Someone called my child stupid

Thats a really hard one. Did you know this other parent very well. I dont know your daughter but I have a son who is 3 almost 4 now he tends to tell stories(nothing like that) buut if I was in your position I think I would have a really hard time with it not knowing for sure because I wasnt there cuz you were gone when it happened the best thing to do is just reassure and incourage your daughter. I think another problem will stem from it when the 2 little friends start missing each other! Good luck with that one.

that is absolutely terrible. Why would an adult say something like that to a child. I honestly cannot believe that someone could do that.

OMG, you showed amazing restraint. What a horrible, horrible human being to say such a thing to a child. And she is obviously lying. No child can lie about that sort of thing. the lie of a three year old is going to be fairy tale like lies. "Who broke this dish?" "The man in the moon came down and tossed it to the ground when I wouldn't play with him." My son used that one. I'm not certain if I could have been as good as you were. Kudos to you. Now you have to work on your daughter. Try going over various little school things with her. Letters and numbers are always good. Don't bring up the episode again, but when she recognizes the letter A for instance, tell how smart that is and how great she is doing. She is very young and she will not remember this incident later. I know you will never forget. But big people are so intimadating for such small people. They believe what they are told by bigger people. You are a good mom and your truth will shine through. As I said, don't bring it up again, but reinforce how smart she is. Seems that this mother was jealous because your daughter said she wanted to be something that takes a lot of education. My son was picked on by his peers because he wanted to be a palientolgist(spelling) but we expect that from kids, not from parents. He is a paleantologist, now, at the age of 20. Your daughter wants to be a vet. Your daughter is smart. Good for her and good for you for being a great mom. I have 5 kids. If you ever need any imput, not advice because I am still learning too, let me know. I'll be glad to help anyway I can.

OMG! I think I would have throttled that woman!!! What a mean woman! You are the way better person for not yelling, cuz I know I sure would have!!!

Oh wow how did you ever handle that woman without mishandling her? You have a lot of patience I think, I don't think I would have even been calm enough to talk to her sanely I would have asked her apologise to my daughter for calling her stupid & a liar and asked her get out of my home first! Oh dear tell your baby that she is intelligent and if she wants to be a vet she most certainly can do it, coax her to keep talking to you about her dreams and aspirations and keep boosting her morale!I do not know how close the little girls are as friends but I would most certainly not allow any child of mine around that inept lady. I wonder why people are so immature & insensitive. 3 year olds are such tender, impressionable kids.

That women is more crazy than a drunk sick retard dog! OMG how can she say that a 3 years old child could lie! The child at that age doesn't even know what true and lie really is! Its incredible how idiots can some people be! That woman is dangerous, if she did that, just think how many things she can do and probably did ! You really must convince your child that she can do whatever she wants! Beeing a vet is much more cool than being an actress! And remember never, but never, leave your child with someone u don't trust, even if u do trust that person, u don't know what your child could learn from those, protect your'e child !

I feel that your daughter is intelligent enough to to give answer that she wantsto becomea veterinarian. You forget about the neighbourer, and concentrate on improving your daughter's knowledge. Teach her how to behave in public when such situations arise in future.That is teach her to be polite unlike the lady. I feel that the lady who said that your child is stupid is the real stupid woman, not knowing how to handle a small child.

ohhh!! i would have fought with my every being nott o knock them woman out!! thats just rediculous and just wrong! What the hell is wrong with that woman?!! Seriously?? I wouldnt ever let my daughter over there ever again as well..Just tell your girl that the woman is very wrong and was being mean and you dont know why..and that she can be anything her little heart wants to be..and just to follow her dreams and that you will be theer for her no matter what it is she wants to be..:)

That is so awful. She is such a horrible woman. You were right to do what you did. I believe she is jealous of your child. A child saying she wants to be a veterinarian, that's a big word. Kids her age would perhaps use the word animal doctor. You know what's good? Your child proving to her that she's better than her child.

This infuriates me as well. Why in the world would you say that to a child. That is too crazy. People don't reallize how that affects children. Keep her away from that family. It sounds like that lady doesn't like your child. Who knows what will go on if you left her for long periods of me

All you got to do now is convince your daughter that she is not stupid. Don't ever listen to other's people said, they just don't know how she really is. She needs to believe in herself that she can do anything she want. And that her dream is possible. With you as her mom, i think she will be just fine. For that mother that called your daughter stupid, well i guess you got to stop seeing her. That kind of mother just didn't know to respect other's people opinion.

that seems quite stunning. i think you should not let your child go to meet people who are like that. any how teach yor child and do not get upset. your child will forget this in due corse of time,

as a adult haven't enough reason blame child, becuase children's world are naive!!

Wow, this is a tough one...I guess the best thing would be just to not associate with them at all anymore. Perhaps, you could take her to an actual vet clinic and ask them if your daughter can have a look around? Or, take her to a friend's house who have animals and ask that mother secretly to tell your daughter that she'd make a great vet.

im sorry for your daughter having to go through that, but people sometimes dont think before they speak.

What a horrible thing to break someone's dream at such a young and delicate age!! I know your child could not have lied because there would be no reason for it. If I were you, I would always keep my child in sight if she ever had to be near that woman again. To help her feel better and be more confident, you can take her to a place she likes like the zoo (I'm guessing she likes animals). Maybe she can go to a petting zoo where she can pet and interact safely with some cute animals. Her dream of being a veterinarian could grow stronger. I hope she forgets those mean words soon.

That woman needs help! How dare she call your daughter stupid, and a liar! I would not be letting my daughter around her anymore, life is hard enough as you get older without somone around insulting you and putting you down when your three!!! I know this from experiance but it was my mother who would say these kind of things. My son who was two at the time went to walk under the table and bumped his head as he didn't duck enough. My mother piped up and says " what is he an idiot." If looks could kill my husbands look would have killed her on the spot! Another time we told her how the child nurse said he was a genltle sesitive boy ( he was three now) and she looked at him and said " in other words he's a sook." If we ever say something she was only joking and we should learn to take a joke. She no longer see's us or our son.

Hahaha! That mother is more stupid! Why should she do that to a child! A child is innocent and have no idea about lieng. It's just right that you confront stupid moms like her!

Sorry to hear that.How can a adult say such hurtful words to a shild who's only 3.I think the most important thing you should now is to comfort the little girl and encourage her.Anybody has the right to decide what to work on when they become grown-ups.And nobody can laugh at others' work,they haven't the right to do that.

WOW, I cannot believe that woman would call your 3 year old stupid. I feel horrible.. and little children do not lie.