why do people think i do not have a life

Actually, I don't understand why they think that you do not have a life either. I believe that you do. Living should not be generalized. Because one's opinion about having a good life will surely be somehow different from others'. I think that doing what you love to do is having a great life and if you love what you're doing, why would you look for something else? I know grandparents love taking care of their grandchildren and great grandchildren and sometimes, the only reason that they still want to live is because they want to take care of them and watch them grow. I think you should just tell them that you appreciate their concern but you love what you have now, and what you are doing.

hey if you are enjoying your life then what they want you to do is just something they will have to deal with ...let me tell you my kids and grandkids are my life ...I have three girls ...28 18 and a 2 ...lol yes thats a two ...and i havce three grandkids and I love all my kids and they are my life ... I wouldn't have it any other way ...in fact my nephew just moved here with his two kids and now i get to be Aunt too and help pick they kids up form school if they are sick or form daycare if neded ...beside we all needed some help when we were younger trying to raise a family and work so its a great thing you are doing by helping out too ...you rock ...!!! :D

Firstly welcome to mylot group and wish you more and more happiness in life and also with mylot forum.your friends might be thinking that upto now you have helped your daughter,her kids,and now to grandboys.Have you talked to your husband? is he happy?To give time for husband or wife is very much important becuse they are life partners.Pl think. Anyway if you are enjoying the present life then just enjoy it.Once again good wishes.

If you enjoy spending all this time with your grandchildren, then what's so wrong with that being "your life"? As long as you are doing something that makes you happy, then it really doesn't matter what others think.

Although my parents were loving and very involved with us kids, my grandparents were always extremely important in our lives. Whatever changes and turmoil my parents may have gone through in their lives, my grandparents provided a constancy and foundation, a feeling of security regardless of circumstances. I'm happy and honored to provide the same things now for my granddaughter (she's 2). And, yes, I hear from the naysayers that I am doing "too much" or I'm "too involved." My husband and I are happiest when she is here and worry when she is not - hey, who's gonna take care of her better than grandma?:-) Like my granddaughter says "I'm a big girl but I'm Granma's baby!" So, if you're happy and your husband's happy, keep doing what you do. I truly believe that kids keep you young and smiling and there are things that only a grandparent can give.

I think some grandparents don't enjoy spending alot of time with their grandchildren and they would prefer to be out doing whatever it is that interest them. I think if you enjoy what you are doing in your life it doesnt really matter what anyone else thinks.

If you enjoy doing that don't pay any attention to what people say. My husband is 63 and I am 57 and we help our son and his wife out with their three children. I see nothing wrong with doing that. We believe that if our son needs our help by us watching his kids we do it and love it. Just because your kids move out doesn't mean that is the end of it. The kids are very well behaved. We get the grandkids one Friday night a month so mom and dad can spend some special time together without the kids there. Our son has three kids and I think he and his wife deserve some time to themselves. I say go for it if you enjoy it.

I really feel great about you as your helping your daughter and looking after their kids.Actually my grandma never ever looked at us when we were kids and my mom say that she had a tough time in looking all three of us.Your daughter is very lucky to have a mom like you.Dont feel for others comments.keep going..

I think you were born to help others. Everyone has a purpose in life and you are fullfiling yours. So, indeed you do have a life and you are living up to your purpose. If it makes you happy to do these things, then what others say are of no concern to you.