that is my story with anger .

I used to have a real problem with anger and I think the best thing to do is learn how to tell people that you are angry with them in a calm way and learn to understand the specific things that make you flare up so you cna learn to avoid it or work on it.

lamiaa here we are again. My friend there is nothing wrong with you trust me. Tell me which person in the entire world does not have anger problem? Come on if you really have the tendence to get angry easily is only you and not medicine and not terapy which can make you cool down. If you get angry, if you cool down, if you want to eat an ice cream is only because you and no one else can decide for your self. So for me you are a nice girl. Remember we are all bad and all nice at the same time.

It would seem that your doctor was only trying to clam you or give you a method you could do it for yourself. This does not address the problem however. Something in your past has left you angry. Until you know what that is or can work it out you will continue to be angry. Anger is truly only a problem if you can't control it. But that I mean you get so angry that you do physical harm....either to objects or other people. This kind of anger is a real problem and would sooner or later get you in major trouble. I do hope your doctor is working with you to find the cause of it. Not easy for sure but necessary to find.

I think your doctor is telling you the right thing, though maybe not enough information that you can use this to help. Picturing something calming or peaceful in your mind's eye while you take several looooong, slooow breaths can be very helpful to stop anger from consuming you. Take 3 or 4 deep breaths, all the way down to your belly, very slowly, it will send more oxygen to your brain to help you control anger. While you breath, think of your calm place, or picture, anything that will soothe you. I don't think you will ever become the calm girl in the corner, unless you know why you have so much anger, and find a way to let it go. You can still have a good life if you don't, but you will be happier if you can release the anger. Good luck! Be well!

Ever try figuring out what caused the anger in the first place? Lets face it you weren't born with it! Yes thinking of something calm can help but it won't get to the reason of the anger. From reading the other responses and your responses to them, you wwere saying that you go silent when you get angry, don't talk. That is very dangerous to your health and you will start to notice it soon if you don't find another way to deal with it. I can help with that as well, you can private message me after you have accepted my add invite and we can talk about it.

The Doctor's answer makes me angry! He is only giving you a patch not a solution. He is not even trying to get to the root of your anger.