would you give up your relationship if....?
By KupoSin
@KupoSin (680)
United States
April 8, 2007 9:50pm CST
"I rather see you smiling than to see you crying with me."
I have once said this to a girl i liked...
Woudl you give up your potential relationship with someone if you are almsot certain she wont be happy with you? or would you still ask her out and see how things will turn out? what if she was like your best friend, would you reconsider asking her out?
this thought just entered my mind as i looked back onto my past with her. what would you do?
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4 responses
@darcylynn234 (57)
• United States
9 Apr 07
I would give the girl up, you seem like a great guy who would rather see the girl smile. Down the road if she's not happy, you will not be either. She will eventualy regret loosing such a wonderful person.
@natalie1981 (1995)
• Singapore
9 Apr 07
Excuse me for saying this but if my boyfriend told me that sorry a** line, I'd probably knock him on the jaw. Why would you make that decision for her? Are you certain that she's not really happy? Who are you to judge what's happiness to her. If you're trying to be unselfish, DON'T. Just be honest. If a girl really loves you, you'll only make her feel worst by saying that because she would feel like it's her fault. Relationships are full of hardships and tears. It's a work in progress. I have so many fights with my boyfriend, I've cried countless of times but I love him. And I know I made him cry a couple of times but that wouldn't make me say that. I want us to work on our relationship because if you give up on a relationship because you make your partner cry, then you wouldn't have any long term relationship. Even Marriages have this problem. Just my two cents.
@jenalyn (675)
• United States
9 Apr 07
It would depend on why it would be certain that they would be unhappy with me. If there was something I could do to change the relationship into a happy one, then I would do what I could. If there was nothing I could do to make a difference on them being happy with me, then I would leave them alone. I would not want anyone to be with me and have to be unhappy to be with me. I am not selfish. I would never want someone else to suffer so I could be happy.
@desimanero (419)
• United States
9 Apr 07
As i once told my EX....i rather be unhappy on my own then to be with someone that makes me unhappy.I stayed in a 7 yr relationship where i wasnt happy and it took a very big emotional toll on me.If i wouldve ended it years ago then i wouldnt have so many insecurities and issues.So i say if you know shes ganna be unhapy then dont do that not only to her but to yourself cuz eventually the rekationship will end and by then feelings will be involved and it will just be a mess.
