okey let us react on this!!!

Philippines
April 8, 2007 7:51pm CST
Ok I am NOT here to start a fight. I am NOT here to start a war between Men & Women. I would just like to know how Men & Women would react to this. You are out shopping at a mall. and you see a Husband and a Wife they are mad at each other. all of a sudden you see the Wife HIT her Husband. he didn't do anything to desreve being hit. would you say anything to the Wife or Just walk away? Ok now think the same couple. BUT this time the Husband hits his Wife again she didn't desreve it What would you do? say something to the Husband or Just walk away?
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
I just walk away..i'm not in a position to intervene especially if idon't know the reason of hitting. If the one who was hitted didn't react, why should i? I would better call security if i saw things like these.
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@aribaba (366)
• Indonesia
18 Apr 07
I agree with You, if that happened, no matter who's hitting who. i am not in charge and don't have right to interfere with their fight. more over if they were man and wife. it's all absolutely their business. I'll just try to walk away instead. i don't wanna dragged to their business.
• United States
9 Apr 07
I of course do not condone the hitting of anyone in a replationship. But.... how do you know he did not look at another girl or say something awful to her? It is hard to say he did nothing because you do not know the whole story, although I think that nothing he could have done would entitle her to hit him, just as nothing she could do would entitle him to hit her.
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
9 Apr 07
Neither case is acceptable..... But nine times out of ten people will just walk on by. Nobody ever wishes to get involved in anything anymore and see most things as not being their problem. I would be more inclined to step in and say something if a man hit a woman more than the other way round. Most definitely. Even though neither situation is acceptable a man hitting a woman is far worse than a woman hitting a man in my opinion.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I dont condone either and its really not my place to say anything. I would probably walk away and hope to God that it doesn't get worse for either of them i.e. punching match or something.
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• Canada
9 Apr 07
I honestly think I would walk away. It's not my place to get involved in something that may have been ongoing since before they arrived at the Mall. If they are having an argument and then they start fighting properly with punches and kicks and everything, then I would call for security, but I would not get involved if it was just a slap around the face.
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
i agree with u, eventhough i saw them in that situation, im not in position to interfere with what they are up to...and besides, i dont know them personally to get involved with their argument,
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• Philippines
9 Apr 07
If im going to witness that two incidents, re: woman hitting the man or man hitting the woman, i think its not my business to mendle with that one especially if they are husband and wife. its their own problem, but if i see that its too much, i can call the police or the guards but i wont go in there.
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 07
I'll just walk away, coz I don't think it's right for anyone else to interfere in others' relationship issues, unless it's until 'violent' issue, then perhaps outsiders need to stop the violence. No matter how, I don't think anyone is deserved for a hit, especially in relationship.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
6 May 07
I think I would report a case of domestic violence in either case, ButI would not interfere, I have seen many people interfere in a domestic violence case and both of them turn on the person who inter-feared, I do not believe that people should argue or fight in public, but in some areas it has become a national sport.
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• United States
9 Apr 07
Unless there's a blood spill -- hehe -- I won't do anything about it. Why? Because it's none of my business. The couple should resolve their issues among themselves. Besides, I don't know the whole story behind the fight, so I guess if the situation is turned around, and me and my husband are fighting or having a heated argument in the mall, I wouldn't want anyone to intervene with our affairs, too. If the fight is affecting a lot of people in the mall, then it's a threat to security, then the security office has to be called in order to intervene. If the people are close to me and I know their issues, I might just try to calm them down, but still try to make them fix their differences. I wouldn't try to side on the woman (my own gender) or my own relative because that would show bias. Happy myLotting!
• United States
9 Apr 07
I do not condone spousal abuse no matter which party is doing the hitting. Now I don't even know this couple and in each case one or the other is hitting. I don't know anything about the situation. The most I would do is tell the security guard and let them handle it. Now if you had said it was a couple that I was friends with I definitely would intervene. This kind of behavior solves nothing. Talking things out works a whole lot better.
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@anonymili (3138)
29 Apr 07
I highly suspect I would walk on by regardless if a man hit a woman or vice versa, mostly because of an incident a few years ago when out with my cousin and brother and a man was violently shaking hi girlfriend who was swearing at him. We asked if everything was ok and did she need any help and she turned around and started swearing at us and threw a bottle (luckily it missed us) and told us to mind our own business. The guy she was with was laughing his head off the whole time she shouted at us. I decided not to intefer with couples squabbling after that incident! Some people get off on that kind of behaviour maybe, I don't know!
@Makoy1983 (1084)
• Philippines
30 Apr 07
if its done only once, i would not intervene whether the one being hit is the husband or the wife. but if it is done continuously and ending up beating up the other half, i might intervene.
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@winjzz (157)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 07
Hmm, i need to know a few factors first, how hard did the husband/wife hit in both examples? Is it a punch? A powerful slap? Backhand chop? Karate chop? Or just a spank? In context to conditions in my country, a physical contact amounting to bruisings or injuries is amounting to assault. If its just a minor spank, perhaps either party wants to reprimand the other? There was a case here, where an angry middle age mum lay the beatdown on her cheating husband in public and she was charged for causing a ruckus in public. Therefore, if its a punch i would remind them that what he or she is doing is making me an involuntary witness which i would have no part of it if mr.cop saw it and charge either party for causing a ruckus.
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• United States
10 Apr 07
When I see a couple fight I do nothing unless I feel someone is in danger. Then I would just call the cops. If you interfere then you'll either get beat up or thrown in jail or both. I know this from expeirence.
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• United States
10 Apr 07
well let me see..i would try and do something..I am usually with my son..hes 4.,.and if i saw the woman hit the man..i would say very loudly..see that..you never hit anyone no matter how mad you are! That is just bad!and give her a mean glare..and if it was the man..i have a little fear..because of my past so i wouldnt be as verbal//but i would go and tell a manager or someone..i dont put up with violence anymore,,not me..not for no one.,.
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@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
11 Apr 07
I will definately say this sentence: "Your behaviour is anti-social as well as anti-domestic! Please stop!" For both the option you have mentioned!
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
How i wish, we can react and give them a word for the both situations if ever we saw it.But they have their own life and reasons why that happens.I guess, i will better walk away,because i dont have the right to say anything to them.Except if they are my friends or close to me.
• United States
9 Apr 07
It would depend on how close I was and how hard the hit was. If I was very close and it was just a little smack I'd be tempted to walk by and tell them to grow up or take it outside, no matter who was doing the hitting. If it was a genuine hard hitting punch, by either, I would call security. Too many kids in a mall that don't need to see things like that. I don't want to see it either. I don't believe in hitting anyone other than protecting yourself or someone from serious harm. I must admit though, my first reaction would be to get much angrier at a man hitting a woman only because I've been on the receiving end of more than my share of punches from men. But I don't want to see it happen to anyone.
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• Malaysia
18 Apr 07
Wife hits husband- I'll walk away shaking my head. Husband hits wife- I'll call the security. If the wife is injure, i will call the ambulance. Simple, because Men are stronger than Women, their hit could badly injured the wife.
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
9 Apr 07
It would depend on the circumstances, but even if I did not step in or say something myself I would get hold of the manager, security, etc. However, my hubby on the other hand would probably step in if it started to escalate, as he is in law enforcement
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