Trusting others

Hello Sigma77, I will admit that I rely wholly on my gut instinct or intuition when it comes to meeting strangers. There have been times when I ignored my own perception and judgement, and usually regretted it. So, I've learned to pay attention. Rather than giving a stranger the benefit of the doubt, I instead remain genuinely open to evaluating the person. As long as I remain free of judgement when I first meet a person, then whatever impressions or assessments I make about the person will be entirely based on how the stranger speaks and acts. And, it's my experience that between body language and verbal language, a stranger will reveal much about who they are. Although it doesn't happen often, there are times when assessing a person positively doesn't quiet the intuitive alarm that goes off deep inside of me. When that happens I will always trust my instict over learned evaluation skills. Maybe intuition is actually a spirit guide, guardian angel, or some other benevolent influence. I cannot say. What I do know is that when I've ignored that alarm, it's never been a positive experience.

I have been hurt beyond belief so many times, by very close family and friends and stangers. However, I still trust people to a point. I have found that I am afraid to be myself completely with everyone. I can only be me with a handful of people. I suppose that is a way of guarding myself. I tend to be a little hermit too. + rating for you again my friend. Good posting. Bless you.

I'm afraid from bitter past experiences I have lost my trust in folks unless I know them very well .. Anyone new has to work very hard to get me to trust them .. and even then I wouldn't be 100% sure .. Sometimes the folks you feel you should trust least are actually the most trustworthy though ..

I am with you I am totally too trusting of other people but I have a big heart and to be trusted you have to trust so in my conclusion yes I do trust the other person and as usual I get burnt in the process

I'm trusting to a point. I've had alot of people betray me in my life and growing up..even my parents. So I'm sure that's the reason that I'm not quick to trust anyone. I have a select few people that I would trust my life with and any secret I may have, but beyond them...trust has to be earned. I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt when they make a mistake, but I'm always on the defensive if I feel that instinct. I've also always been pretty good at reading people, I don't know why, but I'm pretty good at it, and first impressions are big with me and stay with me forever!

I think I give a degree of trust to new people I have never met, then depending on how well I get on with them will then decide how much more or little trust I give them, However in some situations I cannot trust anyone else other than myself, however hard I try.

I've had trust issues since I was a kid. Every time I thought I could trust someone, I got screwed over in a big way that really hurt. It made it hard to trust. Since only females seemed to screw me over, I ended up having more male friends (long story). Now, I've been screwed over by enough men too, so there is no more "bias" as far as I'm concerned. I'd just like to have friends period, whehter male or female, I just want people, besides my hubby, sister and parents that I can trust and talk to about things. I don't think it's too much to ask, do you?

I too find it easy to trust others. Sometimes I get taken advantage of as a result of my trusting nature but I try really hard to not let those people who take advantage of me to ruin the trust that I have for others. Once in awhile, I will meet someone and immediately get the feeling that I sould not trust them. This feeling does not come often but when it does, I trust the feeling.

I have to admit that I do have trust issues. It's hard for me to trust anybody specially if I'm in a new relationship. I've always believed that trust is earned. I think maybe it's because I really don't want to risk trusting anybody because I'm too afraid of getting hurt. Or maybe it's my training as an auditor. We were always thought to have some sort of skepticism about our clients' records.

I don't find it to difficult to trust others. ya i form my openoin about the person from very right i can conclude wether is is trust worth or not after few dealings ,conversations.

It's not easy to trust others, especially for person whom i've just known a couple of months..i need long time till i can put my trust to others..i had bad experience before and don't wanna do it again.I do,taking risks sometimes to trust others whom i not know very well..i don't form my opinions from the start..sometimes person who know us well could misuse our trust..so,i just give then chance to prove that they are worth to be trust..Let the time and deeds speak and prove which person can be trust..

I use to be much more trusting of others then I am now..I always look behind my back to make sure no one is trying to stick me..you know what I mean? I've been let down so many times that it is hard..but there are a few people that I totally trust because they have never given me a reason to doubt them

I've been burned so many times in my short life that I find it very difficult to trust. And, when I do trust and let my guard down, I end up getting burned again. I don't know why this continues to happen to me and I tend to wonder if it's holding me back in my career, family efforts and relationships with friends. Do I trust enough to push forward with my career? Do I trust enough to speak my mind openly to my family? Do I trust enough to stop letting friends walk all over me. I'm afraid the answers to these questions, as of today, are no.

Trust on others is basic for human life. We will be trusting many in our daily lifes. so in my opinion, trust is just like breathing in life. But the thing is who should you trust. The person you trust should be trustworthy, meaning, a person whom you know is loyal and can be trusted. blind trust will not help.

How to explain this... It depends on the vibe I get from people, I've learnt that when I'm wary inside it's normally right. I can easily trust anyone. (depends what) But once lost I'm not one to "re-trust" it's lost the first time around. So normally I will, doesn't mean I won't forgive mistakes either but I can't believe a known liar. ~Joey

I also tend to trust others by default based on the principle that people are good in essence and the bad are only exceptions. Also, I don't think that life is so pleasant for people who do not trust others. It must not be much fun to keep worrying about being betrayed.

Hello,sigma, I found myself tend not to trust guys, may be it is because of my bad experience, i was cheated by my ex-boyfriend before,that is why i will be very careful in trusting someone.I think it is not good and i should change it or i will be single forever. I have no problems in trusting ladies, may be I did not have any bad experience of being cheated by ladies.

It is not easy to trust in people,but you have two option: 1)to not trust and you will never be hurt...but you will never be happy and you will not be able to see th e light... 2)to trust in person you love ans to give to others a little confidence to see what happened...you will be the most happy person from the world...trust me... No doubt is not easy to trust,but you will live for nothing keeping people at distance... augusta