frustrated with handling kids?

Oh my god i go throught this everyday.My son is 2 and he is so naughty.He understands me but he he choses not to listen.Instead he talks (gibberish) back or he spits r he hits or whatever.I get real frustrated cuz i dont believe in hitting kids so i have to just caiunt to 10 :)I find that outting him in time out for like 5 minutes in his crib works sometimes and just holding him.When he gets mad he gets out of control tantrums.Ive noticed that hoding him and talking to him works a hell of alot more the yelling at him

There were many times before I went back to work in February that I was finding myself snapping at my children a lot, especially my 7 year old. She'd act like she didn't understand the homework, when it'd be something similar to what she'd brought home the previous day, and we'd fight badly. She'd end up in tears, and I'd end up walking away with a huff, because I couldn't seem to get thru to her. It saddened me, and I didn't know what to do about it. Finally though, when I went back to work, I found that I had more patience to deal with her, and used that to help her with things. Otherwise, nothing's really changed but that.

it's really frustrating when kids just ignore you, when they just keep on whatever they're doing. But kids are like that they're busy on what occupies their mind, their toys, their playmates, their friends on the phone. But I'd learned somehow to understand them gradually and they too had learn to adjust to what I tell them about listening. It's a gradual thing of letting them know of a give and take situation between us parents and kids.

I love my children more than I love anyone else, including myself, but sometimes they can sure enought be quite a handful. My youngest is only thirteen months, so he has not really gotten to the point, where he can frustrate me, but my oldest son, who is 4 1/2, he can give me quite a great amount of grief at times. I use the time outs, and they seem to work well. However, whenever my husband has been off from work a day or two, I usually have to stat all over with implementing the time outs, because he is not consistent, and my son quickly picks up on that. If my son frustrates me to the point where I feel like pulling out my hair then I often suggest that he goes to his room to play with his lego, his geomac or draw, or I ask him to go outside to play in his sandbox. Sometimes the best thing to do is to get some distance from the situation before it spins out of control.

i love my 3 kids with all my heart but my 8 year old will not listen to me at all, his dad and i are divorced and i have been with the same man for 4 years now and we have 2 kids togther and my ex will not let up on me he has my 8 year old cuss me out and treat me bad, i dont know what to do or where to turn i feel he needs help but his dad who he now lives with doesnt feel he needs help..anyone got any ideas on how to get him to stop...

Yes I feel frustrated, when they do not listen to me and do as i say... I am trying to avoid spanking them. But everything seems to be a mess. I do not have a nanny to watch over them. I want to teach them to be independent and act according to their age. I sometimes do not mind whatever they are complaining about. I just listen. 'Coz if I give in I know eventually I will just be yelling and they will still not listen.