good or bad. Life cannot be judged by just one incident. If some one is the reason for a broken heart there are many to mend too. We just need do give life another oppertunity and live life with full satisfaction. After all, its not always that you will be borned Human! CHeerrrss!

The true meaning behind that saying is that it is better to have been open to love and put your heart out there, even if you may end up losing the one you love, then to live your life in fear and never love at all. If you have loved and maybe had your heart broken, then the next time, you will be more cautious, but it doesn't mean you will never love again. We always learn from our experiences, the good and the bad. If it hadn't been for some dumb guy breaking my heart, I may not know how truly lucky I am to have my husband right now.

i think it is beeter to have loved someone. we can learn manything in every relationship. We can learn many thing from every relationship. this can help us growth up in the sense of thinking and the dealing with problem. Please tell your friend to forget the past and trust her new boyfriend fully now. If the ending of this new realtionship is sad and unhappy. It doesn't matter because your friend had try the best and there are many guys are out there waiting to meet your friend.

well, i agree that it's better to have loved and lost, than not to have love at all! if you love someone and you lost him or her without any guilt feelings or you do no wrong in the relationship or even if you do commit some mistakes and you lost the one you love, then you or i can move on to another love, make it work and if not, then still move on and again make it work, until he/she will become your husband/wife for a blessed relationship in marriage...the things is, it's us, it's our own value system that can really help a love to grow stronger, and stronger each day! so love and be loved so that you will have kids as proof and "products" of that love!

For me if its a true love even if it has a tendency to become loss I will have that love for I know time will come that I will regret that moment if I will avoid that love. Love is not all about happiness or success relationship, suffering will always be there. New love can save you from that loss love and that loss love will teach you how to deal with that new love.

Its always better to have known or experienced something before we take a stand on it. Thius, I advice everyone who want to know or to pass a judgement on love, to tryfalling in love at least once! It may be worth it, or sometimes it may just leave you cold. Either ways you leave the game the wiser.

I don't know, samrat. A friend once told me, "to love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving." I prefer not to love at all though. :)

Honestly, I think I would have to say it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. Whilst it's true that losing a loved one leaves a scar, at least we know what it's like to have loved. I wouldn't want to grow old and die never having known what it's like to love someone. I can imagine that it must be a very lonely life. There is always that initial doubt when it comes to a new relationship after one broke up, but it's not really fair to compare or judge. A new relationship should signify a new beginning.

I think that to live means to experience things. If you live without experience, so what exactly did you do in your life? A part of being grown up is the ability to get over things, and learn from experiences. If what you learn is not to believe anyone anymore, than you learned nothing. I think, what you actualy learn is notice more details - details that might give you a truer view and analyzation of the world. If you are heart from a relationship, you should learn how to take responsibility and check what you did wrong, because you control your fate, and no other. It is so easy to say "he/she dumped me". That usualy gets you depressed, because there is nothing to do about it. If you choose to say "I probably did something wrong" - it doesn't matter if you did or not, you know next time you do better, try harder, etc. and make it work. Getting hurt is an opportunity. Not one of the nice one, but still is. An opportunity for a new experience in this life that were given to each of us. It all depends on how you take it...

Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood. Assumming you are right. Unless you do it you will never understand what it is to love someone.

I totally agree that its better to have love and lost, than never to have love at all. Fact is, many ended up broken-hearted but fact is, many also ended up living happily ever after. And when one don´t like to love at all and when he/she sees happy people together - the feeling of regret will surely set in, the "should have been´s" will be left unanswered -and one end up totally unhappy and may also start hating him/herself for not loving at all. To love and to lost the love is also part of the learning process -it simply belongs to the life in this world. Since we are only humans, the compatibility cannot be tested from first encounter with a press of a button. Our emotions are much too complex to understand but with time things will simply fall into place, unfortunately, at times not to our expectations -but then a second chance is always worth it, or a third when necessary...we simply need to love and be loved...

i think its better that way because as i have always believed when you love, you love with no less than 100% or you cont love at all. this means that when you end up getting hurt in the end yes you indeed have lost your all (100%) but when you wake the next day you will feel beeter somehow knowing that you have given it your all instead of waking up someday thinking, "what else could i have done"

Reframe the relationship in our mind. Rather than seeing the relationship as "the only one" where we could have received love, or could have known so much about each other, or felt the loving was so darn good and no other will compare, it is vital that we see the relationship in different light. No, they weren't "the one" -- if they were, it would have worked out far better than it did. What the relationship was, in fact, was a learning experience. What did we learn? How can we improve our lives as a result of the experience? What can I take into the next relationship that will be HEALTHY? There are many other people who we can connect with, many others who will love us right, and many who might treat us FAR better than we ever dreamed, and this relationship ending was simply a necessity in order to bring the NEW and exciting one in!

its always better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. for one thing, you are a more mature and cautious person than when you were a complete novice. you know better than to trust blindly and that means, second time you have a better chance of succeeding. secondly, love is such a wonderful feeling, even the pain of it is worth experiencing. unlucky are those people who have never known love in their life.

It is definately more nice to love and be loved even if you end up hurt. Love is something people need and I belive that the happiness it brings is worth all the tears afterwards. I was so hurt by my ex that my heart was closed for a long time afterwards - but eventually I started to remember the nice things about love and slowly allowed myself to live again. Now here I am - more inlove than ever... =)

We should experience love and don't be afraid of what the future will turn out to be because it's the greatest thing that God give us. We all deserve a second chance and even more chances..We just have to be brave to be in loved and loved other person that will show us what life is all about-LOVE..

yeah samrat one must try everything in this world which is legal i mean u are not going to be jailed ,heheheh,so is love ,and tell her to have faith in god if things went wrong first time doesn't mean it will be alwyas like that .tell her to trust her instincts and go ahead .

If you have never loved and lost, then you can't really know what you are missing. Coming from that perspective alone if I didn't know what i was missing, I'd say this is the best place to be...However, once you have loved and lost, you know both the pain and you learned something about yourself from it, then I say it's better to have loved and lost... But the pain outweighs the pleasure and the only thing you learned was pain, then perhaps it would have been better to have never loved at all..